1) CBBC readers! Don't forget to do your homework and send me a photo of your book/where you read so it can be included in next week's collage. Let's say the deadline is Sunday by 7pm central. If you send it in late, that's fine, but it will be included in week three instead of week two. dominique100 @ hotmail .com
2) Warning: This is the stuff of nightmares. We have a colleague who has a son with eight-year old twins. He is in his late 30s/early 40s. He got COVID and because his immune system was weakened, he then got shingles (studies do indicate that people who get COVID are about 20% more likely to also get shingles, although most of those studies were done on people who were 50 and older). The shingles GOT INTO HIS EYE. He had to get shots in his eye, but the damage has already been done. He recently had eye surgery and the OPTIMISTIC prognosis is that he will someday have enough vision in it to read the big E on the eye chart or see light and shadows.
When people ask me why I still worry about COVID, this is why. I don't want to be blind, yo.
3) Annoyance at work: I'm working with a man on a project. He has shortened my name to the first three letters of my name and the presumed familiarity of the whole thing is infuriating. That is NOT my name. It's not even a nickname I allow people close to me to use. Please don't call me that.
4) Today I learned: J posted a bunch of photos of chickpeas/garbanzo beans/chana recently and that's when I learned the word chana. Also, I am Team Chickpea, but desperately want to know the regional/world differences. What I really want is a heat map, like the one you can find for pop/soda/Coke. Does anyone know of such a heat map?
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5) Music of the day: I have been listening to Joan Baez's Diamonds and Rust (1975) album on repeat on Spotify. When I was in college, I had this on CD and I listened to it hundreds of times. It holds up. "Diamonds and Rust," "Simple Twist of Fate," and "Never Dreamed You'd Leave in Summer" are my favorites, but it's a good album overall.
+1) Goodest Girl Award: Yesterday was a long day. My husband was speaking on a panel after my working hours and I wanted to go to support him. I thought I would run home in the afternoon to let Hannah out, but I got halfway home and realized that while I had grabbed the car keys from my husband, I had not grabbed the house keys. I didn't have time to drive back to the office and back home again, so Hannah was stuck. Her morning walk was at about 6 - 6:30 in the morning.
Meanwhile, in the middle of the panel, there was a tornado warning (IN EARLY FEBRUARY - climate change is real) and we were all hustled further into the room and the sirens were going off like crazy and an event that was supposed to end at 6:30 didn't end until almost 8. Hannah, meanwhile, was the Best Girl and didn't have an accident or destroy the house because she was scared of the storm. A tornado was reported in our town south of our house and there was lots of hail and I bet it was super scary. So, thumbs up to Hannah.
Happy Friday!
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Are you Team Chickpea or Team Garbanzo? I don't like garbanzo because I think it sounds like Gonzo, the Muppet.
What's the last song you listened to?
Good job Hannah. I use chick pea/garbanzo interchangeably. Please gently correct the man. Just say the next time he says it in a clear voice - "Please call me XXXX, I don't like to be called YYY. " You can say something like - I know it's a nickname, but I hate it and I vastly prefer XXXX. And if you still want to keep going you can say, something like - Only lovers get to call me YYY. hahah. OK maybe not the last line. Do not at any point say - I'm sorry, but...
ReplyDeleteMost of this interaction has been in email. So I sign my full name and have my email signature, but nada from this guy. Next time I see him in person, I'll correct him if he says it out loud.
Delete1) good reminder, I meant to do that yesterday. I'll send you a photo today.
ReplyDelete2) I have a friend who also had shingles in her eye! She did not lose vision but it was touch and go. And this was before Covid! When my husband was considering whether or not to get his shingles vaccine, I was like HELL YEAH YOU ARE.
3) That's annoying for sure.
4) I say chickpeas but if the person I am talking to says garbanzo or chana I switch, I'm like one of those people who affect accents, but with chickpeas.
5) Joan Baez is talented!
