Thursday, April 03, 2025

What I Spent: March 2025

As a reminder, my husband pays the "big bills" like mortgage, phone, and electricity. I pay for groceries and the pets and that somehow evens things out.


Pets ($687.75) - Hannah had a vet appointment where she got vaccinations, an annual exam, and a couple of pokes at some relatively fast growing bumps (seem benign - basically the doggie equivalent of cystic acne). Both girls needed food (Zelda needed both wet and dry food because SHE'S A PRINCESS) and we got litter twice. 

Groceries ($648) - We gotta eat. Dr. BB took Costco this month, so add $250 on to this if you want to know the true household cost. 

Health ($301) - I have to pay with my HSA for my periodontist appointments out of pocket. 

Gifts ($288.60) - So many gifts this month! And I was on a shopping spree where I purchased some (probably unnecessary) greeting cards. 

Bills ($239.77) - Car and home insurance and water. 

Savings ($200) - You know what? I increased this already in April. 

Personal care ($113.56) - Hair cut and some lotion.

Clothes ($96) - I purchased some new underwear. Yes, it's expensive, but if it touches your skin, it's important. 

Eating out ($34)- I had lunch out one day and coffee a couple of times. YOLO.

Cars ($32.82) - Filled up the new car with gas once. 

Fitness ($10) - This was my donation for the Zumba class. 

Entertainment ($3.75) - Parking when I visited Madison. 

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What was your largest expense in March?

Wednesday, April 02, 2025

March 2025 Accountability Buddy

Recently I've started lighting this candle whenever I do a workout at home. It does motivate me!


Saturday, March 1
45-minute restorative Yoga with Adriene - This was really hard for me. I should probably repeat this one regularly. 

Sunday, March 2
35-minute full body dumbbell workout with Caroline Girvan - Too many lunges. Too many.
45-minute yin yoga

Monday, March 3
30-minute yoga at lunchtime in the student union
30-minute Werq (dance) class

Tuesday, March 4
45-minute body blast at the community center

Wednesday, March 5
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime*

Thursday, March 6
30-minute yoga at lunchtime in the student union

Friday, March 7
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime

Saturday, March 8
40-minute yin Yoga with Kassandra - It's rare that I say a yin practice is tough, but here we are. There were some tough poses there. That means I should probably do this more often. 

Sunday, March 9
25-minute total body with light weights - I stopped this a bit early because I did something to my back. I was using three pound weights and things were fine until they weren't. Off to figure out what's going on with my back. 
30-minutes of back stretches - this might be bad

Monday, March 10
Tuesday, March 11
Wednesday, March 12
All off. I took these days off work. Pretty sure this was a kidney stone.

Thursday, March 13
30-minute yoga at lunchtime in the student union - Took this nice and easy.

Friday March 14
30-minute gentle yoga - Easing back in slowly. This video has a dog named Luna and some adorable kittens. 

Saturday, March 15
30-minute bodyweight workout - I did low impact, too. It was the first time in a week I did a "real" workout and I really felt it!
30-minute yin yoga - More cats!

Sunday, March 16
20-minute dumbbell leg workout - I used only ten pounds for this. Easing myself back in!
40-minute yin yoga - A cat named Maggie. 

Monday, March 17
30-minute yoga at lunchtime in the student union
30-minute arms and abs with Fitness Blender

Tuesday, March 18
Day off

Wednesday, March 19
30-minute HIIT strength for total body

Thursday, March 20
30-minute chair yoga during lunchtime 

Friday, March 21
Day off

Saturday, March 22
35-minute total body with light dumbbells
15-minute post-workout yoga stretch

Sunday, March 23
15-minute cardio warmup
30-minute total body with light dumbbells
15-minute post-workout yoga stretch

Monday, March 24
30-minute yin yoga - This lady's voice is very soothing, but the "breathe what you feel" language was a bit of a turnoff for me. 

Tuesday, March 25
45-minute lower body barre workout - I was going to do a total body workout today, but my arms were sore, so I stuck with lower body
15-minute post-workout yoga stretch (again!)

Wednesday, March 26
35-minute yin yoga for legs

Thursday, March 27
30-minute yoga at lunchtime in the student union
60-minute Zumba class after work

Friday, March 28
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime
30-minute yin yoga - Snuck this one in as dinner was cooking. I left my husband in charge of the cooking for once! This is not a great video for me. There is a lot of saddle pose, which is super challenging/painful for my bad leg. I did some modifications. 

