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Sunday, September 08, 2024

Blogiversary Guest Posts! The Complete List

For the last twenty weeks, I've had guest posts on my blog leading up to my big anniversary celebration. I feel so much gratitude for each of these people who took the time and made the effort to write these posts. I love that my readers got to hear all these different voices on my blog and hopefully all of my readers have found at least one new blog to follow (and love!).  Huge thanks to all these wonderful contributors! The amount of time each of these posts took to put together cannot be understated and I truly appreciate how much time everyone spent from emailing me back and forth to actually writing the thing to collating photos for it. 

I have learned so much from doing this project. When I originally sent out emails in April, I was so surprised when not a single person said no to my request. I mean, it was a big ask! Twenty is a lot of things and these posts were a lot of work. I was shocked by the responsiveness and how excited everyone seemed to be about doing it. Doing this has really reiterated to me that my blog space is  quite important to me and this blogging community is a vital part of everything. 

Anyway, here are the final twenty guest posts and what I learned/will remember from each of them!

#20: 20 Questions by Dr. BB - Here I learned that my husband was first attracted to my tshirt and jeans look. Huh. I sort of wonder what he thinks these days when I think denim is a bad word!

#19: 20 Favourite Horror Books by Allison - I have a serious dearth in my horror knowledge. So many books here for my TBR!

#18: 20 Random Things About Feelings by TJC - My IRL friends are so supportive of this weird blogging thing I do even though they are all better writers than I am. TJC's hilarious and unhinged post* is a reminder that I am so lucky and honored to be surrounded by such talented people. (*quote from Allison)

#17: 20 Things about Being a Doctor's Wife by Suzanne - Suzanne sometimes forgets she's amazing and super important to everyone!!

#16: 20 Things I'm Grateful For by Kaelyn - Kae's grateful for her challenging volunteer role. I should probably learn something from that instead of being so bitter about mine. :) 

#15: 20 Things about Me and What I Blog About by Birchwood Pie Project - Birchie is a wizard in the kitchen, but we knew that already!

#14: 20 Favorite Mantras/Motivational Quotes by San - San says athletes don't exercise and diet, but they train and fuel. Well, I'm clearly NOT an athlete because I 100% exercise.

#13: 20 Places I Have Been (and Loved) in France by J - You can still get bad food in France. J assures us of this fact. 

#12: 20 Operas That I Love by Diane - There's an opera set in an animal shelter. And some opera requires a live horse on the stage. Diane's life is so different from mine. 

#11: Knit-Read-Cats-Hockey by CCR - CCR claims you can knit a sock inside another sock. Simultaneous sock-making! Witchcraft!

#10: Top Twenty (er - Twenty Four) Favourite Things to See/Do in Nova Scotia by Elisabeth - Elisabeth wrote about the Bay of Fundy and my supervisor then went on a vacation and talked about how cool it was and I was able to contribute to the conversation!

#9: Wayback Machine to 2004 by Anne - Anne used to run, eat meat, and she didn't even live remotely near me!

#8: Insights on Being Single in Your 30s by Stephany - Stephany is worried that a partner might steal her snacks. This has never once been a problem in my world. I literally think about this fact at least once a week and it never fails to make me giggle to myself when I'm reaching for my favorite snack in the cupboard. 

#7: 20 Ways Blogging Has Made My Life Better by Lisa - Lisa knits!! Her blog name refers to knitting, not telling of tales. My mind is blown.

#6: 20 Madison Things She Can't Live Without by Sarah - Dream parks in Madison suburbs! I had no idea they were there and now I know exactly where to take my small human friends when they come to visit. Thanks to Sarah for that find.

#5: 20 Running Favorites by Jenny - Jenny regularly sees wildlife on her runs, but doesn't always tell us about it!

#4: Poetry 101 by Maya - I now follow the Instagram account Poetry is Not a Luxury on Maya's recommendation and I stop to reflect on a poem whenever I see one now. A tiny bit of puzzlement/beauty/reflection on a regular basis. 

#3: Best Reread Books by Nicole - Nicole rereads a lot more than I do, but A Little Princess will always bring us together. 

#2: 20 Interesting Places to Visit by Kyria - We all want to go to Slovenia because Kyria sold it so well.

#1: The Top 20 Ideas for a Top 20 Post that I Considered Making about NGS by Bestest Friend - Bestest Friend still holds a grudge about that blinking red light thing.

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Some facts about this blog:

  • My first post was published on September 8, 2004. In it I complained about allergies. I do not recommend reading my really old archives.
  • I have recorded so many milestones on this blog from starting dating my husband to getting engaged to getting married, jobs and more jobs, moving, adopting first Zelda and then Hannah, buying our house, and every thing in between. Most especially the mundane things like how many scarves I own, what's in our linen closet, and how much I spend on beauty products
  • I have published on the blog at least once a month since that first post. 
  • I have published over 3300 posts and have had roughly 22,000 comments published, which is shocking since hardly anyone ever commented at all for many, many years.
  • Over a quarter of the posts I've published have been about books, which is by far the largest label on the blog.
  • I've participated in several blogging challenges over the years, including writing descriptions of people in my life in 45 words for a year, writing every day for a year (June 2014 - June 2015 and November 2022 - November 2023), and NaBloPoMo 2020-2024. 
  • I have run three editions of Cool Bloggers Book Club (CBBC) - A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, My Brilliant Friend, and I Capture the Castle. I'll try to run another one in February or March. 
  • In the last couple of years I have met up with several bloggers IRL: Anne, Kaelyn, Kyria, Birchie, and Maya. If you're ever in southwestern Wisconsin, let me know. I'm always up for an adventure.
  • For the reviewing of popular culture I do on this blog, only two times have content creators chimed in. I had reviewed a podcast about a missing girl and suggested that I was uncomfortable with the podcast naming the suspect who had never been charged and the sister of the missing girl wrote a comment saying she was unhappy with my review. I stand by my review. Also, everyone knows that Sara O'Leary commented on my review of The Ghost in the House and thank goodness that was a positive review because otherwise I would have felt horrible. I hope Stephen King never reads my blog. 
  • I have made a slight modification that you might be interested in. I have added a Blog Roll to my header (up top) because there have been so many issues with Feedly recently. I will be using that Blog Roll to check blogs from here on out like an old person because I feel like I can't trust the RSS feeds. If you have a blog and I haven't added you to the list, LET ME KNOW. I am, as you all know, sometimes not as detail-oriented as I should be. Also, if you are on the list and the link is wrong, let me know. I promise I'll fix it all ASAP. You can email me directly with the widget on the right sidebar. 
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And that is a wrap on this anniversary project.

