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For boring reasons (*sigh* my husband had rhadbo) I took a week off from work in January. This reflects in the crazy number of books I was able to finish.
Unfortunately, it was sort of a lackluster reading month. February better be stronger!
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1/2: Grave Sight (Harper Connelly #1) by Charlaine Harris (library ebook, 2005) - I reread this as I was waiting for books to become available on Libby. I like Harper and I like the weird, creepy premise of the book that she can sense dead bodies and tell how people died. 4/5 stars
1/3: The Fox Wife by Yangsze Choo (library, 2024) - It took a bit for me to get into this story about a woman who can change into a fox, but by the end I wanted to know all the answers. 4/5 stars
1/5: A Boy and His Dog at the End of the World by C.A. Fletcher (library ebook, 2019) - Dystopia! The world is mostly empty after birth rates plummeted. Someone steals a dog. Frankly, this book was too tense for me. SPOILER behind the button.
1/8: New York 2140 by Kim Stanley Robinson (library audiobook narrated by Suzanne Toren, Robin Miles, Peter Ganim, Jay Snyder, Caitlin Kelly, Michael Crouch, Ryan Vincent Anderson, Christopher Ryan Grant, and Robert Blumenfeld) - It's my fault that I read two dystopian novels written by men in a row. This one was very male gaze-y. It was also really long and there were sections that strained my own incredulity and I am a lady who likes to read books about dragons. 3/5 stars
1/9: I Hope This Finds You Well by Natalie Sue (library, 2024) - Book club pick for the month. I was resistant to this at first, but it wormed its way into my heart. Interesting discussion. 3/5 stars
1/11: The Secret of the Old Clock (Nancy Drew #1) by Carolyn Keene (audiobook narrated by Nate DiMeo on The Memory Palace, 1930) - This book is in the public domain now! DiMeo read it in his awesome voice and I learned that this book was boring and I have clearly grown out of Nancy Drew. But there's something about how perfect Nancy is that amuses me. Also, can I have a blue roadster? 3/5 for the book, but 5/5 for DiMeo's reading
1/18: Katabasis by R.F. Kuang (library, 2025) - Interesting, but not nearly as interesting as Babel. 3.5/5 stars
1/20: Paris Daillencourt Is about to Crumble (Winner Bakes All #2) by Alexis Hall (library, 2022) - I wanted to love this book about a gay man who gets on a Bake Off-type show and falls in love. But Paris is a mess. If you don't want to seek help for your mental illness, that's great, but you have to figure your shit out. If you think I don't like women who can't get their shit together books, imagine what I think of men who can't get their shit together books. 3/5 stars
1/21: The Lost City of Z by David Grann (library audiobook narrated by Mark Deakins, 2009) - What a dad book. Dumb reporter heads to the Amazon to look for a lost explorer and a mythical lost civilization following the trail of other dumb white men. The narrator's voice was very soothing, though, so that's something. 3/5 stars
1/22: The Space Between Worlds (The Space Between Worlds #1) by Micaiah Johnson (library, 2020) - This is my third attempt to read this book. It should have stayed a DNF. The pacing was all over the place and was boring for 50% and too action-packed for the other 50%. I loved the idea of this book, but the execution did not work for me. 2/5 stars
1/22: The Gales of November: The Untold Story of the Edmund Fitzgerald by John U. Bacon (library ebook, 2025) - I like to read a book set on the Great Lakes! 4/5 stars
1/25: Cue the Sun! The Invention of Reality TV by Emily Nussbaum (library, 2024) - Nussbaum is both a fan and a critic of reality tv and I dug this book. 4.5/5 stars
1/25: The Time I Got Drunk and Saved A Demon (Mead Mishaps #1) by Kimberly Lemming (library ebook, 2021) - It took me almost a year to get this book via Libby. I don't want to give spoilers, but this is about a human and a demon hooking up. I am...not on board with inter-species romance novels. I'll take the label of prude. 2/5 stars
1/29: Arrows of the Queen (Valdemar: The Arrows Trilogy #1) by Mercedes Lackey (library, 1987) - Hmmm...there are thirteen more books in this saga after this trilogy. Can I make it through all of them? 3/5 stars
DNF
Today Tonight Tomorrow (Rowan and Neil #1) by Rachel Lynn Solomon - I've literally had this on my list on Libby for six months. But this is YA? And starts with a series of snippy texts? NGS out. DNF at 5%.
