Friday, October 17, 2025

Five for Friday, Edition #31

1) CBBC homework - CBBC friends, don't forget to send me a photo of your book if you want it included in next week's post. I don't have very many, so it would be nice to get some more.  Deadline for sending it in is Sunday by noon central. dominique100 @ hotmail dot com

2) Workity work - I am just going to show you my work calendar for this week. 


Just to give you a comparison, here's what the previous week looked like. Still busy, but at least I had time to eat lunch and I left at 11 on Friday. 

I am so tired. I am behind in email, grading, and life. And it's the fault of workity work.

3) Weekend! My weekend "off" - in the sense that I am not traveling - includes plans to attend a fundraiser tomorrow night, test drive more cars (maybe buy one?), and go to Costco. We also need to make sweet potatoes and chicken for Hannah, give Hannah a bath, and put up Halloween decor. It would be nice if I could catch up on grading at some point, too. 

4) Songs that I repeat when they come on Spotify: 

"Am I Okay?" by Megan Moroney  - When you find that right fit, the world does seem to align better. 

"Blood Money" by Jon Bon Jovi - I have no real justification for loving this song. It's from the Young Guns Two soundtrack (JBJ's first solo album) and I sing along to every song on the album, but this one is not-so-secretly my favorite.

"Yankee Sailor" by Great Big Sea - I love GBS. I have the studio version of this song on Spotify, but I really like a live version. If this song isn't your jam (SO SAD), maybe listen to "Have a Cuppa Tea" instead? 

"Always the Last to Know" by Del Amitri - I might be the last living huge Del Amitri fan. This live version gives me feeeeeeelings.

"Another Saturday Night" by Sam Cooke - Look, if you're not excited by the line "Instead of being my deliverance, she had a strange resemblance to a cat named Frankenstein," maybe you shouldn't go on a road trip with me.

"Riding with Private Malone" by David Ball - I mean, this is '90s country at its best. 

"Small Town Saturday Night" by Hal Ketchum - Speaking of '90s country, is this the best country song from the '90s? My favorite line: Lucy, you know the world must be flat / 'Cause when people leave town, they never come back. When I was in college,  this line was in my email signature.  I was cool. 

5) Songs that are on my Spotify playlist despite the fact that they make me cry: 

"Elephant" by Jason Isbell - The line "There's one thing that's real clear to me: No one dies with dignity" does it every time. (There's an unnecessary f-bomb in this song, so it's explicit if you care about that.)

"The House That Built Me" by Tanya Tucker - I don't actually like the Miranda Lambert version of this song very much, but the "But once the kids were grown/It was just too much for me" in the Tucker version makes me want to crawl out of my skin. The line is "Daddy gave life to Mama's dream" in Lambert's version. 

"Long December" by the Counting Crows - Right now I'm clinging to the "Maybe this year will be better than the last" line. 

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What song do you always listen to more than once? Do you have songs that make you cry? 

Tuesday, October 14, 2025

CBWC October 2025 - Week Two

It's Cool Blogger Walking Club (CBWC) time. Hosted by Elisabeth, we're trying for ten minutes of intentional movement every day.

Tuesday, October 7 - A couple of walks with Hannah. This was the most cooperative I could get her to be for a photo op. She mostly wants to chew sticks and roll in the grass.

Wednesday, October 8 - Am I pissy about having to go outside in a coat and a hat? Yes, yes, I am. I had a few walks with Hannah the dog today - she's loving the cooler weather and has taken to rolling around in the grass like a champion who has never had any problems with her back which I think is the cutest thing ever - but the best walk was an afternoon walk around campus where I just wandered.

Thursday, October 9 - This dog. Are you seeing the attitude? We went for a few walks today, the two of us. I also wandered around campus an awful lot. I actually enjoy days when I have meetings in buildings that aren't where my office is located.

Friday, October 10 - Raining morning walk with my girl. I'm leaving work early and driving to Michigan, so this is our one and only walk for the day. 

Saturday, October 11 - I did some yoga in the morning, but I didn't get a walk in. I was staying with friends and thought it would be rude to just get up and leave for a walk. 

Sunday, October 12 - Walk with my girl Hannah first thing when I got home! It was windy and felt a bit unsettled, but we did it. 

Monday, October 13 - A few walks with Hannah. Here you can see her pretending she's a hunting dog in a full pointer stance. What's she looking at, you ask? I wish I could tell you. 

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Who's your favorite walking companion? 