6) Good job Hannah!
Get your shingles vaccine as soon as you can, I say! So many horror stories from it!!
DeleteSigh. The Nicknamer. It's a thing people do when they psychologically want to mark you or own you or want an immediately special relationship with you. I know lots of people like that, and it's super annoying. I agree with Doris: correct the person EVERY SINGLE TIME, and if/when that stops working after a while, simply don't answer to what he calls you. MAKE HIM call you by your preferred name, period. The only change I would make to Doris's suggestion would be that I wouldn't explain anything. There's absolutely no need.
ReplyDeleteAs far as chickpea/garbanzo--I live in NE Ohio, and we mostly say garbanzo, although chickpea is becoming pervasive because of so many recipes using that term, and the popularity of said veg is trending more and more.
I think the last song I listened to was "Brighter than Sunshine" by Aqualung. Or maybe "Riptide" by Vance Joy.
Poor Hannah. I don't know how dogs do it; I really don't. Zydrunas has been called upon to do the same now and then, and he performs admirably as well. Dogs are wonderful.
I have to laugh because I go to the bathroom like a million times more often than Hannah. How is that possible? Her bladder has got to be smaller than mine! Dogs are miracles given to us, I think.
DeleteThat C story is very alarming and sobering. Scary stuff.
ReplyDeleteI am definitely in the Pop region. I am thinking, however, that in my younger years, I MAY have called it soda, for we would have lived close to the pop-soda border if one were to extend that line into Canada. I am not totally sure, but I think so.
I think more of Canada says pop than in the US. I just looked up a map and that appears to be true, although it's definitely more of a geographic area, I'm not too sure about population centers in Canada. https://imgur.com/a/OOF6p
DeleteWow! Good work Hannah! When I was driving home last night and saw lightening I thought surely there were going to be tornadoes :(
ReplyDeleteI am team chickpea! It's even my pretend DJ name (DJ Chickpea). I hadn't heard of chana! I sometimes see heat maps showing regional things like that. If I ever see if again I will forward it to you.
How rude of your coworker to assume that. I hope he stops after you told him.
I feel so bad for your friend who got shingles in his eye :( We've known so many who've had shingles (including in the eye) and it's just freaking miserable :(
A tornado in February! Literally unheard of - we just made history.
DeleteYou know someone else who had shingles in the eye?! That is utterly dumbfounding! I don't need shingles horror stories, I guess!
Hold up, in the 1980s in Champaign Illinois we called it soda. I never heard it called pop until we moved east.
ReplyDeleteI call 'em chickpeas but when I was little my mom called them garbanzos, so I like the word because it reminds me of her.
Someday I will have a Grown Up Dog who can make it through the day in a pinch. Right now at least she makes it through the night which is about all we can ask.
Really? I've never known anyone from Illinois to say soda. That's an interesting data point. Maybe because Champaign is a college town and getting people from all over?
DeleteI mean, I would generally never ask H to go more than twelve hours! That's insane and mean. I felt terrible, but she was so good about it. She was excited to see us and didn't even pee until we had walked about a block and a half. Doggo will grow up and be just like Hannah, I know it!
Not so fast, Birchie! I grew up in Illinois, near Chicago, and we called it pop. That's weird it would be different! Champagne isn't THAT far from Chicago.
ReplyDeleteThat is a very scary story about the guy with Covid/shingles. I like how you qualify it by saying "but most of the studies were on people 50 or older.). I'M over 50!!! Having said that, I have to admit I've gotten pretty complacent about Covid. Stories like this remind me that it can still be dangerous for some people. And.. I've been saying for years now that I need to get the shingles vaccine. Maybe I'll stop saying it and just do it.
Hannah is such a good girl!!! I mean I always knew she is, but this proves it once again.
P.S. Chickpeas.