Saturday, March 29
35-minute upper body and abs from Fitness Blender
40-minute daily flow yoga - Ha ha. My arms were too sore from the arm workout to do this justice. 

Sunday, March 30
13-minute total body barre workout 
26-minute full body mobility workout

Monday, March 31
30-minute yoga at lunchtime in the student union
30-minute Werq (dance) class after work

Totals: 24/31 (77.4%) of days 
 18 days of yoga
13 days of strength/cardio
3 short 15-minute stretch classes at lunchtime

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*Our local healthcare organization does free stretch classes virtually three times a week. Sign up here! It's free. It's fun. We regularly talk about candy and what's for lunch. It's a delightful break in the middle of the day. You do not have to have your camera on. 
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Were you sidelined because of any injuries/illnesses in March?

Tuesday, April 01, 2025

March 2025 Book List

3/1: The Blue Castle by L.M. Montgomery (ebook I own, 1926) - CBBC book. Much more bonkers than I remember it being. 4.5/5 stars

3/1: Crow Mary by Kathleen Grissom (library book, 2023) - Riveting book. Lots of hats. 4.5/5 stars

3/4: Starter Villain by John Scalzi (library book, 2023) - Funny little book. I thought it started stronger than it finished. 3.5/5 stars

3/11: Empire of Sand (Books of Ambha #1) by Tasha Suri (library ebook, 2019) - Gorgeous writing with an interesting magic system. It just didn't work for me because it was sort of a slog. 3/5 stars

3/14: The Bee Sing by Paul Murray (audiobook gifted to me by J, 2023) - Slow start, but I was invested by the end. Gloomy listen, though. 4/5 stars

3/15: Here Be Dragons (Welsh Princes #1) by Sharon Kay Penman (library, 1985) - Another book with a slow start, but boy did I want to read to the end! 4.5/5 stars

3/22: Death of the Author by Nnedi Okorafor (library, 2025) - I just didn't love it. 3/5 stars

3/22: The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman (library ebook, 2019) - No. Just no. 2/5 stars

3/25: Take a Thief (Valdemar) by Mercedes Lackey (library, 2001) - I always enjoy being in Valdemar, but this is a repeat of Mags's story. 3/5 stars

3/26: The Third Gilmore Girl by Kelly Bishop (university library audiobook narrated by the author, 2024) - I just really love Kelly Bishop. This made me love her more. 5/5 stars

Total: 10 books
Average star rating: 3.75/5 stars

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Did you read any new favorites in March?

Monday, March 31, 2025

The Third Gilmore Girl by Kelly Bishop

I listened to the audiobook of The Third Gilmore Girl by Kelly Bishop (narrated by the author). Someone in blogland recommended this to me, but I can't figure out who. If it was you, THANK YOU.


I was a fan of Gilmore Girls and honestly, Emily is the best character in the show. This is a memoir of Bishop's life and it made me love her so much. She got her big break as a dancer in the Broadway show A Chorus Line and never wanted kids, but always has rescue dogs and she's pro-choice and was a smoker for decades and believes in psychics. I adore her and I adored this book. I listened to the audiobook and if you're a fan of show biz stories with someone who doesn't really want to spill the tea and the most scandalous is gets is that she had pre-marital sex, this might be the book for you. 

5/5 stars - I adore Kelly Bishop.

Lines of note:

One of the many comments during those ironing talks that really stuck with me was her observation - not a complaint, simply her truth - once you have children, you'll never be free again. Apparently even as a little girl I sensed that freedom was going to be an essential part of my life because when she told me that, my first and only thought was, well, then, no children for me. (Chapter 2)

I feel like I had this exact moment of my own when I was a young girl. 

Your more likely to look for, as the Garth Brooks song goes, Mr. Right for Mr. Right Now. (Chapter 8)

I think Garth was the only non-Broadway musical artist mentioned in this book. You know what? I love Garth, too!

Don't cry because you think your best days are gone, smile because you had them in the first place. (Chapter 13)

Aging is a privilege. I repeat this to myself daily. 

Hat mentions (why hats?):

Without Kelly, I never would have been able to have a room completely dedicated to hats in the middle of New York City. (foreword by Amy Sherman-Palladino)

sparkly beige top hat (Chapter 3)

Friday, March 28, 2025

Five for Friday, Edition #19

This week I'll be talking about all the things I learned this week.

It was Spring Break at the university where I work, so I took Monday and Tuesday off. I mostly did a whole lot of adulting chores, but my husband and I went to the Milwaukee Public Museum (a natural history museum) on Monday afternoon. (Did anyone see how I did two quarterly goals with one outing? A new-to-me museum AND a date?)

