Wednesday, November 12, 2025

False Witness by Karin Slaughter

I'm plugging away at the Pop Sugar Reading Challenge even though there's no way I'm going to finish it. False Witness by Karin Slaughter is a book that features a character with chronic pain AND the audiobook was available immediately for me on the Libby app when I was doing yet another road trip. Do we think Karin Slaughter is her real name or a pseudonym? 


In this thriller, Leigh and Calli are sisters. They are close as they both survived a childhood with their abusive mother. When they are young teens, they do something (sort of) bad 

(note: this is a morally grey area if you think what they did was bad and I honestly don't think it was, but I don't want to give away spoilers)

and they get away with it without any legal consequences. That is until years later when Leigh is a lawyer and Calli is a heroin addict and their past comes back to haunt them. Thriller things ensure.

Look, this is a good book. It's fast-paced and well-written. But maybe, just maybe, listening to a story about sisters who truly love one another and are devoted to each other was not the right choice for me at this exact moment in time. (If you're new around here, I have a tumultuous relationship with my sister, my mother died earlier this year, and so everything surrounding my family of origin is difficult.) ANYWAY. I found some scenes really hard to listen to. Really hard. There's graphic (GRAPHIC) depictions of sexual violence; violence violence, including guns; child abuse and neglect; pandemic stuff; and drug abuse. This is not for the faint of heart and I'm slowly coming to the realization that perhaps I *am* the faint of heart. 
 
4/5 stars, but be forewarned

Things I looked up:

Vince Dooley (Spring 2021 - Chapter 1) - an American college football coach. He was the head coach of the Georgia Bulldogs from 1964 to 1988, as well as the University of Georgia's (UGA) athletic director from 1979 to 2004.

viviparous (Spring 2021 - Chapter 4) - there are two definitions, one in zoology and one in botany

  • (of an animal) bringing forth live young that have developed inside the body of the parent.
  • (of a plant) reproducing from buds that form plantlets while still attached to the parent plant, or from seeds that germinate within the fruit. 

Hat mentions (why hats?): 

his hat in his hand (Spring 2021 - Chapter 10)

colorful hat on her head (Spring 2021 - Chapter 11)

his hat in his hands (Summer 2005)

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Are you the faint of heart? Do you read a lot of thrillers?

Monday, November 10, 2025

CBBC Week Five: The Joy Luck Club Wrap-Up

Past discussions:
Week One: Part I
Week Two: Part II
Week Three: Part III
Week Four: Part IV

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What were your overall thoughts on this book? 

Here's what I think:
  • The POVs were too similar so it was impossible to keep the characters straight. The fact that the POV changed in every chapter made it even worse. 
  • I didn't want to spend time in this world. The people were mean, the subject was heavy, and I was just not interested in being there.
  • I thought this book was graphic and gross. It wasn't just the food descriptions, although that didn't help.
  • The writing was both elliptical and unclear and also heavy handed at times. There were times she was sort of oblique about what was going on (see: the watermelon scene and the two sentence abortion mention in "Waiting Between the Trees") and other times when her use of imagery and metaphor hit you over the head. I don't know. I didn't love the writing style. 
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Pop culture:

There's a 1993 movie starring Tsai Chin, Kieu Chinh, Lisa Lu, France Nuyen, Rosalind Chao, Lauren Tom, Tamlyn Tomita, and Ming-Na Wen. I've heard of none of these people. I bet no one is shocked to learn that I have not watched the movie, but the plot seems to follow the the book fairly closely. A few differences:
  • In the movie, Lena and Harold get divorced and Lena has a new relationship.
  • Rose and Ted get back together in the movie.
Has anyone seen the movie? 
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TJLC questions to ponder:

1) Which of the characters did you identify with the most? Why?

2) While the book has been critically received positively for the most part, there are some criticisms that the book leans into stereotypical portrayals of Asian men and some aspects of parenthood. Do you think this book challenges stereotypes or leans into them?

