I have a very sporadic series in which I ask you what to do. I'm coming at you with the most important questions of the day. (I wish there was a sarcasm font. I think you all know that I'm doing this in lieu of gnashing my teeth about the news, right?)
Okay, so Dr. BB has once again been diagnosed with rhabdo. What caused it this time? Well, it certainly wasn't his level of exertion doing bicep curls with ten pound weights. *sigh* He had been doing very little exercise since the last rhabdo round, but he was starting verrrry slowly and this bullshit happened. Anyway, his CK numbers weren't as outrageous as they were last time, so they gave him an IV and sent him home.
So there brings up a level of difficulty with us planning dates. One of my yearly goals was to go on a date every month. It appears as if we can't do anything strenuous so my ideas of regular bike rides in nicer weather or lovely winter hikes in the snow are not really feasible. Dinner and a movie is out because food is hard and movies put me to sleep.
Here are some tentative ideas.
1) Concert - I have been keeping my eyes open for an artist to come nearby that we might both like to see.
2) Museum outing - Look, my husband is sort of a pill about things like museums, but I like them a lot. Maybe we could find one that would work for both of us?
3) Take a class together - Like...maybe we take an art class or something we've never done before?
4) Shopping outing - Give each other a budget (say $20-$30) and go to a bookstore/dollar store and buy the other person a gift.
5) Organize a game night at our house - We've done this in the past, but we've had people over less and less as Hannah has gotten more and more reactive, but surely we can invite some of her safe people over for games.
6) Couples yoga - I keep joking that we should do this, but I think it could be fun to find a video or something for this. Is it too physically demanding, though?
I don't know. I feel like a lot of ideas I see out there are food related (food festivals, picnics, etc.), involve physical activity (bowling, axe throwing, hiking), or support things I don't want to support (zoos, aquariums).
Do you have any ideas for us?
Sorry about the health issue.
ReplyDeleteHow about ordering a dinner in and having a movie night for an easy peasy date?
You could make a scavenger hunt along with a shopping outing, or a museum outing. Is there a type of museum your husband enjoys?
ReplyDeleteOh Engie. I am sorry that he's been diagnosed with that again and that you are going through that. But I know you want concrete thoughts here, so let me give it a try. I know food is hard for you two - and so much in our society is centred around that! But an art class or a paint night might be really fun. I am the least artistic person around but my friend Sandi has gotten me to go to that - and a tiled lamp-making thing - and even I can do it, so that is saying something. Plus those classes are quite fun.
ReplyDeleteI think it was 2024 when Rob and I realized that with the kids and life and everything we had kind of put our relationship on the back burner. It just sort of happened. But now kids are grown, he's retired, etc., so we put aside an hour a week for cocktail hour. I know you don't drink, but what about fun mocktails or hell, even soda. The rule is no phones, no books, no TV. Just some music and then we have our cocktails and talk. We don't go out much so this does feel like a date. I kind of think you can make almost anything into a date (gentle short walk to a park or something on a nice day?) I don't know, I'll give this some more thought.