Can we talk about how much makeup it takes for me to look like this completely average looking person?!

1) There's a big dinosaur skeleton at the museum called a torosaurus. It's from a place called Hell Creek in Montana (doesn't it make you want to visit there?) and the skull is one of the largest non-whale skulls in the world. I was very impressed with the whole thing. 

2) There's a theory that Earth once had a ring around it. A big old asteroid or something hit the Earth's moon and the debris formed a ring around the Earth. This ring caused a change in climate (an icehouse event!) and that is what led to the extinction of the dinosaurs. I had never heard of this theory before. I had only heard the one about either a massive volcano/series of volcanoes on Earth itself or an asteroid hitting the planet or the whole thing about the salt level in the oceans changing. Interesting to think that something hitting the moon could have such a huge impact on Earth. (But there is evidence on this very blog that I don't truly understand the relationship between the moon and Earth.) On the other hand, it seems like if the Earth had a ring around it at one point, wouldn't there be some evidence? Or is the dinosaur extinction the evidence? SO MYSTERIOUS!!

3) The second floor of the museum is mostly about the natural environment of the United States (they say "North America," but it's really focused on the US) and indigenous people and cultures. It's also half empty and filled with signs about that Native American Graves Protection and Repatriation Act (NAGPRA). I know a tiny bit about NAGPRA (mostly from reading The Firekeeper's Daughter) and had knots in my stomach a lot while going through this floor. 

The MPM is an old museum and a lot of its original collection dates from the Victorian era. There are taxidermized ivory-billed woodpeckers and passenger pigeons. It's not surprising that a lot of the relics that they used for these exhibits were stolen and/or inappropriately displayed, but this didn't reassure me very much as we walked through case after case with missing items. 

It was a busy day at the museum, but I don't think we saw more than a dozen people on this floor. I think a lot of people felt the same way I did.


 4) On Tuesday, I went to a lecture on plant-based nutrition at the local hospital (do I know how to party on my day off?!) and she put the word kwashiorkor on the board. Do you know this word?

It's basically malnutrition of protein. We don't see it in the US as often - although occasionally you'll see it in nursing homes - as we see things like a lack of fiber (constipation) and even a lack of Vitamin C (scurvy). The woman talking made some argument about not needing to supplement protein if you eat a vegan diet and I'd really like to see how she accomplishes this because it seems impossible to me. 

Anyway, we're mostly eating vegetarian, but I do not think I'll ever embrace the vegan lifestyle. It was super interesting to hear about the health benefits, though. 

5) Speaking of very much not plant-based food, let's talk about kringle. Kringle is a pastry that I'd never heard of until I moved to Wisconsin. It's based on a Danish pastry and is a type of pretzel, but I'm pretty sure the American version bears little resemblance to the original, although I've never been to Denmark, so if there are any Danes who would like to weigh in, I'm happy to hear about it. 

ANYWAY.

Most of the time, the kringle that I see is this oily disgusting stuff (it's out of Racine) and I am a hard pass. But my co-worker brought in this kringle from someplace out of Green Bay/Appleton called Uncle Mike's and this is the absolute best thing I have ever eaten. If you ever find yourself near an Uncle Mike's, do yourself a favor and get a slice of salted caramel. #notallkringleisgross

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Do you get excited when you see dinosaur skeletons? Have you ever had kringle? 

Thursday, March 27, 2025

Take a Thief (Valdemar saga) by Mercedes Lackey

Valdemar saga (in chronological order of the world, not order of publication):


We are back in Valdemar. This time we meet a young orphan boy named Skif. He's staying with his abusive uncle's hotel doing grunt work and surviving mostly on stealing food and pickpocketing. He meets another pickpocket who introduces him to a man who helps him develop his thieving skills and he eventually leaves his uncle's house. When his mentor dies in a fire, Skif is determined to figure out who started that fire and get his revenge. 


And you know what? It turns out that what he really needs to solve that fire mystery is a Companion and he's Chosen by Cymry. Seriously, it's just like the story of Mags all over again. I want NEW STORIES, Mercedes Lackey.  I want NEW MAGIC. It was a fun book to read and I always like hanging out in Valdemar and it was nice to see Alberich again. But, you know, this orphan boy story whose problems are all solved by being Chosen is sort of old hat. Surely we don't have to recycle stories in a world with magic?!