Monday, October 13, 2025

CBBC Week One: The Joy Luck Club, Part I


Welcome to the first week of the Cool Bloggers Book Club (CBBC) where we will be discussing The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan! CBBC makes it sound like this is some exclusive club, but anyone can join, blogger or not. You're already cool if you're here. I'm happy you are here and making this journey with all of us. As always, the ground rules for CBBC are:

1) Don't apologize. Don't apologize for having a lot or a little to say in the comments. Don't apologize because you're not an expert on something. Don't apologize because you don't have a doctorate in English literature. Don't apologize if you fall behind or can't keep up. Have fun and say what you have to say. You and your thoughts are important.(If you need more information on this, see my post on Foster's How To Read Literature Like a Professor.)

2) Feel free to come back and respond to comments more than once! I love it when there's a dialogue in the comments.

3) Have fun reading, thinking about the book, and discussing it! Don't feel limited to my discussion prompts - talk about whatever you feel like talking about.

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Who is Amy Tam?

Amy Tan is an American author best known for writing her debut novel The Joy Luck Club, a 1989 book that was later adapted into a 1993 film. She is the second of three children born to Chinese immigrants John and Daisy Tan. Her father was an electrical engineer and Baptist minister who traveled to the United States, in order to escape the chaos of the Chinese Civil War. When she was fifteen, her father and older brother, Peter, both died of brain tumors within six months of each other.

Her mother Daisy subsequently moved Amy and her younger brother, John Jr, to Switzerland. During this period, Amy learned about her mother's previous marriage to another man in China, of their four children (a son who died as a toddler and three daughters). She also learned how her mother left those children in Shanghai, which is an integral part of the story of The Joy Luck Club

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What happened in these chapters?

In the first section, "Feathers From A Thousand Li Away," each chapter focuses on one of four women who make up the Joy Luck Club, a club formed in China under Japanese occupation that was revived when the women met again in San Francisco. 

The first chapter is told from the perspective of Jing-Mei Woo, whose late mother Suyuan Woo has recently died. Jing-Mei has taken the place of her mother in the Joy Luck Club and she recounts the story of how her mother Suyuan was forced to flee from her home in Kweilin and abandon her children. Suyuan later found out that her first husband died. After that she married June's father and immigrated to the United States where June was born. June learns from the other female members of the Joy Luck Club that her half-sisters are alive. They ask June to go to China and meet her sisters, and tell them about Suyuan's death.

The next three chapters finish the section with a childhood tale from each of the founding women in The Joy Luck Club. 

An-Mei Hsu's story relates how she was raised by her maternal grandmother. Her mother returns only to cut off "a piece of meat" from "the softest part of her arm" ("Scar") (!!) to cook a soup in hopes of healing An-Mei's grandmother, though An-Mei's grandmother still dies.

Lindo Jong explains how a matchmaker connected her with her future husband when she was an infant. This match led to a loveless marriage. Lindo was continually pressured by her mother-in-law's desire for Lindo to produce grandchildren , even though Lindo's husband was not holding up his end of the bargain to make that happen. Lindo lies in such a way as to annul her marriage and she emigrates to the United States.

Lastly, Ying-Ying St. Clair tells the story of how she fell into a lake on a family boat ride during the Moon Festival when she was four. She's a spoiled little girl with a hovering nanny, but she wants to play like the boys. After being rescued by a group of professional fisherpeople, she realizes that she is lost. The fisherpeople DROP HER OFF ONSHORE and Ying-Ying wanders into an outdoor performance featuring the Moon Lady, who is supposed to grant unspoken wishes. But when Ying-Ying approaches the Moon Lady after the play to wish to be returned to her family, she discovers the Moon Lady is played by a man. 

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Hat mentions (why hats?):

None.

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Things I looked up:

Second Sino-Japanese war ("The Joy Luck Club") - Suyuan flees China as a young woman when Japanese forces invade the city of Kweilin. This reflects actual historical events in the Second Sino-Japanese War, which was fought between 1937 and 1945. During the eight-year war (which overlapped with World War II), Japan aggressively attacked mainland China, hoping to expand the Japanese empire onto the Asian continent. Over twenty million Chinese citizens were killed or displaced during the ground invasions. Japan succeeded in capturing many major Chinese cities, including Shanghai and Nanjing, until it became involved in World War II in 1941, fighting against the United States and other Allied countries. Japan surrendered to Allied forces in 1945, after the United States dropped two atomic bombs on the cities of Hiroshima and Nagasaki, killing millions of Japanese citizens. As part of the surrender agreement, China regained all its seized land in 1946.

tl;dr - Imperial Japan invaded China, killing lots of innocent civilians in the process. (I felt a wave a familiarity when I realized Pachinko was a similar book about a Japanese invasion.)