I think they did the studies on people 50 and older because they are more likely to get shingles than younger folks. I'll admit that when we were all crammed into the tornado shelter last night, I had a lot of feelings about COVID. I tried to contain it, but between the loud sirens, the loud talking, and the no six feet between me and people, it was a little hairy. I don't think about COVID daily, but when I do it definitely increases my anxiety. Wait until after your race and then get the shingles vaccine - it's two doses and they do have a high rate of reaction. But get it ASAP, Jenny! We don't want you going blind.
DeleteI have to jump in on #3! Assumed familiarity by shortening names sets me off in such a spectacular way; it's worse when they only use it when asking you do to a task outside of your scope or that they just don't want to do. I call it "the unearned Linds"...
ReplyDeleteRight? It takes a long time to get to nickname territory!
DeleteYou know I am pop. Always and forever.
ReplyDeleteI call them chickpeas and never anything else (unless they're blitzed up in another form like...hummus).
A friend had COVID last year and now has permanent hearing loss because of it (hearing aid, extreme pain etc); I temporarily lost my hearing when I had COVID and went on a course of antibiotics that, thank the Lord, fixed the issue.
People call me Liz. I never call myself Liz. I never refer to myself as Liz. And it's the strangest people. Like the receptionist at my Dr's office. My husband's old boss. A man who works at the grocery store. I never, ever, ever refer to myself as Liz. Why do people call me that?
I keep forgetting to take a picture of the book. Oops.
Hannah is gorgeous.
Presumed nicknames are so weird. Why would you even think it's okay?
DeleteI think it's because there are some people out there who literally don't care. When I teach and I go through the names doing introductions, the number of people who say "I don't care if you call me Daniel, Dan, or Danny" is SHOCKING. How can you not care? It's your identity!
Oh, the name thing makes me crazy! My mother goes by a nickname that is not a form of her real name (because she likes her name but not its nickname), and she still gets that-nicknamed by people. If you haven't outright told him to stop, I would do that first; some people do not pick up on subtle cues. If you have told him and he still does it, I would correct him every single time. Like if your name was Annamaria, every single time he called you Ann, you stop and just say, "Annamaria." And then wait.
ReplyDeleteHannah is such a good girl!
The interactions with the man have mostly been email and I honestly don't know how to make it any clearer what my name is. When I see him in person, I'll correct him if says it out loud.
DeleteHannah is a good girl. We're so lucky to have her!
I suppose it would be a little aggressive to just reply to the email, "It's Annamaria" with nothing else and send it. I'm clearly in a mood today! I am hot-flashing, hear me roar!
DeleteHannah IS the goodest girl! She must have been so scared, and to not pee when you're scared, especially after so long, must have been really hard. I'll bet you were worried about her while you were waiting for the all clear to get home to her. My dog Genevieve went into our closet and peed on my shoes one year during fireworks, and we were home! I don't think Mulder ever peed in the house, he was more of an alarmist and would YELL about what was going on.
ReplyDeleteYour map tracks for me, we call it soda. I dated a guy just after HS whose family was from Oklahoma, and they called it Coke. "I'm going to the store, would you like a Coke?" "Sure!" "What kind?" I never got used to it and we had to break up.
See, Garbanzo also reminds me of Gonzo, and that is why I like it!
My husband's name is Ted, but his legal name is Edward, and people like to call him Theodore. Kind of the opposite of your situation.
I haven't known many people with your name, but I had a friend in 5th grade that went by Domi, and my daughter's friend went by the full name, except her close friends, who called her Dom-Dom (assuming that your first name is what you have in your email above...). It was a thing with the 5 year olds, my daughter Maya was May-May, and their friend Chanel was Nel-Nel (Had they been older they might have come up with Cha-Cha, like the dance). Which brings me to the pronunciation of my daughter's name, which is Maya, but it sounds like the month, not My-uh. Not our fault, she's named for my sister, who pronounces it the same way. Anyway, that's a lot of blather from me...if the coworker doesn't change his ways when gently corrected, you could try calling him something that is not his name. Like if his name is Steve you could call him Bob or Joe. But he might find that funny and stick with it, so no, don't do that.