Sincerest thanks to all of you who wrote a guest post, all of you who read all the silly lists I've written in the last week, and to all of you who make this community happen. I'll be back to publishing about books, Hannah's inconsistent training, and what new adventures in software have come my way.

Sunday, September 01, 2024

20th Anniversary Countdown: Guest Post #20

In celebration of my blog's 20th anniversary, I've been having guest posters every week leading up to the big day. You may remember that a while back I asked all of you to submit questions you might have for my husband. I anonymized the questions, reordered them, and today you'll be getting answers to those very questions. Thanks to everyone who asked questions!

About a week ago, I spent approximately five minutes writing what I thought his answers might be, so those answers are in brackets after his responses. 

Without further ado, here is Dr. BB!

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Marriage 

1. What did you first notice about Engie? 

I could point to a lot of things that I love about Engie that would make me look really sweet and charming – her unassuming brilliance, the fact that she is the only person I’ve ever met who literally dances like no one is watching, etc. – but it took me a while to discover all of that. The honest answer? She was wearing a tight-ish t-shirt and some hip-hugging flared jeans and I didn’t stand a chance.  

[My response: That I was not Black. I think everyone thought I was going to be a Black woman until I showed up.]

[Note from NGS: Fourth of July, 2005 - We went to the fireworks downtown. One of the earliest photos of us together. You can read a very vague recounting of this outing on this very blog.]

2. What are your best and worst qualities as a husband? 

I’m midwestern, so “best” is tricky. Engie would say that I am funny, but this is not a universally agreed upon assessment! I think my best husband quality is that I am just really into Engie in a bunch of different ways. Those ways have changed and deepened throughout our relationship. I make a point of both paying attention to that dynamic and, hopefully, letting her know about it! 

[My response: Conscientious, supportive, funny.]

There is some competition for worst. I can be moody and sullen. I sometimes have conversations with myself in my head and assume that Engie has been involved in that process. The big one, though, is probably my extremely neurotic relationship with food. I can (and do!) rationalize this based on medical issues I have dealt with, but at the end of the day I am weird about food, and this causes a lot of inconvenience and missed opportunities for both of us.  

[My response: The food thing.]

3. What is one thing that you do better than Engie and one thing she does better than you? 

I think I am more intuitive than Engie, but this comes with the downside that if I do not grasp something reasonably quickly, I have a tendency to get frustrated and move on. This might be a partial explanation for why I am terrible at painting rooms. I start with the best intentions, but if I don’t nail it on the first go my instinct is to say, eh, fuck it. Engie, for her part, has a deep curiosity about things that translates into a lot more perseverance than I can usually muster. She will dig and sift and winnow until she has her head around something. This is probably also why she outperformed me on every standardized test that we have both taken. She’s not a perfectionist, per se, but she has a lot more patience with imperfection than I do. She is a hell of a room painter.  

[My response: He does better: Tetrising the dishwasher. I often just pile the dishes next to it and ask him to deal with it. I do better: Remember the things.]

[Note from NGS: Engagement photos in 2007. This isn't the best technical photo, but I love everything about it. If you want to see a few more, here are some links. Our photographer is still in business and if anyone in the Twin Cities wants a recommendation, he's got ours.]

4. What is your favorite thing about your wife? 

She is caring in a really genuine way. I know a lot of people who put on a good show about giving a damn, but at the end of the day it is just that – a show. For my part I tend to care quite a lot but keep it to myself, and I’m adept at hiding my not-caring. When Engie professes to care about something, she follows through on it. A great, if simple, example that she may have written about: Engie keeps in touch. She writes letters and notes, sends cards, makes time to text or call. She cares about the people in her life and she acts on that. On the flip side, she generally will not pretend to care when she does not. This can make her come off as brusque to some people, but those people should get to know her better. 

[My response:  I have no idea how to predict this answer.]

5. How do you feel about having a wife who blogs about her life? 

I love it! That said, I don’t read it. I think of it as a space that she has where she can reflect at length about what’s on her mind and connect with a community that means a lot to her. I made a conscious decision to absent myself from that space. Engie has mentioned the book club to me, and I think that is a great encapsulation of how I see the blog as a whole. It would be kinda weird for me to randomly drop in on an in-person book club. That’s how I feel about the blog. 

[My response: It’s really weird, but she likes it, so that’s okay.]


Work 

6. What kind of doctor are you? 

I have a Ph.D. in political science, specializing in political theory. What does that mean? Read on! 

[My response: Ph.D. – not the medical kind.]

7. Could you please tell me what political theory is in twenty words or less? 

Probably not, but I’m no quitter! Here goes: the study of political ideas and ideologies, how they have evolved over time, and how they influence politics today (19 – boom).  In a few more words, political theory differs from political philosophy be being marginally more practical. Political philosophers ask questions like, what is justice? Political theorists are more likely to ask, what are the features of a just political system? How have our answers to that question changed over time? How do our current institutions measure up to that ideal? 

[My response: Ha ha ha. I cannot.]

8. What is your area of research/ study/ teaching? 

My research is in the philosophy of social science. I’m interested in how we establish truth in the social sciences (political science, sociology, psychology, etc.) and how our paths to truth differ from those taken in the natural sciences (biology, chemistry, physics, etc.). It is arcane and uninteresting to most people! 

My teaching is more interesting, and much more broad. I’m the only political theorist at my university, so I teach the entire historical sequence in political thought, everything from ancient and medieval political thought through contemporary thinkers. Plato, Machiavelli, Locke, Nietzsche, Camus, Rawls – I do it all! I also offer occasional one-off courses on topics of contemporary interest, so things like democracy in dark times. 

[My response: He studies Big Ideas. (Look, I’ve never, NOT ONCE, taken a political theory class. Maybe I should audit one of his classes.)]

9. How did you become a political scientist? Were there any big moments of formation or clarity? 

I took a lot of detours in college. I started as a biomedical engineering major (!), hated it, and went searching. Eventually, after a number of false starts (including a brief period when I thought I was destined to be an underappreciated poet) I found my way to philosophy and theory classes. My clever idea was that I could tell my parents (who were understandably concerned about my prospects – I was writing poetry for god’s sake!) that I was studying political science with an eye toward law school, while actually indulging my interest in these more abstract pursuits. Along the way I had several amazing professors who steered my thinking more in the political theory direction rather than philosophy.  