Lab Girl by Hope Jahren - I read maaaaaybe twenty pages when a different book I actually wanted to read came in for my Kindle. Not fair on my part, I bet.
There's an Internet Archive version of the book if you can't find it at your local library.
Welcome to the first week of the Cool Bloggers Book Club (CBBC) where we will be discussing the Pulitzer Prize winning The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton! CBBC makes it sound like this is some exclusive club, but anyone can join, blogger or not. You're already cool if you're here. I'm happy you are here and making this journey with all of us. As always, the ground rules for CBBC are:
1) Don't apologize. Don't apologize for having a lot or a little to say in the comments. Don't apologize because you're not an expert on something. Don't apologize because you don't have a doctorate in English literature. Don't apologize if you fall behind or can't keep up. Have fun and say what you have to say. You and your thoughts are important.(If you need more information on this, see my post on Foster's How To Read Literature Like a Professor.)
2) Feel free to come back and respond to comments more than once! I love it when there's a dialogue in the comments.
3) Have fun reading, thinking about the book, and discussing it! Don't feel limited to my discussion prompts - talk about whatever you feel like talking about.
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Who was Edith Wharton?
Edith Wharton was born Edith Newbold Jones in New York City in 1862. Her family was mad rich, yo. Wharton's paternal family, the Joneses, were a very wealthy and socially prominent family, having made their money in real estate. The saying "keeping up with the Joneses" is said to refer to her father's family. She was born during the Civil War, so her family traveled to Europe after the war in part because of the depreciation of American currency. From 1866 to 1872, the Jones family visited France, Italy, Germany, and Spain. At the age of nine, she suffered from typhoid fever, which nearly killed her, while the family was at a spa in the Black Forest. After the family returned to the United States in 1872, they spent their winters in New York City and their summers in Newport, Rhode Island.
At age 17, Edith Jones “came out” into society, making the rounds of dances and parties in Newport and New York, observing the rituals of her privileged world, a world she would later skewer in her fiction. Her childhood ended with the death of her father in March of 1882, followed by two romantic disappointments. Still unmarried at the age of 23, Edith was rapidly approaching “old maid” status. In 1885 she married Edward (Teddy) Robbins Wharton. Though imperfectly suited for each other, the couple filled their early married years with travel, houses, and dogs.
While living in Newport, Wharton honed her design skills, co-authoring (with Ogden Codman, Jr.) her first major book, a surprisingly successful non-fiction work on design and architecture, The Decoration of Houses (1897).
In 1901, eager to escape Newport, Wharton bought 113-acres in Lenox, then designed and built a manse called The Mount, which you can go tour today. Hey, do we have any Massachusetts readers who could go visit?
The Whartons would live at The Mount for ten years. Here she would write some of her greatest works, including The House of Mirth (1905) and Ethan Frome (1911) while her marriage disintegrated under the weight of Teddy Wharton’s chronic depression and Edith's affair with Morton Fullerton, an author and foreign correspondent for The Times of London. The Whartons sold The Mount in 1911, and they divorced in 1913. Edith Wharton moved permanently to France and Teddy returned to his sister’s home. Teddy died in 1928.
In 1914, when World War I broke out, Edith Wharton was wealthy, famous, recently divorced, and living in her favorite city, Paris. Instead of withdrawing to the safety of England or returning to the United States, Wharton chose to stay and devote herself to creating a complex network of charitable and humanitarian organizations. In 1916, Wharton received the French Legion of Honor for her war work.
At the end of the war, Wharton moved out of Paris to Pavillon Colombe, a suburban villa in the village of St.Brice-sous-Forêt. In 1921, her novel of old New York, The Age of Innocence, won the Pulitzer Prize for fiction. In 1920 she acquired Château Ste. Claire, a restored convent in the south of France. For the rest of her life, she divided her time between these two homes, devoted to her friends and dogs, writing prolifically, traveling, and gardening. Look, I gotta be honest, Edith Wharton's life sounds pretty great to me!
She died on August 11, 1937, age 75 at Pavillon Colombe. She is buried, in the Cimetière des Gonards in Versailles, close to her good friend Walter Berry.
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What happened in these chapters?
(Friends, I've never read this book. I have no idea what's important and what's not, so this is quite detailed.)