LOLOL. You broke up with him because he called it Coke!!
DeleteMy husband is an Edward/Ted, too. He gets called Ed a lot and he hates it. We did once get a wedding invitation from his cousin addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Theodore Hislastname and we had to laugh because literally every part of that address was wrong. He's a Dr., his name isn't Theodore and I didn't change my name.
My nickname when I was a child was Nicky and people who have known me before I was eight-years-old will sometimes call me that. It's fine when they do it, but since then I've gone by my full name and I really don't care for diminutives. Sometimes my husband and I will jokingly call each other by shortened versions of our last names, but even that is exclusively reserved for him. I am pretty prickly about it, I admit.
HA! No, I didn't break up with him for that, though it made me laugh to think I did, so that's the impression I left.
DeleteAnother Edward/Ted! Yay!
oooooh shingles covid that's terrible!! TERRIBLE! Also we didn't even go in the basement for the tornado-- climate change has made us so blase.
ReplyDeleteI doubt we'd have gone in the basement if we'd been home, either, mostly because Hannah won't go down there!
DeleteChickpeas here. In my mind, they are called garbanzos when you see them in the salad bar at Sizzler. I mean that has absolutely no basis in fact, but just what goes on in my head.
ReplyDeleteOh I hope Hannah knows what a good good girl she was.
The last song I listened to is a song cycle by Beethoven for a concert I'm working on.
My boss was getting consistently wrongly addressed by someone via email (on top of other obnoxiousnous) and she one day, just started an email by saying,
Dear Mr. So and So -
First of all, my name is X.
Second of all.... (and then went on to eviscerate the rest of his points.)
It was amazing.
Oof. I actually mostly like this guy, so I don't want to go too hard on him! But if it becomes a recurring problem, or, heaven forbid, he introduces me to someone else with the nickname, it will be a bigger problem. Ha! Why do I spend most of my time worrying about interpersonal issues? No one told me that my job would be mostly spreadsheets, interpersonal issues, and figuring out ways to word things diplomatically in email!
DeleteI didn't even KNOW you could get shingles in your eye. I got shingles at 22 and I thought I was dying. I was in my final year of college and I think I stressed myself out so much that my body reacted with shingles. FUN TIMES.
ReplyDeleteI really despise when people shorten my name without asking. Don't do that, especially if you're signing your name with your full name. Ugh.
Hannah!!! What a good muffin she is. <3
Team soda!
I know, Stephany! Imagine shingles IN YOUR EYE.
DeleteDo you ever think about people who listen to your podcast developing a parasocial relationship with you and thinking that maybe you're friends and they would shorten your name if they met you? I'm curious from the podcaster perspective what they think of these types of relationships.
TORNADO WARNING OMG. Yikes yikes yikes. So glad everyone was okay and that Hannah handled her solitude like a champ!
ReplyDeleteThe guy at your work is wrong. Not cool, buddy.
I can't recall the actual last song I listened to, but I have had various songs from the Barbie soundtrack playing on repeat in my brain all week. (My daughter has been insisting on listening to it over and over in the car.) (I finally had to ban it. The songs are TOO CATCHY.)
Also: I don't like the way the word "garbanzo" feels in my mouth, so I stick with chickpea. Plus, chickpea sounds so adorable.
DeleteIt was an actual tornado! Crazy stuff. It had been really warm on Thursday and felt unsettled, but I was taken aback by the real tornado.
DeleteI think the "chick" in chickpea makes it sound like it's a cute little pea and that's pleasing to me. It doesn't really take much, does it?
"When people ask me why I still worry about COVID, this is why. I don't want to be blind, yo." BINGO!
ReplyDeleteYes, it might be rare but the possibility is still there!