[My response: He wanted to study international relations, but his celiac diagnosis made that seem a bit too challenging, so he began to study theory instead.]

10. I have a sense of your political stances via Engie (oriented towards social and environmental justice). What would you say is a litmus-test question that could be used to gauge a political scientist's politics? 

The question would be different if I were talking to a political scientist versus the average politically interested person, in part because most political scientists I know are pretty savvy about dodging such questions. That said, I think a revealing question is to ask about the balance between liberty and equality in society. Most people who think a lot about politics acknowledge that liberty and equality are sometimes in tension. Their views on how the two are best balanced can be illuminating.  

[My response: He doesn’t think your politics should matter to a person in front of the classroom!]

[Note from NGS: Dr. BB is OVER taking photos by this time on our wedding day and I love how he's glaring. I just really really love this photo, even though my dress is bustled incorrectly and my makeup is a mess. Look at how hot my husband is!]

Hobbies 

11. What do you like to do when you are NOT researching/ teaching? 

I read a fair amount, though nowhere near as much as Engie. We do a lot of “parallel play” where we are with each other, each doing our own thing. Outside of that I am a pretty solitary creature, so I enjoy doing things that allow me to be alone for stretches of time: bike rides, solo golf rounds, listening to or playing music, that sort of thing. It’s how I regain my bearings after spending chunks of my work life in classrooms or meetings full of people –experiences I enjoy but find draining and a bit disorienting.  

[My response: Playing guitar, playing tennis/golf, watching The West Wing.]

12. What's your favorite movie, and why? 

Like Engie I don’t watch a ton of movies. I have a soft spot for ‘80s horror movies, oddly enough, and the best example in my book is Halloween. For the nerds out there – my people, in other words – I know that Halloween actually came out in 1978 and is technically not an ‘80s movie.  It feels like one, though, doesn’t it? Maybe because it does all of the things that ‘80s slasher movies do, but better. Tension, some humor, an eerie as hell soundtrack, a few well-placed jump scares…. I watch it every year and love it every time.  

[My response: I don’t know the answer to this. I should feel bad about that.]

A fairly representative example of a page from one of my editions of Truth and Method. It’s not clear form this picture, but there are three different ink colors here - black, blue, and violet - a different color for each time through the text. The damn book is almost 600 pages and every one of them looks like this. 

13. What is your favorite book? 

This is a tricky question since I both work with books and read them for pleasure. My favorite “work book” is called Truth and Method by the German philosopher Hans-Georg Gadamer. It has been hugely influential in how I think about a lot of things. My favorite book of poetry is Hart Crane’s White Buildings. My favorite novel I’ve read for pleasure is a moving target. Today I’ll say This Side of Paradise by F. Scott Fitzgerald. I first read it when I was 18, and it was a major case of “the right book at the right time.”  

[My response: The Idiot. I feel like I need to defend this answer - he has absolutely said The Idiot was his favorite book to me before!]

A ~25 year-old picture of me with a statue of F. Scott Fitzgerald. Three things that should be evident from this: 1.My appreciation for Fitzgerald is long-standing. 2. I’m not lying about the hairline thing (below). 3. There are good reasons why I rarely wear shorts. 

14. What is your favorite thing about Hannah? 

We sometimes joke that Hannah is me in dog form. She’s generally quiet, has weird food issues, is suspicious of strangers, fiercely protective of Engie, etc. She also has an undeniable goofy streak. The thing that I love the most about Hannah is how that side of her personality pops out unexpectedly and unreservedly. I will never know the uninhibited joy that Hannah expresses when she is tearing ass across an open field chasing something that only she can see.  

[My response: When she “woop woops” in her sleep.]

Hannah being a little nutter. I had to freeze-frame and zoom in on a video to get this - these outbursts are both fleeting and hilarious. 

15. What is your favorite quote? 

I’ll go with the opening stanza of Hart Crane’s “Repose of Rivers” from the aforementioned White Buildings

The willows carried a slow sound, 
A sarabande the wind mowed on the mead. 
I could never remember 
That seething, steady leveling of the marshes 
Till age had brought me to the sea. 

[My response: I don’t know how to answer this for myself, let alone him!]

16. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live? 

G.K. Chesterton tells a great little parable in Orthodoxy (a book I probably would not recommend unless you are very Catholic or Catholic-curious) about an Englishman who gets a yacht and sets out to discover the world. He is a poor sailor, though, and, losing his way, ends up discovering… England. The thing is, he is enchanted by his discovery. He views his home country with fresh eyes and loves it. That’s how I feel about my home. If I could live anywhere in the world, it would be in the home I return to after travelling anywhere in the world. 

[My response: Huh. I’m interested in his answer to this.]

17. What is your favorite kind of hat? Do you wear hats? 

Do I wear hats? I’m a 40-something man who started losing his hair as a teenager. I wear hats. Lately I’m big on bucket hats. I used to think they looked a bit dorky, but I’m leaning into that these days. Baseball hats are a bit…sporty for me. Fedoras and the like are too extremely online. We live in northern climes, so stocking caps are a given 4-5 months out of the year. Bucket hats have a bit of personality, they’re functional in the sun, and they aren’t a default choice for dudebros – my mortal enemies.  

[My response: He wears hats a lot because he’s a balding man. Right now he’s on a bucket hat kick.]

A new addition to my bucket hat collection (to deal with the aforementioned hairline issue). Engie likes the puzzle pieces side; I favor the tropical birds.

18. What kind of music do you like or dislike? 

I really love music. Engie goes in for podcasts, I prefer music. I listen to jazz, soul, rock, R&B, country, pop, rap… pretty much any pop music recorded between the late 1930s and the turn of the century, or contemporary music in that vein. My home base is probably jangly power pop. I honestly cannot get into contemporary hip hop. I like the music that inspired hip hop, but to me the whole is less than the sum of its parts. 

[My response: Not the same music I do, that’s for sure!]

19. If you had three wishes, what would they be? 

It’s a trap! I would use only one wish, and it would be for my remaining wishes to be transferred to someone who needs the wishes more and who would choose more wisely than me.  

[My response: My wishes for him are health, peace, and joy. I suspect those are not his own.]

20. If you had to pick a book for Engie’s book club, what book would you choose? 

Infinite Jest. Just kidding. Engie and I have very different tastes in books, so I would be tempted to pick one of the few books that I have recommended to her and that she professes to have enjoyed. I’ll mention two: A Canticle for Liebowitz by Walter M. Miller, Jr., and Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell by Susanna Clarke.  