3) I hate to keep harping on the structure of this book, but why do you think Tan structured it this way using parables as framing devices for each section? What would have changed if the book had been told chronologically or through back-to-back chapters featuring mother and daughters?

4) What does the book tell us about American culture? About American immigrant culture? 

5) In the first chapter, June discusses her mother's take on the elements that make people:
Each person is made of five elements, she told me.
Too much fire and you have a bad temper. ..
Too little wood and you bent too quickly to listen to other people's ideas...
Too much water and you flowed in too many directions...

How do you think these elements are used to establish personality traits in the rest of the book? 

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Most iconic line poll:


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That's a wrap on 2025 CBBC! Thanks for joining and participating. 

Friday, November 07, 2025

October 2025: What I Spent

As a reminder, my husband pays the "big bills" like mortgage, phone, and electricity. I pay for groceries and the pets and that somehow evens things out.

We're still in a bit of weird area right now. There are expenses related to me dealing with my mother's estate and a tiny bit of travel. Let's dig in. It was a spendy month.

(In light of what's going on right now with the government shutdown and benefits being withheld, I struggled with whether or not this post was tone deaf. Maybe it is. If you don't want to read it, feel free to skip it. I understand.)


Eating out ($12.48, <1%) - I went out to lunch once. 

Entertainment ($12.65, <1%) - This is my Spotify subscription.

Personal care ($77.62, 1.9%) - Some supplements and daily face lotion.

Travel ($110.99, 2.8%) - One night in a hotel.

Miscellaneous ($126, 3.1%) - I had to pay for a death certificate* and then I bought some stuff for our non-food items for next Halloween.

Bills ($133.33, 3.3%) - Insurance for home and car.

Cars ($161.11, 4%) - I bought a lot of gas. I was driving a lot.

Fitness ($164.58, 4.1%) - I BOUGHT A NEW YOGA MAT. I finally decided I wanted a nice mat at home and school and I bought a new mat and a bag to go with it and I have no regrets. Now I have a bag with a whole yoga set at school and a smaller bag at home for going to the community center and back. 

Gifts ($173, 4.3%) - A birthday present for my nephew and a baby shower gift.

Savings ($200, 5%) - Lolz.

Clothes ($217.79, 5.4%) - My niece and I got permanent anklets together when we were at the local tourist town. Worth every penny.

Donations ($220, 5.5%) - My puny contribution to a fundraiser at the community center. Remind me and someday I'll tell you all about my silent auction victories.

Pets ($288.07, 7.2%) - Let's all just be excited that this number is so low. Yay! Confetti falls from the sky.

Groceries ($788.39, 19.7%) - We still gotta eat, you know?

Health ($1314.79, 32.9%) - My PT bills came due. What a sadness.

*I need an official death certificate and all I had was a copy. I asked the funeral home for an official one and they sent me another copy, which was not going to pass muster. Eventually I had to shell out to get one through a weird website. Anyway, I don't know how to classify a lot of these random types of expenses, so I'm throwing it in miscellaneous. 

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What is something fun you bought in October? Is it as fun as my anklet with Claire? 

Thursday, November 06, 2025

October 2025 Accountability Buddy

Wednesday, October 1

Thursday, October 2
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, October 3
Day off

Saturday, October 4
I'm counting the many many stairs I climbed at the water park and the many hours we spent messing about there.

Sunday, October 5
Day off

Monday, October 6
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Tuesday, October 7
30-minute fast walking workout with intervals - I am so unmotivated these days. I did this sort of begrudgingly. 

Wednesday, October 8
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime*
30-minute total body tabata (bodyweight) - So little motivation. At some point, I'm going to have to lift a weight. 

Thursday, October 9
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, October 10
Day off


Saturday, October 11
30-minute morning flow yoga video - I was visiting friends and had some visitors help me get into my Zen state. 