We open at the opera when Newland Archer (WTF kind of name is that?) arrives late. He eyeballs a young girl in the box across from his and it turns out this girl is May Welland, his soon-to-be-fiancée. A scandalously dressed woman appears in the box with May and her family and it's May's cousin Countess Ellen Olenska.
In a ball held at the Beaufort house after the opera, May and Archer announce their engagement. Countess Olenska did not come to the ball.
Then May and Archer start on betrothal visits, which sound kind of nightmarish to me. Archer heads over to the Mingott place and Mrs. Mingott approves of the betrothal. Towards the end of the visit, Countess Olenska shows up. She was *gasp* with Mr. Beaufort who walked her home in broad daylight. Mrs. Mingott doesn't seem to notice anything untoward about this, but Archer has thoughts.
Meanwhile, Mr. Sillerton Jackson goes to the Archer place for dinner where the food is terrible because Mrs. Archer doesn't spend her money foolishly on things like food. They gossip over Countess Olenska - did she have an affair with her husband's secretary and/or is her husband an absolute beast? Archer ends up saying "Women ought to be free - as free as we are" (Chapter 5) because he feels the need to defend his fiancée's family. Archer takes to his study to have a think about the whole situation.
Meanwhile, the Mingotts invite people to their home to meet Ellen Olenska, but most of them decline. The social ramifications are intense! Archer has his own mother appeal to Louisa van der Luyden, a real shaker and OG NY family. The van der Lyudens chat things over and say they will support Countess Olenska by inviting her to their reception for the Duke of St. Austrey.
We learn more about Olenska's background - her parents died and she was left to be cared for by her irresponsible and feckless aunt, Medora Manson. She married a Polish count, the marriage ended under less than great circumstances, and now Olenska is back with the comfort of her family. She attends the van der Luyen's reception for the Duke, but arrives late and somewhat disheveled and commits the faux pas of leaving the Duke's side to go to talk to Archer.
The next day Archer goes to visit Olenska, but she's not there, so he nosily pokes around her stuff. Once she arrives, they talk about New York society and she cries because she doesn't understand the norms. When Archer takes his leave, he sends flowers to both May and the Countess.
He and May are walking in the park the next discussing their long engagement. Archer wants it shorter. He also muses on how she doesn't seem to be able to be able to think for herself. When he gets home, his sister Janey bursts in to tell him that Countess Olenska had been at Mrs. Lemuel Struthers' party the previous night. Mrs. Struthers is a social climbing commoner. As Archer argues with his family as to the impropriety of Olenska's actions, Mr. Henry van der Luyden is announced. He has just called on Countess Olenska to tactfully warn her about following the Duke to certain common parties.
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All pages numbers are from the Internet Archive version linked above.
Hat mentions (why hats?):
"I wonder if she wears a round hat or a bonnet in the afternoon," Janey speculated. (page 37)
Beaufort stood, hat in hand, saying something...(page 70)
he saw the familiar tall-hatted figures lounging behind the plateglass (page 82)
smoothed his tall hat shyly (page 87)
laid his hat and gloves on the floor beside him in the old-fashioned way (page 87)
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Things I looked up:
Christine Nilsson (page 1) - she was a real Swedish opera singer (1843-1921)
droit de cite (page 17) - citizenship; acceptance
enfilade (page 19) - a suite of rooms with doorways in line with each other
bouton d'or (page 19 and 20) - buttercup - I looked up what wallpaper might look like with this as a motif since wallpaper would have been a growing fad among some people in the 1870s
Love Victorious by Bouguereau (page 20) - Adolphe-William Bouguereau (1825-1905), a French painter who won the Prix de Rome in 1850, was well known for his nudes. Bouguereau never painted a painting called Love Victorious, but it’s thought that Wharton may have had this one in mind, Le Printemps (The Return of Spring), painted in 1886.
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Marble Faun (page 31) - The Marble Faun: Or, The Romance of Monte Beni, also known by the British title Transformation, was the last of the four major romances by Nathaniel Hawthorne, and was published in 1860. The Marble Faun is set in a fantastical Italy. The romance mixes elements of a fable, pastoral, gothic novel, and travel guide.
Ouida's novels (page 31) - Maria Louise Ramé (1839-1908), going by the name Marie Louise de la Ramée and known by the pseudonym Ouida, was an English novelist. Ouida wrote more than 40 novels, as well as short stories, children's books and essays. Moderately successful, she lived a life of luxury, entertaining many of the literary figures of the day.
enbonpoint (page 32) - the plump or fleshy part of a person's body, in particular a woman's bosom; most often used to describe people of heavy, but not unattractive, girth. It derives from "en bon point," a phrase from Middle French that means "in good condition."