[My response: Great question. I can’t wait to see what he says!]


A Canticle for Leibowitz. Marginalia include my rough Latin translations for Engie’s benefit. The post-its include things she wanted to ask me about. This probably says a lot about us, but I’m not sure what.

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And that's a wrap on guest posts, friends. I hope you enjoyed them. I'll have our CBBC wrap-up for I Capture the Castle tomorrow and then I'll write some Top Twenty lists until the actual 20th anniversary. In the meantime, I hope you're having a great long weekend, American friends, and everyone else is enjoying just a regular old weekend.

Who else wants their partner to answer twenty questions on their blog?

What's something fun you've done this weekend?

Sunday, August 25, 2024

20th Anniversary Countdown: Guest Post #19

In celebration of my blog's 20th anniversary, I'm having guest posters every week leading up to the big day. This is the penultimate guest post!

Allison is a Canadian blogger who is an honest-to-goodness school librarian. She lives with her husband and her dog Lucy and she has two grown children. I wish I could tell you exactly what Allison writes about, but it turns out that even when she's writing about being sick, it's irresistibly delightful and often hilarious and mysterious because she still has not told me what song she was talking about in that post from three months ago. She also does these amazing book roundups at the end of the year and I read those posts like I will be quizzed on them, taking notes and putting books on hold at the library like it is MY JOB. Do you want to read someone who will make you laugh and also keep secrets from you for months? Check out Allison over at Bibliomama

(I asked her if it was okay that I named her dog and not her kids and she wrote back "Yeah, my dog is cuter than my kids at this point, I'm comfortable with it." Sorry, A & E!!!)

If you don't think Lucy is The Cutest, your heart is made of ice. 

Let's welcome Allison!


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Hi! ("Don't stress about the post" Engie said. "Anything will be fine." Engie said. Me: spends ten minutes trying to figure out the best way to say hi to everyone before just going with 'hi'.)

I discovered Engie through Nicole (Nicole is the gift that keeps on giving in so many ways), and managed not to scurry away even though when I started following her she was blogging every single day, and then she declared she was done and proceeded to keep blogging nearly every single day, while also working and exercising regularly and keeping track of her spending and tracking all her goals. Only occasionally do I wonder if we're actually the same species, as someone who blogs maybe every week, and works part-time, and exercises maybe every week and tracks my goals like this: "oh, right, I had goals. Have I met them? Gonna say no. Should probably get on that."

Engie IS, however, a friend who does occasionally read horror, which is always an exciting thing, because I do not have many. 

Let's begin with the obvious question - why DO I love horror books and movies? I thought I would talk about this for a bit so if you're like 'horror, ew', you can read the preamble and either think 'oh, I kind of get it now' or 'no, still ew', and then not read the list of actual books if you so choose. 

It's not actually because I like to be scared. I'm scared of so many things - failing at stuff, looking stupid while doing stuff, being a bad mother, being a bad wife, people I love dying, eggplants - and it's not fun. It's also not because I like seeing people in pain or dying, which I realize is a bit counterintuitive - I even feel bad for the obvious throwaway person at the beginning of the book or movie who exists solely to set up the Big Scary Thing. I have mixed feelings about when this character is given a rich backstory and is really likable - in a way I respect and appreciate that this is done, and in a way it makes me really bitter that we were shown this just so we'll feel worse when they're horribly murdered. I'm not into slashers where people are just mown down one after another, and I'm not a fan of gore, although it's not a deal-breaker. I like smart, creepy horror where no one - or very few people - end up dying. [Note from NGS: Eggplants. LOLOLOLOL.]

After some thought, I've come to the conclusion that  I like horror and dark fantasy for the same reason I used to give when people asked why I like the show Northern Exposure so much - I like art that admits the possibility of strangeness. Northern Exposure was a basically realistic show about a town in Alaska and its citizens and their relationships. They dealt with living in an isolated community, everyone knowing everyone's business, and then every now and then people in town would start dreaming each other's dreams or something. 

Stephen Graham Jones - a fantastic author who writes Indigenous horror - writes in the foreword to Never Whistle At Night (an Indigenous horror short story anthology) that "What stories like this do for us is make the world just a smidge bigger, yes? We now have to expand the borders of the real to allow for, say, two timelines to simultaneously exist. No, not just exist, but intersect." I grew up pretty devoutly Catholic, which for various reasons I'm slightly bitter about now because it did more harm than good but, call it wishful thinking or apophenia, I do believe that there is more than just the mundane and the visible. 

So why horror and not just fantasy? Not really sure. I'm not big on sword and sorcery. I value the Aristotelian function of catharsis - filtering pity and fear through art. In my mind, the best horror is more sad than frightening, because at the heart of it is the fear of losing the people we love. More recently, I have been impressed by the brilliance of several authors writing Social Horror, where issues like racism or misogyny are - or run parallel to - the threat. It makes so much sense if you think about it - something like racism, when you drill down on it, is actually horrifying and evil. Couching it as actually evil (without using this as any kind of excuse) is both fitting and, often, extremely persuasive.

Compiling a list of twenty of my favourite horror books has brought to my attention that I read male horror writers out of proportion to male writers in general. Is that because women haven’t traditionally written horror as much until recently, or just an unconscious bias? Given that I have made a concerted effort (even more than my natural inclination) in recent years to read more women, I clearly need to pay more attention. 

These are in no particular order: 

Knock Knock Open Wide by Neil Sharpson (2023)

This was in many ways just a story about generational trauma, a fractured mother-daughter relationship, and a nearly-flawless queer love story. The unfairness of how some lives are blighted by causes beyond their control dovetails wonderfully (and dolefully) with horror lit. I also loved the weaving in of Celtic folklore.


Where They Wait by Scott Carson (2021)

Scott Carson is a pseudonym of Michael Koryta, who writes thrillers. I find his thrillers fairly inconsistent - some are beautifully written and contain beautiful writing about various landscapes that adds depth to the story. Some are shallower and thinner. Hey, who hasn't rushed a piece of work to meet a deadline, right? I can't remember how I stumbled on his alternate writing persona, and I didn't  know what to expect, but I would like to find him and take him gently by the lapels and implore him to henceforth devote himself solely to horror writing.

New England history and the ghost ship trope are used to brilliant effect. There are also well-developed characters, insightful writing about friendship, going back to where you grew up, being defined by your work, the lure and dangers of technology, and other bittersweet facets of the human condition. And a little bit of terrifying sort-of-folklore-based sort-of-science-based scary stuff that I don't want to go into because it would be spoilery. 