Basic geography of China (where is Kweilin as related to Shanghai?) ("The Joy Luck Club")


Kuomintang ("The Joy Luck Club") - a Chinese political party that ruled mainland China from 1927 to 1949 prior to its relocation to Taiwan as a result of the Chinese Civil War

rules of mahjong ("The Joy Luck Club") - Ha ha ha. I'll link to the Wikipedia page. I got confused about three sentences in. I'm a simple lady who likes my games to be simple. 

The Moon Festival ("The Moon Lady") - This is a harvest festival. On this day, the Chinese believe that the moon is at its fullest and brightest, coinciding with the time of harvest in the middle of autumn. 

Mama's aunt...who still plucked her forehead bald ("The Moon Lady") - During the Middle Ages, a high forehead was deemed especially beautiful, and women and girls not naturally endowed with this characteristic plucked their foreheads (sometimes burning the follicles with hot pins to keep them from regrowing) to achieve the almost baby-like bald forehead.

So mama's aunt was still doing this in the 1900s? That seems...weird. 

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Lines of notes:

That is the way it is with a wound. The wound begins to close in on itself, to protect what is hurting so much. And once it is closed, you no longer see what is underneath, what started the pain. ("Scar")

This is how a daughter honors her mother. It is shou so deep it is in  your bones. The pain of the flesh is nothing. The pain you must forget. Because sometimes that is the only way to remember what is in your bones. You must peel off your skin, and that of your mother, and her mother before her. Until there is nothing. No scar, no skin, no flesh. ("Scar")

I watched as she took out a sharp, thin knife and began to slice open the fish bellies, pulling out the red slippery insides and throwing them over her shoulder into the lake. I saw her scrape off the fish scales, which flew into the air like shards of glass. And then there were two chickens that no longer gurgled after their heads were chopped off. And a big snapping turtle that stretched out its neck to bite a stick and - whuck! - off fell its head. And dark masses of thin freshwater eels, swimming furiously in a pot. Then the woman carried everything...("The Moon Lady")

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Questions to ponder:

1) Was anyone else sort of grossed out by this book? Eating human flesh? The bird abuse in "The Moon Lady" and that vivid description of preparing the food just above? I was not expecting to gag so much reading this book. 

2) I think we can already tell from the first chapter that a big theme of this book is going to be about difficult mother/daughter relationships. Do you have any predictions about what's going to happen? Is Jing-Mei going to meet her half-sisters? Will they accept her? I also suspect there will be a lot in here about identity (Chinese? American? Chinese-American?) and difficulties between multiple generations of immigrant families. 

3) I feel I have given short shrift to Lindo's chapter "The Red Candle." What does the candle represent? Do you think it was ethical for Lindo to essentially weasel out of her marriage by making up a symbolically rich dream that indicated bad outcomes for her in-laws or do you think it was a smart thing to do for her to save herself?

4) "See my sisters, tell them about my mother," I say, nodding. "What will I say? What can I tell them about my mother? I don't know anything. She was my mother." 

This is a paragraph from the first chapter. What is Jing-Mei trying to tell her aunties here? What do you think it's foreshadowing about what's to come? To what extent do you think it's true that daughters can never really know their mothers?

5) Does anyone else read these books and realize that your knowledge of world history is abysmal? 

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Homework for you: How are you reading this book? Paperback, ebook, audiobook? Where are you reading it? If you have a photo of your book (maybe in the cozy chair where you read!) you'd like to share with the rest of the group, send it in and I'll make a collage for next week.  Deadline for sending it in to make next week's post is 10/19 by noon central. dominique100 @ hotmail dot com

I'm listening to an audiobook and referencing a paper copy I got from the library. 


"The symbol on the book is for Tan. Penguin Drop Caps is a series of twenty-six hardcover editions of fine works of literature, each featuring on its cover a specially commissioned illustrated letter of the the alphabet by Jessica Hische." 

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Upcoming CBBC schedule:

October 20: Part II - The Twenty-Six Malignant Gates
October 27: Part III - American Translation
November 3: Part IV - Queen Mother of the Western Skies
November 10: Wrap up!

Friday, October 10, 2025

Five for Friday, Edition #30

1) Don't forget that we're starting our reading of The Joy Luck Club for Cool Bloggers Book Club (CBBC) on Monday! For the full schedule, check out this post

2) Has anyone else found themselves befuddled by the recent changes to Libby? Basically, you can no longer defer your loan if it becomes available when you won't be able to read it. You have to suspend the hold until you're ready to read the book. You don't lose your place in line or anything, but you have to remember to reactivate the loan when you're ready. I am endlessly frustrated by the fact that I forget to do this. I mean, we had a system that automatically did it - why is it now a manual process?!