Gainsborough's Lady Angelica du Lac (page 49) - Thomas Gainsborough (1727-1788) was an English portrait and landscape painter, draughtsman, and printmaker. Along with his rival Sir Joshua Reynolds, he is considered one of the most important British artists of the second half of the 18th century. This particular painting appears to be fictitious.
Esther interceding with Ahasuerus (page 55) - From chapters 5-7 in the Old Testament book of Esther, in which Esther intercedes with King Ahasuerus to spare the Jews. The king had taken Esther as his wife, not knowing she was Jewish, but when his councilor Haman decreed that all Jews in the Persian empire should be massacred, Esther intervened on behalf of her people and the king granted her request.
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| Intercession of Esther with King Ahasuerus and Haman by Pietro Paolini (1603-1681) |
Buhl furniture (pages 19 and 69) - brass, tortoiseshell, or other material cut to make a pattern and used for inlaying furniture
vitrine (page 69) - glass display case
symbolic meaning of lily of the valley and yellow roses (page 77) - Lily of the valley symbolize humility, purity, and the return of happiness. Yellow roses primarily symbolize friendship, joy, warmth, and platonic affection, serving as a cheerful gesture of caring, congratulations, or "welcome back"
Swinburne's Chastelard (page 83) - a play by Algernon Charles Swinburne, first published in 1865, that dramatizes the doomed love affair between the French poet Pierre de Boscosel de Chastelard and Mary, Queen of Scots, set in the 16th-century Scottish court
Contes Drolatiques (page 83) - usually translated Droll Stories, is a collection of humorous short stories by the French writer Honoré de Balzac, based on Giovanni Boccaccio's The Decameron and influenced by François Rabelais. The stories are written in pastiche Renaissance French; although the title promises a hundred, only thirty were published, in groups of ten in 1832, 1833, and 1837.
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Lines of notes:
Though there was already talk of the erection (page 1) - Look, I know I have the sensibilities of a teenage boy, but this was the second sentence of the book and I was giggling.
He hated to think of May Welland's being exposed to the influence of a young woman so careless of the dictates of Taste. (page 12) - Oh, Archer. You're such a twat.
The Beauforts' house was one of the few in New York that possessed a ball-room (it antedated even Mrs. Manson Mingott's and the Headly Chiverses) ; and at a time when it was beginning to be thought "provincial" to put a "crash" over the drawing-room floor and move the furniture upstairs, the possession of a ballroom that was used for no other purpose, and left for three-hundred-and-sixty-four days of the year to shuttered darkness, with its gilt chairs stacked in a corner and its chandelier in a bag; this undoubted superiority was felt to compensate for whatever was regrettable in the Beaufort past. (page 16) - Who here wants a ballroom in their house to make up for their regrettable past of financial shenanigans? *raises hand sheepishly*
The immense accretion of flesh which had descended on her in middle life like a flood of lava on a doomed city had changed her from a plump active little woman with a neatly-turned foot and ankle into something as vast and august as a natural phenomenon. (page 25) - Mean.
What could he and she really know of each other, since it was his duty, as a "decent" fellow, to conceal his past from her, and hers, as a marriageable girl, to have no past to conceal? (page 41) - Archer, you're still a twat.
She was straightforward, loyal and brave; she had a sense of humor (chiefly proved by her laughing at his jokes) ; and he suspected, in the depths of her innocently-gazing soul, a glow of feeling that it would be a joy to waken. (page 43) - Do I have to say it again? Archer, you're a twat.
The young man felt that his fate was sealed : for the rest of his life he would go up every evening between the cast-iron railings of that greenish-yellow doorstep, and pass through a Pompeian vestibule into a hall with a wainscoting of varnished yellow wood. (page 69) - Cry me a river.
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Questions to ponder:
1) I haven't read this before. If you haven't read it before, what do you think is going to happen in the rest of this book?
2) Okay, I know I repeatedly said Archer is a twat. But I do appreciate that he's honest with May. He was supposed to tell Olenska about their engagement, he didn't, but he fessed up to her. He sent Olenska flowers and I thought for sure he'd hide it from her, but he didn't. So while I think he's a twat of his time and place in society, he's also being up front about some stuff. What do you think of this characterization of Newland Archer?