Clearly I have a partiality to mythology-based horror, and this is a splendid example. 


Lute by Jennifer Marie Thorne (2022)

I got this from the library and it was one of my five-star reads for 2023. I later bought my own copy because I had to own it. This is sort of akin to the Ursula K. Leguin story "The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas" - would you be willing to live somewhere idyllic where very few bad things ever happened if the payment was that every seventh summer seven people would die? 

I have no issues at all with horror that just tells a great story - I often like it more than overtly 'literary' horror. But this was a really lovely, beautifully-written tale that just happened to be about whether or not an island will really kill seven people as payment for seven blissful years. Nina is a great character, whose backstory makes it abundantly clear how she ended up living here as the wife of the Lord of the Island, although she wears her status uneasily. There is tension, but it's more a meditation on duty and sacrifice.


Let There Be Dark by Allen Lee Harris (1994)

I got this as a crappy little paperback from the library near the house we rented in Toronto. I wasn't expecting a whole lot, and ended up being blown away. The power of stories and the creative process is used to great effect, and the characterization and relationships really shone.


The Watcher by Charles Maclean (1982)

I guess if I had grown up without the internet I would never have known differently, but I hate to think of the books I would have missed without it. I tracked this down after seeing it referred to as "a lost horror classic, back in print at last!" Somewhat amusingly, I looked up what year the book was published just now, thinking maybe the fifties, and it was 1982! It was a while ago that I read it, and I'm not even sure the writing was great, but it was memorable just for the completely unexpected direction it went in.


Mapping the Interior by Stephen Graham Jones (2017)

Graham Jones is fast becoming one of my favourite horror authors, and for a favourite I am torn between this and Night of the Mannequins - honestly, in Mannequins the first line is "So Shana got a new job at the movie theatre and we thought we'd play a fun prank on her, and now most of us are dead, and I'm really starting to feel kind of guilty about it all" that is hard to beat. But this struck me in the heart so acutely that I think it pulls slightly ahead. Stephen Graham Jones entwines the experience of being Indigenous and its attendant joys and horrors with more otherworldly horrors to devastating effect. 

The Good House by Tananarive Due (2003)

I think Due's The Between was one of the first books I asked to have special ordered back in 1995, when this was barely a thing. I have snapped up everything she's published since then. This plays on the perpetual fear we have of harm coming to our children, and features generational trauma and vodou-flavoured magic. I'm surprised this author isn't more well-known. Many of her books, this included, would make fantastic movies.


The Dead Zone by Stephen King (1979)

My favourite older King book. It's been decades since I read it, and I can still remember entire passages of it almost verbatim. It starts with an almost-perfect love story. It illustrates that, although we sometimes wish for powers of perception and knowledge, in actual fact knowing the future would be a terrible gift. There are stories within the story that were perfection in their own right.

The Need by Helen Phillips (2019)

It takes almost no effort for me to remember having babies and small children and, even though I loved them more than my life, feeling so exhausted and overwhelmed and alone that I would have done almost anything for an hour of quiet. This is about that kind of wish being granted in a really twisted way. It's also a searing piece of writing about what it's like being a mother without a village in the modern world. It definitely won't hit the same for everyone, but I felt absolutely cratered at the end. 


Heart-Shaped Box by Joe Hill (2007)

I think I read this before I realized that Joe Hill was Stephen King's son (Owen King also writes and kept his father's last name, do we have opinions about that?) The main motif is the fear of our wrongs coming back to haunt us, as well as the fear of the losses that aging brings. It also involves a man who examines his own behaviour, which is its own kind of gratifying. I also really liked Horns, but then Hill seemed to go so far over the homage line that it looked like he was just trying to be Stephen King the Second, which I found a little disappointing. [Note from NGS: Why should they change their names? I share my father's last name, even though he was sort of a dick. But it's MY name.]


The Girl With All the Gifts by M.R. Carey (2014)

Ecological horror. The beginning is a slow burn with mounting menace where it takes time for the reader to realize what the actual threat is. Chief in my mind are beautiful relationship between the teacher and the  pupil, and the difficulty of distinguishing the monsters from the humans. [Note from NGS: I actually read this one, too!)


Doctor Sleep by Stephen King (2013)

I liked The Shining as a book. I hated the movie, even though it's supposed to be a masterpiece. Jack Nicholson was brilliant, but Shelley Duval was annoying (and then I learned how she was treated during filming and that was terrible and I felt sorry and also furious with the director). They made a couple of changes that seemed utterly nonsensical to me. [Note from NGS: Obviously, Allison is wrong about this movie. It is a masterpiece.]

Anyway. I liked the book well enough, although it seemed very much of the time it was written (1977) and wasn't my favourite of King's. When the sequel came out in 2013, 36 years after the original, I was intrigued. Doctor Sleep is about the son from the first book. I absolutely loved it. The old one even smelled like the seventies to me - cigarettes, whiskey, musty carpets - which probably means it was very effective, but the sort of sordid, polyester-and-rattan shoddiness didn't click with me, even though the book was born a few years after I was. The new one is melancholy and bittersweet and seems a little more mature (I'm going on very subconscious feelings that I'm trying to articulate) and I absolutely loved it. It was also a rare and sweet chance to see something brought full circle generations later.


John Dies at the End by David Wong (2007)

Well not actually by David Wong - I did a whole post about how I feel about pseudonyms when I first read this. Anyway, this was bonkers batshit bananapants crazy, hilarious, and weird. And scary, and funny, and a little sad. And weird. There are moments of genuine fear, loss and human connection. And penis jokes.

The Orphan Choir by Sophie Hannah (2013)

Sophie Hannah generally writes mysteries that begin with a seemingly impossible set-up and then go on to explain everything with varying degrees of success - when they're good, they're very, very good, but to me, this was even better. I'm so curious how it came to her. Fear for our children is the deal, of course. I read this years ago, and yet I can still recall many scenes perfectly, such as one charming and amusing one in which the main character talks about a woman she knows who remarried and is besotted with her new spouse and loves introducing him to everyone. When the main character gets annoyed with her own partner for being dense she wonders "where is my superior second husband?" 

I read this in the midst of a run where I disagreed with everybody on Goodreads about every book I had read lately, and it was no different, except for my eminently sensible friend Sarah. I don't think I've ever seen a better illustration of the term 'psychological suspense'. Louise's twin aggravations - the neighbour who blasts loud music at night and the school choir that is co-opting her young son's entire childhood - are so sharply portrayed that I could feel my blood pressure rising. A fine balance is maintained between a suspicion of paranoia and the belief that terrible forces actually are at work, and the resolution was perfect and devastating.