I also did not know that you can get shingles in your EYE! Yikes! Making that vaccine appointment tomorrow!
Your map tracks; I grew up in Texas - every dark soft drink was called Coke. Here in North Carolina it's usually called soda.
Yes, Gigi!! GO GET YOUR VACCINE!!
DeleteAww, bestest Hannah girl.
ReplyDeleteI am WITH YOU on avoiding Covid if at all possible. I feel the same way about people who say they'd rather get Chicken Pox than get the vaccine - my sister is a pharmacist who has seen some scary shit with chicken pox, including a case where the virus attacked a girl's eyes. Lay off our eyes, effing viruses.
I saw you comment on Suzanne's blog something like "chickpeas (NOT garbanzos) and I was shook because I thought that meant chickpeas were DIFFERENT FROM garbanzos, rather than that you just call them chickpeas (which I do also). Whew. I did know about chana, from ordering chana masala at Indian restaurants. Garbanzos sounds to me like a disrespectful word for boobs.
That dude is way out of line. A woman in my book club insists on calling me "Al", and we're just not that kind of friends, you know?
LOL @ "Garbanzos sounds to me like a disrespectful word for boobs."
DeleteIt is interesting when people create nicknames. What is the impetus for this? I need to be inside people's heads.
DeleteI had chicken pox when I was quite young after my parents had me go to a "chicken pox party" because they wanted to control when we got the chicken pox! Heaven forbid we get sick at an inconvenient time. How far we've come since the '80s.
I'm Team Channa (double 'n") or Team Chickpeas (plural). I don't know why. Regional differences?
ReplyDeleteHannah is the goodest, smartest, prettiest, girl for sure <3.
Feeling you on the work annoyance. A male colleague on a subcommittee frequently addresses the rest of us as "ladies" (after arriving late to boot). It's quite infuriating!
Oooohhh...double 'n' is a new wrinkle to the case. Thanks for bringing it to my attention. I clearly need to get out to more Indian restaurants is what I'm learning from this thread.
DeleteHannah was so good. I couldn't believe that there was nothing wrong at all in the house when we got home. She was lavished with praise.
Chickpea is my preferred word, although around here, because of Italian influence I think, many people refer to them as Ceci beans. I haven't thought of Diamonds and Rust in years. What a flashback. Last song I listened to was something by the Beatles. I've been in the mood for them lately.
ReplyDeleteCeci beans! Wow. So many variations. It's a wonder any of us knows what we're talking about in the English language.
DeleteThat is scary about shingles. I hope your friend's eye heals so that they can get their vision back-all of it. And hurrah for Hannah. What an adorable face. One of my dogs is good with the storms, and the other gets a bit nervous, but I used to have a dog that was a total wreck in storms. The poor guy. And I can add another word to your soda map. In Massachusetts it's called tonic, which the map doesn't show. Or maybe it was only called that and is changing over to soda. Have a great rest of your weekend, and give Hannah a pat for me.
ReplyDeleteTonic! And they use that for all soft drinks? That's interesting. I've only ever heard tonic used for tonic water.
DeleteOh my, that story about your colleague and Covid is terrifying. This IS the stuff of nightmares and why I really don't want to get Covid again, if I can help it.
ReplyDeleteI am infuriated that this man you work with will call you by a nickname that HE made up by shortening your name... why do people do that??
COVID is terrifying. I have a colleague who is a professional opera singer and COVID has really done a number on her voice and she's worried she's never going to get her full range back. So many terrible (and long-lasting) side effects.
DeleteI don't know why people create their own nicknames with people they don't really know well. I really don't!
Ok, wait this garbanzo/ chickpea thing is confusing me. Garbanzo is Spanish. Chickpea is English. The end. Now, sometimes English speakers may borrow the Spanish word (garbanzo), but I don't really see that any different than some ordering "chips and queso" at a bar. There's no debate over if the word is cheese or queso (they're just different languages!), but in that instance the English speaker is using the Spanish word.