Sunday, October 12
37-minute total body strength - I lifted actual weights!

Monday, October 13 - Tuesday, October 14
Days off

Wednesday, October 15
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime
30-minute backchain with weights

Thursday, October 16
30-minute full body flexibility yoga

Friday, October 17
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime
35-minute tabata cardio - super sweaty!

Saturday, October 18
35-minute stretch and relax yoga

Sunday, October 19
30-minute sports cardio 
15-minute daily yoga stretch - What an interesting video. The instructor says nothing and transitions between poses are indicated by a bell. I kind of liked it. 

Monday, October 20
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime - The person who runs this wasn't there and no one else was, either, but the room was reserved, so I just did it by myself. 

If you can't predict what song will play if you click this link, you should reevaluate your pop culture consumption. 


Tuesday, October 21
Day off

Wednesday, October 22
30-minute total body workout
10-minute bedtime yoga

Thursday, October 23
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime - No one else was there again. I have a vague recollection about maybe the organizer being on vacation in Costa Rica now that I think about it. Oh, well. I did it. 



Friday, October 24 - Sunday, October 26
Off. I was vaccinated on Friday for so many things and I didn't have it in me. My stats this year are in the tank. *sigh*

Monday, October 27
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime. - Just me and one other person. It is confirmed that the yoga lady is on vacation. 

Tuesday, October 28
45-minute body blast at the community center after work - I've been on hiatus dealing with my leg, but my leg is never going to get better, so I'm back at it. 

If your friends agree to do a foot selfie, take them up on it. 

Wednesday, October 29
Day off

Thursday, October 30
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, October 31
I spent most of the afternoon hauling my mother's stuff out of a barn and organizing it. Lots of moving around, bending, and wanting to murder my already dead parent. I'm counting this.

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Total: 23/31 (74.2%) of days
Cardio/strength: 11 days
Yoga: 10 days
Short stretch classes at lunchtime: 2 days

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That's too much yoga, but I'm going to take it. My stats for this year are decimated. Oh, well. I'll keep on keeping on, even though the perfectionist in me wants to say fuck it and stop working out this year because I'll never meet my goals.

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Were your workouts successful in October? What exercise is your favorite? 


Wednesday, November 05, 2025

October 2025 Books


10/6: Sweep in Peace (Innkeeper Chronicles #2) by Ilona Andrews (library ebook, 2015) - This series is joy. Now, in addition to the dog, there's a cat! This one dragged a little in the middle - it turns out I don't much care about intergalactic politics - but I did like it a lot. 4/5 stars

10/12: Klara and the Sun by Kazuo Ishiguro (library, 2021) - I didn't love it, but it was a great book club discussion. 3/5 

10/13: Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson (library audiobook, 1999) - I read this in 2010 and liked it a lot then. I like it less now, but that's because I want to shake every adult in the story and make them pay attention. I think Just Listen handles these themes better, but both books have their place in YA books about rape. 3.5/5 stars

10/21: The Hallmarked Man (Cormoran Strike #8) by Robert Galbraith (library, 2025) - This book was really boring. 2.5/5 stars

10/25: Her Many Faces by Nicci Cloke (library, 2025) - Good, fast-paced thriller. I enjoyed this one a lot. 4.5/5 stars

10/26: What I Talk About When I Talk About Running by Haruki Murakami translated by Phillip Gabriel (library audiobook narrated by Ray Porter, 2007) - Memoir about running and writing. Fine, I guess, but there's a lot of talk about body image and running. What did I expect? This one might be on me. 3/5 stars

10/31: Assistant to the Villain (Assistant to the Villain #1) by Hannah Nicole Maehrer (library audiobook narrated by Em Eldridge, 2023) - Girl stumbles into a new job, only to find out that The Villain is maybe not the bad guy. Fine, fine. Not earthshattering, but absolutely fine. 3/5 stars

Total: 7 books
Average star rating: 3.36/5 stars

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DNF

Silver Bay by Jojo Moyes - We'll never know if this book was actually boring or if I kept falling asleep because I was exhausted. The library took it back before I made it to the halfway point. DNF at 41%. 