Small Spaces by Katherine Arden (2018)

I read this because I am a school librarian in elementary schools and many, many elementary school kids are shockingly bloodthirsty little mothereffers who are all about the horror. Obviously I would prefer not to recommend substandard horror, although I do not do most of the ordering and I have to work with the tools I am given. This is one I am happy to thrust into their morbid little hands - it's a genuinely scary story, but it also delivers emotional intelligence and genuine friendships.


Thirteens (and the other books in the Secrets of Eden Eld trilogy) by Kate Alice Marshall (2020)

I had Coraline by Neil Gaiman in here, but for various reasons I am replacing it. I have now read Kate Alice Marshall books pitched at adults, young adults and children, and although her adult books are good, she really shines at horror for teenagers and children. A lot of this wonderful series revolves around palindromes, which meant I could give them to my daughter Eve as a Christmas present, addressed to my very favourite palindrome - she was twenty but she loved them too. Again, a deliciously creepy and intelligent story and a super-lovable and insightful and compassionate trio of friends. So satisfying. 


Into the Grey by Celine Kiernan (2011)

A ghost story that is haunting in all senses of the word. Twin brothers and family strife and charming Irish dialect and sense of place. 


World War Z by Max Brooks (2006)

I would say it's the first faux-documentary horror I read, but that would be Carrie - hard not to bring a lot of horror back to Stephen King. I still thought this one did a great job, though, using a theoretical zombie outbreak to criticize government corruption and ineptitude and human selfishness and shortsightedness. There are some striking parallels to the pandemic, which is unsurprising, and also a bittersweet and hopeful humanity. I was confused when I saw that the movie was coming out, since I thought it would be really difficult to make a film treatment of this. Turns out the filmmakers thought the same thing, so they just used the title and almost nothing else. [Note from NGS: This is a great audiobook.]



The September House by Carissa Orlando (2023)

I don't want to get too spoiler-y, but this one takes the haunted house as metaphor thing to a new and terribly effective level. What if you realized your house was really truly haunted but you really didn't want to move so you just tried to accommodate yourself to the haunting? How much washing blood off walls and dodging around screaming ghost children and making up excuses to not let your kids visit would you be able to stand? [Note from NGS: I want to take this opportunity to once again plug the "Haunted Housing Market" episode of the podcast Imaginary Worlds. It's fabulous and related to the haunted house trope.]


The Last House on Needless Street by Catriona Ward (2021)

This was the first book I read by this author, and I have subsequently tracked down and read every other book of Ward's. Looking Glass Sound is a close second, but this is my favourite so far. It has a lot of classic horror elements - a house with strange, secretive inhabitants, a new neighbour, a cat. And yet it still feels a little new and different. [Note from NGS: My husband and I both read this one, too. We refer to Olivia the Cat regularly in this house.]

The blurb says this is for fans of Gone Girl which, what? And The Haunting of Hill House which *dies laughing*. Listen, I have TRIED to read classic horror. I have tried to read classic horror that I've already READ, on the basis that maybe I was too young and shallow to appreciate it. The Haunting of Hill House and The Turn of the Screw are NOT SCARY. There, I said it.


Also, there is an Australian horror writer named Kaaron Warren. I have had some nice Twitter exchanges with her (I called her sick and twisted and she thanked me profusely), and in her Goodreads bio she says she is an avid and broad reader but also loves reality tv so don't expect sophisticated conversation from her - clearly she is my kind of people. She is also a very, very good writer, and I am here to counsel you in the strongest terms not to ever read anything by her lest it scar you for life. I cannot, in good conscience, write a whole post about horror lit and not warn you that Kaaron Warren is TOO HORROR.

Thank-you Engie, for giving me something to think about other than the fact that my children are gone AGAIN (I want my children to have happy, fulfilling, independent lives and careers and I also want nearly uninterrupted access to them, is that so much to ask?). Also, the song is "Young Man" by Jamestown Revival.

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And, with that, a months long mystery has been solved! [Allison, for my part, I do see it as a meditation on taking his own life, so do with that what you will.]

What do you think about the King brothers using the last name King in their writing careers? What do you think about pseudonyms when the authors also include their other names? 

Sunday, August 18, 2024

20th Anniversary Countdown: Guest Post #18

In celebration of my blog's 20th anniversary, I'm having guest posters every week leading up to the big day. 

I met TJC during my second semester of college in an American Culture Studies class that I can't remember anything about except the time Dr. Joe freestyled drawing the development of a city, complete with new interstates and white flight on the board; a guy who used to say "whatnot" a lot, like multiple times in a sentence; a guy from London who apparently did a lot of charcoal art and was always filthy, especially his hands and nails, so we called him Dirty Dan; and that I met TJC. We somehow became friends even though I was a jerk about her major - in retrospect a degree in polisci doesn't give you any more employable skills than creative writing - and bonded over our shared love of Dr. Joe, Dr. Stuart, Garth Brooks, sci-fi/fantasy books, and ordering Papa John's late at night. She's stayed more nights in our guest room than anyone else, plays dumb games of Taskmaster with me, and is the first person I text when I witness people behaving badly.

Let's welcome TJC!


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Hello! Boy, am I excited to be asked to write a guest blog post for NGS! As she can tell you (lovingly), I’m a great procrastinator, one of THE greatest. She knew I’d write this the night before it was due, as I have for every assignment I’ve ever had. She’ll say, “This isn’t homework!” but that’s how I have to think or else it’s distraction-city, baby. She has dreamt to the soundtrack of my favorite video game*. We’ve known each other for twenty-six years now. I knew we’d be life-long friends when she asked me, semi-seriously or perhaps completely seriously, if the shuttle buses get up on their hind wheels to wave as they pass each other. Also, finding me walking randomly on campus to tell me to “JUMP IN!” to her truck so we could stalk an old man who called us The Smiling Girls as he was heading somewhere to teach or confer. We each had our own Dr. Jeffrey Peake – for very different subjects. Which brings me to a very fun thing about our friendship…. [Note from NGS: I'm vaguely worried Dr. Peake will Google his name and find this blog. Sorry I'm such a disappointment to you, Dr. Peake. Also, the shuttle buses waving at each other thing...I'll leave it you readers to figure out how I really felt about that.]