3) The young man was sincerely but placidly in love. (page 43)
"May is a darling; I've seen no young girl in New York so handsome and so intelligent. Are you very much in love with her?"
Newland Archer reddened and laughed. "As much as a man can be." (page 61)
Consider the above two quotes, along with Archer's musings over how perfect May looks, but also how she doesn't seem to be a critical thinker. What do you think Archer really thinks about May? What do you think May thinks about Archer? Who wants to read this book from May or Mrs. Mingott's POV?
4) What role is New York high society playing in this book? Which is to say, how do you think this book would be different if Archer and May were two kids living in the same neighborhoods Francie Nolan would end up?
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Homework for you: How are you reading this book? Paperback, ebook, audiobook, though the Internet archive? Where are you reading it? If you have a photo of your book (maybe you're reading it on the beach!) you'd like to share with the rest of the group, send it in and I'll make a collage for next week. Deadline for sending it in to make next week's post is 1/7 by noon central. dominique 100 at hotmail dot com
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Upcoming CBBC schedule:
2) Reminder that Elisabeth is also starting the Finding Joy in Gratitude Collective on Sunday! Get started on finding things to be grateful for!
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3) Weather update: It's cold as balls. I actually considered the high of 15F/-9C on Wednesday to be warm. It didn't get above 0 for five days straight and is still regularly going below zero at night. I mean, most of the country is in this polar vortex, but I just take comfort in the fact that it's literally too cold to snow here.
I bring this up because of poor Hannah. Her boots are tearing up her feet. I got home on Tuesday and Hannah came up to me wagging her tail and when I said "do you want to go outside for a walk?" her little tail tucked and she dropped her head. No more boots, says I! I have ordered some fancy Canada Pooch suspender boots, but I suspect they won't come in until the cold snap has been completed.
4) Earlier this week, I confessed to a personal demerit on Elisabeth's blog: I need to make a phone call about a contact lens rebate. The paperwork is stalled and I think I did something wrong, but I don’t know what. The thing is that the place is in a different time zone and I work and it’s only available a few times a week and blah, blah, blah. I just need to write it down and do it. It’s a pretty sizeable rebate and I don’t want to leave money on the table.
Friends, I resubmitted the paperwork. Let's see how it shakes down. Thanks, Elisabeth, for the encouragement to get to it.
5) Last week, NPR posted a list of its best music videos of MTV's golden era (1981 - 2001). RIP MTV, right? This devolved into Dr. BB and I watching a lot of music videos and debating their choices.
I know these lists have to be incomplete, but it's utter bullshit that my girl Madonna doesn't get a shoutout here. Madonna was the queen of the music video. Which do I pick? "Like a Virgin"? "Like a Prayer"? "Material Girl"? "Papa Don't Preach"? My husband would make a plea for "Open Your Heart." FUCKING "Vogue"!!
OH. And how about "Cold Hearted" from Paula Abdul? Or "Rush Rush" which is a classic music video?
I'm done. What video do you think should be on this list?
Our dogsitters think we're strict. In the world of dog training, I assure you that we're barely doing anything. However, we do have some rules.
Rule #1: The dog isn't allowed on the furniture.
This rule started when we first adopted her because we wanted Zelda the Cat to be able to escape from the dog if needed. However, when Hannah had some back issues it became more of a law than a rule. However, don't feel too bad for her. She doesn't really like to cuddle and there are plenty of places for her to lay down that aren't on furniture. See photo proof below. She's not allowed to go upstairs, either, which means I don't know if Hannah's ever even seen a human bed.
Rule #2: Dogs have to stop and let the human look both ways when you come to an intersection on a walk. We used to have her sit at each intersection, but it honestly takes too much time and sometimes it's wet and sometime it's cold. Now I will accept a standing halt. A clicking noise with my tongue and "good girl" is her release.
Rule #3: The dog has to wait on her pad until she is released to eat her meal. This is basically to prevent us from tripping over her. Safety first! "Get your breakfast/dinner!" with a huge arm flourish is her release for food.
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| Food is on the left in the purple puzzle dish. Dog is on the right on her pad. Winter accessories are everywhere. |
Rule #4: Steps outside have proven to be verrrry challenging for Hannah. I think that's because she doesn't do any steps in our house. So we do one step at a time. I have been trying to get the number up to two at a time, but whenever I increase the number, she takes all the steps at a run. This is dangerous, particularly when it's slippery outside, so we're back to one step at a time with a very tight leash. When we get to the bottom, I put more slack in the leash and she knows she can do more than a step at a time.