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What's the best book you read in October?

Tuesday, November 04, 2025

CBWC October 2025 - Week Five


It's Cool Blogger Walking Club (CBWC) time. Hosted by Elisabeth, we're trying for ten minutes of intentional movement every day. Let's see how the last week of the month played out.
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Tuesday, October 28
Couple walks with my best canine friend. Here we are practicing not dragging your human up and down the stairs.


Wednesday, October 29
We were test driving cars AGAIN tonight, so I had to run home at lunch to take Hannah out. Can you tell from her face here that she was THRILLED to have to leave her cozy bed in the middle of the day? I mostly wanted a photo of that glorious maple behind her. The maples are some of the last trees to change, which means we always miss leaf pickup, but I don't even care. Look how pretty it is. Ignore the bratty dog. (I just want you to know that in two days that tree went from this to orange to all the leaves on our driveway.)

This doesn't really give you the full creepiness. 

Thursday, October 39
I took a walk with Hannah today in the morning. But nothing was as delightful as how absolutely creepy walking around a foggy campus was this morning. 


Friday, October 31
I am in Michigan dealing with some stuff with my mom's estate. I took an hour and stopped a lovely county park and went for a walk. 


Lessons learned from CBWC this year
One of the goals I made for my October CBWC was to unplug during my walks - either listen to music or nothing during my walks. I ended up just leaving my earbuds at home for a few walks and here's what I learned.

1) I still don't know what Hannah's reacting to. It must be something only she can see, hear, or smell, because when she jumps in the air and looks back at me for reassurance, I can confidently say "it's okay," because whatever it is that has her attention is not bothering me in the least.

2) Our neighborhood is LOUD. There are squirrels, birds, kids playing outside, motors revving, leaf blowers blowing, card doors slamming, dogs barking, and on one memorable occasion, roofs getting professionally vacuumed. 

3) Real talk: I learned that I am not doing well. If left alone to my own thoughts, I am pretty much assured to start crying. I think...I might need to do something about this. 

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How is the time changing impacting your life? Are you as sad as I am about the dark, dark evenings?

Monday, November 03, 2025

CBBC Week Four: The Joy Luck Club, Part IV

Past discussions:
Week One: Part I
Week Two: Part II
Week Three: Part III


Welcome to Week Four of Cool Bloggers Book Club (CBBC) for The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan. This week we'll be discussion Part IV. 

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What happened in these chapters?

We begin with a nonsense parable.

Then it's back to An-mei (her mother cut off part of her arm!) and she tells a story about how her mother was the fourth wife of a rich man after being widowed. The second wife gave An-mei a pearl necklace, but it was fake. The second wife was unable to have a child, so when An-mei's mother did give birth, the second wife took the child and raised it as her own. And Rose gets ignored for the rest of the book.

We next switch to Ying-Ying and hear her side of the story about breaking the vase. She does a flashback in which we learn about her past with an arranged marriage to a man who abused and cheated on her. Many years later she married an American and it wasn't until many years later that she told him about her life in China. (Poor Ying-Ying.)

Waverly Tells Lindo that she will blend in so well with the Chinese on her honeymoon that she won’t be allowed to return to America. When Lindo replies that the Chinese will know Waverly is American before she even opens her mouth, Waverly is disappointed. Lindo remembers her early days in the United States, working in a fortune cookie company and meeting Waverly's father and having two sons - Winston (wins ton) and Vincent (win cent). There's a thing about how both Lindo and Waverly have crooked noses and Lindo urges Waverly to get it fixed, but Waverly likes how it makes them look devious.