We have similar tastes that are so very separate in their manifestations. Very! We love books but rarely the same book. We love Garth Brooks, but songs she loves I hate (except In Lonesome Dove and The Ring Song – real title not important). Our love of British television: give me Bob Mortimer all day. (Insert an NGS retina-splitting eyeroll.)  [Note from NGS: I have quite literally listened to The Ring Song like six times in a row this morning.]

But, despite these differences, we still find ways to share the love. Music, reading, laughter, being able to just sit quietly with the cat, perusing Reddit and sighing a collective sigh that at least we are NTAs you could find out there…. It’s the little things, ya know?  

I promise I have been preparing for this, NGS. I’ve been thinking about my obsession with the six basic emotions and how I have a long-defunct blog that no one wants to stumble upon. We don’t talk about Bloggo, if you get what I mean. I used to do a weekly write-up of the ways in which I felt my feelings using the six emotions: anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, and surprise. Then I thought, what do I want to DO with those for this blog post, though? 

Well, I somehow wrangled a Master’s Degree in Creative Writing many moons ago. When I get asked to visualize an apple, my great-aunt Sally with her two little braids and her purple floral dress goes into her apple orchard to pick an apple, a green apple, always a green apple, and then she retreats to her trailer in the middle of nowhere to slice up this apple and put it in a pie crust to bake a pie, and then she bakes a pie, and then she puts it on the windowsill to cool and then Porky Pig tries to steal it. I think solely in how would I would turn any anecdote into a scene in a book. I really don’t know how else to communicate. 

I do a lot of reading and writing and reading about writing, so maybe I could write up a few entries for each emotion based on books, writing, Garth Brooks, and surviving.  

*Bonus points if NGS can remember the game. [Note from NGS: Final Fantasy Tactics.]

I. Anger 

A. Most of these emotions are downers, so I’d like to keep it light by doing a little funny rant. It’s what NGS expects of me, I’ll tell you. Not a day goes by I don’t have an angry rant like a dime-store comedian. Recently it’s about the state of popular culture. I’m a middle-aged LADY now, a real ma’am. I have hit the point where I cannot BELIEVE the youngs don’t know every celebrity I know, and sometimes, it hurts. And there is anger – when the youngs say something akin to, “They probably aren’t as famous as YOU think they are.” Excuse me? And I feel anger. Then I try (but don’t always succeed) to understand that somewhere a rift happened where we have a thousand media sources instead of twenty, tops. That everyone watched the Thursday night line-up on NBC in 1990 but now watching TV at a set time is for the Olds. What streaming service is it on, the youngs say, when I talk about a show. And you know what, I tell ‘em. 

B. The angriest I’ve felt related to writing was at the AWP conference in Seattle in 2014. I don’t even remember the poet’s name, but she was on a panel with Tobias Wolff if you’d ever be inclined to research this. I’m not. Anyway, this lady gets asked why she’s a writer, and she starts talking about how she wishes she wasn’t, that she actually wanted to give it up thirty years or so ago, but then she had her daughter and she realized if she gave it up her daughter might someday ask her about her youth, and she (the writer) would have to admit she was once a writer, and then her daughter would be burdened with the FEELING that her mother gave up writing for her – even though it wouldn’t have been true. Now, this lady is getting her hotel room paid for, no doubt a spending budget for meals, etc. I paid roughly $2000 out of pocket to be at this conference that THIS LADY doesn’t even want to be at. You should have SEEN Tobias Wolff’s horrified, incredulous face. And mine. 

C. One time, I was reading a book, and there was a woman who worked at this literary ministry, and she and her father worked in different departments and her father worked in this big secret department and he went missing and he contacted her and asked her to meet him in a cafĂ© and there was something-something about maybe evolved animals that could hold jobs and there was something about her mother and something about her aunt and uncle and a conspiracy and her father was being followed and a fight ensued and then I got to page EIGHT and I could. not. handle. any. more. information. I was so angry I threw it across the room. Learn to pace your details, authors. 

TJC did not provide a photo until the end of this post, but here's one. I'm wearing a Kenny Rogers tshirt and she's wearing a short-sleeve hoodie. I think this speaks volumes about us. 

II. Disgust 

A. Let me tell you about the time I bought a book, gave money to the authors, because I could not believe the AUDACITY from just reading the synopsis on Amazon. I had to see it for myself. In it, some editors gave you and me, the reader and aspiring writer, advice on how to tick the boxes of their prescription for GOOD WRITING. It was divided into the normal categories such as dialogue, setting, character, etc. But wait, there’s more. Also, the editors provide examples of writers who took their advice and got published – BY THESE EDITORS. But wait, oh wait! Then, they took excerpts from books such as THE GREAT GATSBY and rewrote those passages to show (checks notes) how much better the writing could have been if they had been around to edit THE GREAT GATSBY. No. Get out. [Note from NGS: And this is how TJC and I are different. I think Gatsby could have used some editing. LOL)

B. Again, a lot of these basic emotions are maudlin. So let’s take a minute to talk about how disgusted anyone would be if they knew I have no less than FIVE piles of laundry, not necessarily dirty, in two rooms, on both the floor and on two chairs. What’s a metaphor, NGS? The piles of laundry are like my disorganized mind – I KNOW where everything is but I’m too lazy to put it where it needs to go. And at this point I’ve come to accept this about myself. But, um, no one wants to walk through either of those deathtraps. 

C. Norman Mailer. I frequently text NGS to lament on the sheer arrogance he exudes when I come across an interview. Little did I know this was kind of a plot point on Gilmore Girls!? A show NGS loves and because of which she instantly LOLed when I started my rant. He was such an ass!  

III. Fear 

A. I fear a society that doesn’t know the beauty of Garth Brooks and what he accomplished for country music. I mean, the youngs I know don’t know who Madonna is either, so I guess I can deal with it. But as a writer, I love magical realism and Stephen King’s Dark Tower series, and if you don’t know how that has anything to do with Garth Brooks, STRAP IN. Garth changed country music from being this stagnant, separate, homogenized genre into a mainstream musical force acceptable to people around the world. Yes he DID. Shhh. I love blended genres; I love things that seem like they are one way but contain the elements of other ways. Garth was afraid to release "The Dance" because it wasn’t “country” enough – can you imagine? Garth walked so these new artists could run. I fear a world that puts no respect on his name. [Note from NGS: Look, I am a Garth fan. But his refusal to get with the times and allow his music on streaming services has meant entire GENERATIONS do not have easy access to him. Even I listened to some cut rate cover of The Ring Song today because I couldn't be bothered to deal with CDs.]