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| It was 4F/feels like -11F when I took this photo. She had just put her whole muzzle in a snowbank. Dogs are weird. |
Do you think we're strict? What are your house rules that are never broken?
Stephany recommended Cue the Sun! The Invention of Reality TV by Emily Nussbaum almost a year ago and I just got around to reading it. I mean, I do eventually circle around to my TBR.
Like Stephany, if you had asked me about the origins of reality television, I would have said it all started with The Real World on MTV (RIP MTV). Of course I would think it was The Real World because man did I eat that up when I was a teenager (This is the true story…of seven strangers…picked to live in a house…and have their lives taped…to find out what happens…when people stop being polite…and start getting real), but Nussbaum goes back in time and talks about Candid Camera and The Dating Game and goes into the deep history of the genre.
And then things get darker as modern reality tv shows pop up. The way contestants and crew were treated on shows like Survivor and The Bachelor was atrocious and Nussbaum discusses living and working conditions and brings receipts with interviews with people who had been on set (or, in the case of Survivor, on island where in the first season they didn't have places for the crew to sleep). She discusses the evolution of contestants from Julie's naive presence on The Real World to contestants who see these types of shows as a way to jumpstart their own influencer status.
And then things get even darker with The Apprentice and I will say no more than that. It was incredibly hard to read.
What I like about this is that Nussbaum is clearly a fan of the genre. She doesn't pretend that she wasn't watching the live feed of the first season of Big Brother 24/7. She doesn't shy away from her eagerness to see the next episode of The Bachelor. But she also knows there are definite issues with reality television, with the exploitation of labor, including cast and crew, with the long-term psychological damage, with the way it sends contestants off into the world of pseudo-celebrity without any support (or money), with the way it edits and cuts to create stories that weren't there, and with the way it distorts what reality is. And that's not to mention the gender and racial inequities.
I appreciate when books take pop culture seriously (more on why I take it seriously is here). What is shown on television and in the movies moves the needle in the world. The needle is often sociopolitical - think of Mr. Rogers dipping his feet into a pool with a black man, Dawson's Creek showing two men kissing, or Pedro Zamora showing everyone the reality of life of a gay man with HIV (more on him below). I think Nussbaum carves the perfect middle point of discussing why we enjoy reality with the critical lens of why we maybe shouldn't.
Even if you aren't a reality television person, this book is worth reading. I mean, look what's happening to the American politick if nothing else. 4.5/5 stars
Lines of note:
It was the reality paradox that would, in later years, became [sic] endemic: They were superstars, but without the paycheck or social protection that usually accompanied mind-blowing celebrity. Each cast member had earned $2,600, with the first half paid weekly to cover expenses. (page 138-139)
But he did find it irresponsible that MTV hadn't offered the cast any counseling. Part of the problem with reality fame was having trusted the producers in the first place, absorbing their praise, he pointed out: If you hated your portrayal, you had to confront the fact that maybe your "puppet masters" hadn't cared about you, after all. (page 140)
That was the catch-22 of the reality genre: The savvier its subjects became, the more self-aware about their roles, the less authentic the footage was - but, arguably, the more ethical. (page 141)
The European reality phenomenon has its own complicated history, involving a separate set of pioneers, many of them easily as shameless and piratical as any Hollywood Hustler. (page 172)
He didn't dislike the cast, he told me; it was hard not to feel some tenderness for people you watched all day. But being in the control room felt like being a prison guard - it was tempting to use your power. (page 259)
When Trump was elected president, some of the people who had worked on The Apprentice felt responsible, even (and based on my interviews, especially) those low on the call sheet. Camera operator Sarah Levy lamented that they had "created this false view of him." Former audio technician Richard Velazquez told me, "It kills me, because we created this jerk. We assisted him with his plans. It's our fault." (page 383)
For Mike Fleiss, the creator of The Bachelor, Trump's rise felt like an indelible stain on the genre, exposing something existentially rotten in the industry. "All that talk about the decline of Western civilization and the sign of the apocalypse? It turned out to be true," he said. (page 386)
Things I looked up:
Pedro Zamora (xvii) - He was after my time watching The Real World. Pedro Zamora was a Cuban-American AIDS educator and television personality. As one of the first openly gay men with AIDS to be portrayed in popular media, Zamora brought international attention to HIV/AIDS and LGBTQ issues and prejudices through his appearance on MTV's reality television series The Real World: San Francisco.