We finish with June going to China with her father. He reunites with family. She learns about how her mother stuffed her half-sisters shirts with jewelry and money and wrote their names on the back of photos with a message asking their rescuer to care for the babies and bring them to her address when safe again. Unfortunately, their rescuers were never able to find her mother. She meets her half-sisters and they greet her joyfully.

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Hat mentions (why hats?):

small brown felt hat ("Magpies")

tucked into this hat ("Magpies")

foreign men in hats ("Magpies")

I see cat. I see rat. I see hat. ("Double Face")

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Lines of note:

Wearing those clothes, I felt as if I had grown new hands and feet and I would now have to learn to walk in a new way. ("Magpies")

"She makes clouds with one hand, rain with the other." ("Magpies")

I was far more pretty than my daughter, who has country feet and a large nose like her father's. ("Waiting Between the Trees")

When my daughter looks at me, she sees a small old lady. That is because she sees only with her outside eyes. She has no chuming, no inside knowing of things. If she had chuming, she would see a tiger lady. And she would have careful fear. ("Waiting Between the Trees")

She learned these things, but I couldn't teach her about Chinese character. How to obey parents and listen to your mother's mind. How not to show your own thoughts, to put your feelings behind your face so you can take advantage of hidden opportunities. Why easy things are not worth pursuing. How to know your own worth and polish it, never flashing it around like a cheap ring. Why Chinese thinking is best. ("Double Face")

I walked up this hill and then I saw a tall building. This was Old St. Mary's. Under the church sing, in  handwritten Chinese characters, someone had added: "A Chinese Ceremony to Save Ghosts from Spiritual Unrest 7 A.M. and 8:30 A.M." I memorized this information in case the authorities asked me where I worshipped my religion. And then I saw another sign across the street. It was painted on the outside of a short building. And I thought to myself, This is where American people worship. ("Double Face")

...I think about all the different ways we leave people in this world. Cheerily waving good-bye to some at airports, knowing we'll never see each other again. Leaving others on the side of the road, hoping that we will.  ("A Pair of Tickets")

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Things I looked up:

famous Shantung sing-song girl ("Magpies") - Sing-song girls, also known as flower girls, is an English-language term for the high class prostitutes in China during the 19th century

The whole watermelon scene in "Waiting Between the Trees." - Turns out kai gwa is a euphemism for taking her virginity. Once I figured this out, it made more sense and the whole scene was even worse to read. 

soups served out of a carved winter melon ("A Pair of Tickets") - Is this a thing?

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Questions to ponder:

1) Please explain the parable to me.

2) The novel begins with the mothers, includes two parts on the daughters, and returns to the mothers in the last part. Why do you think it's structured this way? Why do you think the book has Suyuan die so that her part of the story is told from June's perspective?

3) There are so many heartbreaking birth/childhood stories in this book - Ying-Ying's dead baby, Bing's death, Suyuan's abandoned daughters, An-mei's stolen child - what purpose does this serve in the theme of the mother and daughter relationships? 

4) How much of the communication breakdowns between the women and their daughters was because of culture? How much was generational?

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Last week's homework:

What was your theme last week? Did you pick it up when you were reading?

My theme was color and I think the biggest example of it was white, particularly in "Magpies."

And when I opened that box, all my shame, my fears, they fell away. Inside was a new starch-white dress. It had ruffles at the collar and along the sleeves and six tiers of ruffles for a skirt. The box also contained white stocking, white leather shoes, and an enormous white hair bow, already shaped and ready to be fastened on with two loose ties. 

Later on in the chapter: I looked down at my own white dress covered with grass stains and I felt ashamed.

The white stands for the symbolism of the child An-mei here. She has no idea what she's stepping into by going to her mother's home. Her mother as the fourth wife, bringing shame on to her family. And then the grass stain is her mother's shame. 

There are also the white pearls that the second wife gives An-mei, which we soon learn are fake glass. 

It was interesting to see the parallels here between An-mei and her mother as the story progressed. 

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Upcoming CBBC schedule:

November 10: Wrap up!