3) My sister has done something terrible again. I won't go into details, but rest assured that I have only one more thing to do with her at the end of October/beginning of November and then I'll never have to deal with her again. 

4) At the beginning of the semester, I was excited because it seemed like blue jeans were making a comeback and that horrible athleisure trend was behind us. But then I realized that 2025 fashion on my campus is TRAGIC. Girls wearing crop tops with baggy pants, all the boys wearing baseball caps and khaki pants/shorts. Why can people not dress in a manner that is flattering?! I mean, one half of me is relieved that the athleisure phase is over - this seems like a sign that the COVID hangover is lessening - but the other half of me just wishes we could, as a species, realize that there are certain silhouettes that are flattering on some shapes and use this knowledge to our advantage. 

#getoffmylawn #kidsthesedays 

5) There's a thing happening here in Wisconsin. It's terrible. It's government dictating curriculum at the state universities. It should be illegal. Alas, it is not. Alas, it's going to be bad things for me and I'm over here dusting off my resume just in case. What this means is that liberal arts is being gutted in Wisconsin.

I'm not here to preach, but this whole post is preachy, so why am I going to stop myself on this bullet point? Liberal arts provide the foundation of critical thinking, communication, and problem solving that are crucial to everyone on this planet. We're not training our students for a particular job path or career. We're training them to be able to do ANY job. They learn how to go quickly from task to task, doing different things on a regular basis. We teach them how to work with people from diverse backgrounds - not just ethnically or racially diverse, but SES, disability, and sexual orientation. We teach people the soft skills employers say they want.

And they're just over here gutting general education like it's not the future of our students at stake. (And the jobs of many people in our college, if not the entire university.)

I probably shouldn't really talk about my work like this, but here we are. I feel like what I'm talking about is public knowledge and I'm not calling anyone out by name, but if you live in this state and don't know who is behind this, you're not paying attention.

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6) I can't leave it all with doom and gloom. Last weekend we went to a tourist place in Wisconsin with my sister-in-law (of podcast fame) and her family. We went to a waterpark and did an escape room - we finished with 20 minutes left! TWENTY MINUTES. We felt like geniuses. 

And then my niece and I got matching permanent jewelry. BECAUSE I AM THE COOL AUNT.


(I also managed to get a serious burn on both my elbows thanks to the most terrifying water slide I've ever been on. When a small child says, "don't worry, Aunt NGS, it's fine," DO NOT BELIEVE THEM. Also, they think I am brave and cool. Maybe?) 

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Who else is frustrated by the new Libby process? Do you think fashion is tragic right now? Have you even been to a waterpark? 

Thursday, October 09, 2025

September 2025: What I Spent

As a reminder, my husband pays the "big bills" like mortgage, phone, and electricity. I pay for groceries and the pets and that somehow evens things out.

Um. I have no excuses for what you're going to see, but I'll explain it all. Here's how it all shook out. 


Entertainment ($17.15, <1%) - Spotify and parking when I was in Madison one afternoon.

Fitness ($47.48, 1.2%) - This is my fitness classes for the rest of the year.

Cars ($50.81, 1.3%) - Gas a few times. 

Eating out ($120, 3.1%) - I had a friend in town a few days and we ate out quite a few times. 

Personal care ($130, 3.4%) - Pedicure, haircut, and some makeup items. 

Savings ($200, 5.2%) - The usual. 

Bills ($256.01, 6.6%) - Water/sewer, and house/car insurance. 

Health ($301, 7.8%) - Periodontist visit. My periodontal care is not paid for with insurance so this is all out of pocket for me. 

Pets ($383.16, 9.9%) - Food for both girls, I bought a card for the dog bath (5 baths for $40), and I bought some birdseed. 

Gifts ($431.37, 11.2%) - Greeting cards, a present for a bloggy friend, and a graduation present.

Groceries ($844.08, 21.9%) - There was no Costco trip this month, so this wasn't too bad. 

Clothes ($1080, 28%) - Here it is. Here's the big one. I bought new shoes to replace some that I need for the fall and winter, some winter dresses, and some leggings. I honestly don't have a good cold weather wardrobe for my job and last year I muddled through, but this year I want to make sure I have seven solid outfits. I'm still on the lookout for fun tights and/or leggings that aren't made of plastic. If you've got any leads, let me know. As you all know, I'm not at all frugal about the clothes I buy, but I try to buy ethically and I try to shop small businesses.

My new shoes are handmade here in the United States from CYDWOK (replacing a different pair I had for 13 years or so and had repaired repeatedly until they couldn't be repaired again) and I bought several items from Rowan Grey Clothing, a small place out of Michigan that handmakes all their items. 