B. I fear I waste a lot of time, because LOL I do. But there’s a great Meat Loaf song for that called "Wasted Youth." Sometimes – oh no I’m about to be serious – I admit to myself how when I was a young writer at Bowling Green, I didn’t know anything. About anything. Oh man, I was so green. I think if I had written a novel right out of the gate I would look back now and hate it. A professor I had whose name I usually drop like a sack of bricks once asked me, “Why would anyone ever write this story?” and I hated him SO MUCH. But he was RIGHT. I had no idea why I wrote it. But now I waste a lot of time figuring myself out even if other people think it’s silly. I used to be afraid of their opinion. 

C. I fear I don’t waste enough time. I have a regular job in retail. It’s not my dream. It takes up a terrible chunk of my week. I want to read everything, write everything, watch every movie, play every video game (I’m a product of the 80s, yo!). But you know what, no matter what, I wouldn’t have enough time. There will forever be more books, more media, more fantastic places to virtually be (not really be – I’m a homebody through and through). I have decided to be happy! wasting my time. As much of it as possible. And in doing so maybe put off writing blog posts for my friend of over twenty years until the night before. But hey, I wouldn’t be me if I did it any other way. 

IV. Happiness 

A. My happy place is a good, prosaic, run-on sentence. Perhaps you’ve noticed? I love Nabokov, Thomas Wolfe, Faulkner. I want poetry in paragraphs; this is how I describe my perfect novel. I don’t care about plot. Nonsensical sh*t can happen on every page as long as the atmosphere pours from the page like fog from a misty mountain. Minimalism ain’t for me. Also, it took me a long time to shed my fear that my writing style would be off-putting. I’m sure it is to someone and I’m also sure it’s someone’s cup of tea. 

B. The world of writing is changing! I’m such a pedant about the various periods of literature. Modern and contemporary are not synonymous. Whenever someone talks about their Modern American Literature class I am Normal Mailer levels of asshat about how they are probably actually reading contemporary literature. But I digress. Literature is diversifying! Language is evolving! Yes, I only mentioned dead white men in my previous passage. But let me tell you about Rita Dove! Nnedi Okorafor! Emma Torzs! It used to be I felt I could open to ten random pages of The Best American Short Stories and it would sound like one writer. But no more! Authors are realizing they don’t have to jump through some editor’s hoops in order to be published and praised. Hallelujah. 

C. Because of the million outlets we have now for media, there is always a community for anything and everything. I’m so happy to now be able to virtually attend the AWP Writer’s Conference. Are there as many virtual panels as there are at-conference panels? Not yet. It’s okay. I got to listen live to the keynote speaker this year, Jericho Brown, and that was amazing. I tweeted about how happy I was to get to sit in on that community even from thousands of miles away, and he answered! I don’t care how silly that sounds, it made me so incredibly happy. Like I was part of that world again. It’s out there. I can bring it here now. 

V. Sadness 

A. How to give this some levity…. I’m sad…that…I can no longer drink or eat whatever the hell I want to. Because I’m An Old, as NGS likes to put it. This is part of surviving, right? I can barely drink coffee because of the acid reflux it induces. But I will. Each morning and usually at some point during the afternoon as well. I’m not going down without a fight. How else am I writing this at, oh my – look at the time. 12:31 a.m. 

B. Someone took the title of one of my novels! That I haven’t even written! I’m so sad because it was PERFECT! I had started the novel on Google docs and I’m convinced this person used AI and unwittingly stole my novel. How sad, for me and for the state of art in general, that a poor, lazy, unorganized writer like myself could fall victim to the harrowing world of savvy criminals. NGS figures into this tragedy because the stolen title in question was on a TBR blog entry on THIS VERY BLOG and that’s how I found out about this nightmare! [Note from NGS: But did I ever actually read the book?!]

C. It’s sad how… I don’t know. How hard it is for me to even pretend I can carry this sad entry through? This has been the hardest to rant about. That’s sad, right? Oh no! I’m losing my edge. Hurry, brain, think. In a timely and organized…. Forget it. 

VI. Surprise 

A. I’m forever surprised how fun a writing prompt can be. I’m – again – a bit of an ass about the nature of art. I’m kind of a believer in talent as something organic that can’t be taught. Even though I totally went through seven years of higher education to learn about writing. I scoffed at writing prompts as something beneath me as recently as probably yesterday. Which was technically less than an hour ago. But as I sit here, probing myself and reminding myself not to oh-so-easily stray into something dark and twisted (as is MY nature), I remembered how much I love writing in general, and how it makes me happy, and how surprising it is no matter how or when it comes about. 

B. I’m also surprised how many of these entries revolved around writing. When I set out, my plan was to write an entry for each emotion that tied back to the “books, writing, Garth Brooks, surviving” laundry list from hours ago (for both you and me by the end of this). But it is my love to talk about writing. It is my love to do writing.  

C. I’m surprised I didn’t abandon the format even when it ended in a place it didn’t really begin in. To reiterate, I’m lazy. I sleep until 10:00 each morning. I play video games and read books and stare at the wall. I can have a deep philosophical conversation with myself that lasts an embarrassing amount of time. Sometimes I write it down. Sometimes it becomes something. But more often than not I realize I have put SOMETHING off. Laundry, usually. I am proud and astounded that I filled out this outline like a disciplined, thorough person. 

VII. Addendum 

A. I need twenty entries. [Note from NGS: Like, how the hell can you even tell? You've used roman numerals AND letters; it's all over the place. Our brains work in such different ways.]

B. Like I said, I think in scenes. When I listen to music in the car, I am driving – down the highway – imagining either the Dancing with the Stars routine I would do or the movie montage I would put to that particular song. I can’t not being writing a story. But now, I’m going to leave you at the end here with two portraits of the artists as young women: one of me and NGS as youngs jammin’ out to – and I really remember this – Guns ‘n’ Roses, and one of NGS alone in the quintessential way I picture her in all her goofy, happy glory. A picture, a thousand words…. [Note from NGS: I am putting these photos in here, even though they are both embarrassing. I was a CHILD. Also, I'm still like this, so I feel like it's fair.]

It was "Welcome to the Jungle."



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Somehow this was even more mortifying than when Bestest Friend wrote her post. Please tell me there are embarrassing photos of you on the internet and that your mentor from high school or college could potentially find them.  What's your fondest memory of your early twenties? Favorite Garth Brooks song?