Zamora's romantic relationship with Sean Sasser was also documented on the show; their relationship was later nominated by MTV viewers for "Favorite Love Story" award, and the broadcast of their commitment ceremony in 1994, in which they exchanged vows, was the first such same-sex ceremony in television history, and is considered a landmark in the history of the medium. He died shortly after the finale of his season of The Real World aired at age 22.
Baudrillard (xix) - Sean Baudrillard was a French sociologist and philosopher with an interest in cultural studies. He is best known for his analyses of media, contemporary culture, and technological communication, as well as his formulation of concepts such as hyperreality. Frankly, I'm a bit surprised I didn't know this name.
Stanley Kowalski (page 24) - a fictional character in Tennessee Williams' play A Streetcar Named Desire. Do I have to read this play now?
1985 music video "Stop the Madness" (page 94) - Insane anti-drug video starring, among others, Whitney Houston (woof)
1951 "Bloody Christmas" scandal (page 99) - Bloody Christmas was the severe beating of seven civilians by members of the Los Angeles Police Department (LAPD) on December 25, 1951. The attacks, which left five Mexican American and two white young men with broken bones and ruptured organs, were only properly investigated after lobbying from the Mexican American community. The internal inquiry by Los Angeles Chief of Police William H. Parker resulted in eight police officers being indicted for the assaults, 54 being transferred, and 39 suspended.
sub-rosa (page 168) - a Latin phrase which denotes secrecy or confidentiality. The rose has an ancient history as a symbol of secrecy. Its opposite term is sub vino, meaning "under [the grape]vine", referring to being loose-lipped whilst under the influence of alcohol.
palapa (page 327) - ambiguous in the book - could be a thatched roof made of palm tree leaves, common in Central America and Mexico OR a Filipino condiment originating from the Maranao people
Hat mentions (why hats?):
...they all removed their hats. (page 21)
...as Funt breaks eggs into his expensive hat. (page 23)
Cracking a few eggs into a hat no longer felt especially transgressive...(page 27)
"Chuck would put a hat on me and make me his chauffeur, then have me drive to the dentist." (page 39)
He tugged his hat down over his eyes...(page 42)
...revealing a smirking drug dealer in a Panama hat...(page 94)
...lounge around their SoHo loft wearing clown hats and cowrie beads...(page 136)
"My hats are off to the people who created it..." (page 151)
Indiana Jones-esque Akubra hat (page 172)
a hat tip to the slavery miniseries Roots (page 244)
...wore only a red cowboy hat and a gun belt. (page 288)
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Did you click on the link to the "Stop the Madness" video? How batshit were the 1980s?
Rachel recently wrote an honest post about a handful of things that are not going well in her world. I fixated on how she has a complicated relationship with birthdays. I do, too! Mine is not the same complicated relationship as hers, though. I LOVE celebrating people's birthdays. I bring treats to work on my co-workers' birthdays. I celebrate my husband all day long. Part of this is because I LOVE finding and giving the perfect gifts. I also just want everybody to know how much they mean to me and it's easy to do on birthdays.
But my own birthday is regularly sort of forgotten. I *should* tell my husband what I want on my birthday and ask for him to make it happen. But, as I said in Rachel's comments, I don't think I should have to tell him and then he does nothing and then I'm sad. Oh, well. I suspect none of that is going to change.
What can I change?
How I celebrate YOU.
Do you want me to celebrate your birthday? I can do it in so many ways! I can do a whole shoutout here on my blog. I can quietly email or text you that I am thinking of you. I can send you SNAIL MAIL (if I'm being honest, I mostly want to send you snail mail). If you live within an hour drive of wherever I am on your birthday, we could go to lunch! I could color you a picture of a cat wearing a hat. I can do more than one of these things! Maybe you want something else? Tell me.
I have created a Google Form to ask you for your birthday and how you want to be celebrated. Fill it out and I'll put your birthday in my planner and you'll get the celebration you deserve! Even if your birthday is on a Tuesday, you can still be treated like the royalty we know you are.
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Do you have a complicated relationship with birthdays? Do you love a birthday party?
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Edited to add: My birthday is August 16. It's the same day as Madonna and James Cameron, so I consider it a win.