Do I spend more than the average person on clothes? Yes. But I'm trying to do the best I can. 

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What do you spend more money than average on? Do you feel like you have to justify your spending? 

Wednesday, October 08, 2025

September 2025 Accountability Buddy

Monday, September 1
Day off

Tuesday, September 2 
30-minute power walk

Wednesday, September 3
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime*
45-minute yoga class at the community center after work

Thursday, September 4
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, September 5
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime
30-minute total body, functional fitness

Saturday, September 6
An hour in the yard! It's still a jungle.
23-minute anytime unwind yoga 
13-minute Pilates stretch for head, neck, and shoulders

Sunday, September 7
40-minute bike ride with my husband
40-minute everyday yoga flow with Charlie Follows

Monday, September 8
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Tuesday, September 9
30-minute total body strength
10-minute cool down stretch

Wednesday, September 10
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime
45-minute yoga class at the community center after work


Thursday, September 11
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, September 12
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime

Saturday, September 13
Day off

Sunday, September 14
30-minute total body no repeats - I really liked this one. I was a sweaty beast when I was done, but it felt good. 
15-minute gentle yoga flow for flexibility

Monday, September 15
15-minute standing abs
30-min deep tissue stretch yoga - Maybe there's too much prana, chi, and body energy in this video for me, but it is a good stretch. 

Tuesday, September 16
Day off

Wednesday, September 17
30-minute full body dumbbell workout - Really nice. I have had some issues with my leg and calf raises and lunges have been off limits for a while, but I did some here and didn't have pain. Yay!
10-minute cool down stretches

Thursday, September 18
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, September 19
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime

Saturday, September 20
30-minute power walk - I am a sweaty mess. 
10-minute back stretch

Sunday, September 21
30-minute full body strength circuit
30-minute post workout yoga practice

Monday, September 22
21-minute upper body yoga
10-minute bedtime yoga - I'm doing this at 9:30pm, which is my bedtime. I couldn't fit this in all day, so here we are attempting to fit it all in before I go to sleep. 

Tuesday, September 23
Day off

Wednesday, September 24
30-minute dumbbell HIIT

Thursday, September 25
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, September 26
Day off

Saturday, September 27
35-minute full body strength
15-minut fully body stretch

Sunday, September 28
40-minute fat burn zone speed walk - So sweaty.

Monday, September 29
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Tuesday, September 30
30-minute full-body supersets with dumbbells - Sort of half-assed, but half-assed is better than no assed. At least that's what we say in our house. 
16-minute check-in stretch - TWO adorable dogs. 

Total: 23/30 days (76.7%)
Cardio/strength: 13 days
Yoga: 13 days
Short stretch classes at lunchtime: 5 days

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*Our local healthcare organization does free stretch classes virtually three times a week. Sign up here! It's free. It's fun. We regularly talk about candy and what's for lunch. It's a delightful break in the middle of the day. You do not have to have your camera on. 
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If I had just fit it ONE MORE DAY, I could have hit my goal. So frustrating. Do you have any fitness goals that are frustrating you?

Tuesday, October 07, 2025

CWBC October 2025 - Week One


It's Cool Blogger Walking Club (CBWC) time. Hosted by Elisabeth, we're trying for ten minutes of intentional movement every day.

Wednesday, October 1
Hannah and I went for several walks today, but the only one in daylight was after work. It was in the 70s on this walk and Hannah was loving her life. 


Thursday, October 2
On our morning walk, Hannah and I came across this spoooooky house. I have talked about this before, but the first year we had Hannah, displays like this would have majorly freaked her out, but she was just sniffing the decorations today. I love that I don't have to be on edge with yard decorations any longer. 


Friday, October 3
A few walks with Hannah today, but my favorite walk was with my colleague. She's having some challenges in her life right now, but Friday morning we forgot about all that and just enjoyed a lovely Friday morning together. We did *some* work, but also futzed around a bit.



Saturday, October 4
My husband and I met up with his sister and her family at a waterpark in a nearby touristy area on Saturday. The three of us went for a post-lunch walk after some waterpark time while the kids played at a very loud arcade. We saw horses! I complained about my sister! My husband complained about the state legislature! 


Sunday, October 5
It has been unseasonably hot here. Hannah, as you can see, is over it. Today was the last day of the super hot weather and I think we're going to settle into more autumnal vibes.


Monday, October 6
It was a lovely day until it wasn't. Here was part of the lovely day. I took a couple of walks with Hannah, but my trip to and from yoga on campus was a real highlight. 

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Do you ever see wildlife or livestock on your CBWC walks? When's the last time you went on a walk with someone else?