ReplyDeletePersonally if I'm speaking English I'd use chickpea. In Mexico or when talking to Ivan in Spanish, we would then say "garbanzo": e.g. "Puedes traer una lata de garbanzos de Woodman's?" Garbanzo is the only word I've ever heard them called in Spanish. Also, if you look at a can of them in the Mexican aisle, you will see "Chickpeas" on the English side of the can, and on the Spanish side it will says "Garbanzos".
Hmmm...but garbanzo is used pretty widely in areas of the country that aren't the southwest/bordering Mexico. I wonder if it's a situation where migration is playing a part in how widely used the term is. The chickpeas we regularly buy are actually labeled garbanzo with chickpeas written in smaller letters underneath.
DeleteI'm so sorry for your friend. I got my Shingles vaccines two years ago. I've known several people who've had Shingles, and it was so awful for them, I knew I wanted to avoid it if I could. And gosh, I sure don't want Shingles in my eye! I remember Chicken Pox parties too! And I remember having Chicken Pox, which was also awful and left me with several scars.
ReplyDeleteI guess I say Garbanzo. It's such a fun word to say!
As soon as I can get the shingles vaccine, I'm going to run and get it! I have heard the shingles vaccine is pretty nasty, though. I wonder how many people are scared away by the vaccine and then end up getting nasty cases of shingles.
DeleteI blogged about the Tornado Warning today. Pretty scary for a guy not used to them at all. Funny thing is, we had a similar scare last year on March 31. I remember this well, because I was texting my son mid-storm and he did not believe me. Thought it was an early April Fools joke. Anyway: climate change is scary. So glad Hannah was a trooper throughout the whole thing!
ReplyDeleteI do think I might have thought the tornado was scary if I'd been in town at the time. As it stood, we were really isolated from what was going on by being in the basement of the student union in the next town over. We were all shocked when the sirens started going off!
DeleteI also feel like our town is classic boy who cried wolf by having the tornado sirens going off daily. I literally never pay attention to them anymore!
I usually say Chickpea, but have been known to say both. Hannah is the Goodest Girl! Wow, she held her bladder and her anxiety for a long time.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about your colleague getting ill; what a crapshoot! I've heard of people getting shingles in their eyes before and I probably will have a nightmare about it tonight.
I was so impressed with Hannah. It would have been our fault entirely if she'd had an accident!
DeleteI honestly think shingles sounds like a nightmare even if it doesn't get into your eye. I just think shingles in any orifice sounds like something that would make me say dramatic things like "I'd rather die."
Shingles IS a nightmare, yes, you should get your vaccine as soon as you can, and any virus in the eye is going to wreak havoc. I wonder what the rate of ocular complications is for "uncomplicated" COVID (i.e. not COVID with a secondary infection)?
ReplyDeleteThe nickname thing. Ugh. I get called "Annie", probably because of the "e" on my name? But, really, only a few close friends (not even my family!) are allowed to call me Annie. The person who cuts my hair did the other day, but a) she had fit me into her schedule, and b) she commented that she knew she did it and was sorry. I forgave her. ;) Here's hoping that what's-his-name figures it out.
I have a whole post drafted on words that send me over the edge. Maya's reference to people calling a group of women "ladies" prompted shudders of revulsion. I hate it - seriously. Whether it comes from a man (UGH) or a woman (ALSO UGH). Antiquated terms. Can't we just ditch them?
(And yes, I went on a rant in your comments. Sorry! Also, I call chickpeas garbanzos and also chana/channa, depending on context. It's kind of like lentils/dal? Maybe?)
I am so nervous about shingles. It sounds absolutely horrific. My quick googling suggests conjunctivitis and dry eye are actually relatively common side effects, but I'm too scared to actually dig in any further than that. LOL.
DeleteI didn't know lentils/dal were the same thing. I'm over here learning new things every day.