Monday, April 06, 2015

11.6 Sky - Line

Bestest Friend and I are in the middle of a blog project. Each day of the month we will post a picture on a pre-determined theme and write a little something about it. The theme for the sixth day of each month is "Sky."
For big and small decisions, our marriage philosophy has always been that the person who has stronger feelings trumps the person who doesn't care as much. Most of the time, this is easily decided with a quick decision or a quick vote on a piece of paper (on a scale of 1-10, how much do you care?). We've used this strategy to pick places to live, what couch to buy, and what we're having for dinner. We've used it to decide when Dr. BB would go on the job market, how much we were willing to spend on vacation, and how much we thought six months of an emergency fund should be.

But there are a few things that there can be no agreement.  Our concepts of faith are radically different and sometimes butt into each other. We recently received an invitation to our oldest niece's first communion and I found myself excited that I already had a work conflict so that we could avoid the conflict in our marriage. I don't like the church - the hatefulness spewed from the altar, the violent imagery in the relics, or in-group/out-group vibe to the whole thing.

He wants to make his family happy. He wants to be faithful to a religion that has treated him poorly. He wants to keep his promises and spirituality.

We each drop occasional hints that we think the other one will change their mind, but I think we both know that this is how it's going to be.
So we sent our regrets.  But there will be other events, other days, other "celebrations" I cannot avoid.  But I put it off for another time.

After all, maybe he'll change his mind.
To see what Bestest Friend wrote about the theme of the day, check out her blog, Too Legit to Quit.

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