3/5 stars 

Lines of note:
"People'll be skatin', makin' snow stachoos an' forts, 'avin' snowball fights."
"Kids?" Skif asked. "Littles?"
Raf laughed. "Na, growed people, too! Graybeards, even! I seed 'em!"
Skif could only shake his head at the notion of full-grown adults having the leisure to pursue snow sports. (page 97)

You know what? It is sort of rare that I take the time to just goof off in the snow. It's very much about clearing the snow or whatever. 

Why would anyone bother to steal the collection of silver miniatures, anyway? They were unique and irreplaceable, yes, but you'd never be able to sell them anywhere, they were too recognizable, and you wouldn't get a fraction of their value if you melted them down. Oh, a thief could hold them for random, Skif supposed, but he'd certainly be found out and caught. (page 177)

On my beloved podcast Let's Go to Court (RIP), Kristin was always interested in art heists and Brandi thought they were stupid for this very reason. What are you going to do with the Mona Lisa once you have it?

What I looked up:
raree shows (page 98) - a form of entertainment, especially one carried in a box, such as a peep show
horse sharper (page 248) - I assume it means a horse thief, but I can't find a definition that says so. 

Here's the context:
We've had a carnival trickster, a horse sharper, and a girl who pretended to be a witch, told fortunes which turned out to be correct ForeSight, but also took money for curses she never performed...We've had a former assassin. We've even had a spy. (page 248)

Hat mentions (why hats?):
Skif had never seen the hair before - stark black with thick streaks of white running through it - because it had been hidden under a hood or a hat. (page 231)
The Palace seamstresses bespoke the goosedown for featherbeds, the swansdown for trimming, and the tail feathers for hats. (page 292)

Wednesday, March 26, 2025

The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman


The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman is shelved under romance and chicklit in Goodreads, but I don't know if I'd say it's either...

Nina Hill is in her late twenties, works at a bookstore, has a cat named Phil, and covers her miserable existence by filling her days with fitness classes, book clubs, movie nights, and bar trivia. She is the only daughter of a single mother who travels the world as a photographer. Nina rarely leaves Los Angeles. She suddenly finds out that the father she never knew existed has died, left her something in his will, and that she has a whole bunch of extended family, including siblings. 

There's a lot going on here. 

And then Waxman overlays this with Nina trying to start a relationship with some guy whose name I can't remember from an opposing trivia team. A guy who doesn't have a planner or keep a calendar, doesn't read, and seems to only like Nina because she'll pay him attention. And somehow this boring loser is supposed to make this a romance novel?

AND. Let's talk about this. Nina is supposed to be a reader, but we never see or hear about her reading. She's super obnoxious about trivia (IMAGINE trying to have a meal with this woman - every time you started a topic she'd derail it into some inane piece of trivia even she thinks is boring, but somehow she thinks you need to know that she knows) and honestly I feel like that could have been enough, but Waxman is like "she's a reader and that's how she knows all the trivia," but Nina is so busy that she has to have Thursday night set aside to read. Excuse me? If your entire identity is tied up in being a reader, you read all the damn time (ask me how I know). 

AND. Let's talk about Nina's identification as an introvert. I'm not suggesting that introverts never leave their house, but introverts generally do not like to leave their houses. We will, of course, but then it takes us days to recover and be willing to go out again. My husband and I joke about how I spent a few hours with a friend a couple of weekends ago (a friend! a lovely person! doing something very low-key! I enjoyed it!) and then needed the entire week and the next weekend to recuperate. I have a limit that I will do one fitness class a week after work and one social event on the weekends. That is my max. I'm literally not over here filling in every second of my schedule. I suspect Waxman is an extrovert. 

AND. I don't understand if Nina is smart or not. Ha ha! My boss is always late with the rent and we hide from the landlord. That's super normal, right? (WTF, Nina?) Ha ha! My father, who I've heard was quite wealthy, left me something in the will. If it were me, I'd be wondering what he left me. Money? Jewelry? A letter? NOTHING. SHE NEVER THINKS ABOUT IT. What is wrong with her? When she asks her mother about her father, she never seems to think about whether or not this discussion will make her mother uncomfortable or bring up unpleasant thoughts. 

Predictable ending - you knew the ending as soon as the will was mentioned, right? And the boyfriend (Tom? Tim? Tad? Tyler? Theo? - okay, fine, I looked it up - his name is Tom)? We know they're going to be together in the end, but is that what we want? Doesn't he seem like an utter douche canoe who is super boring and doesn't communicate well in arguments and pouts like a child? So many red flags, there, Nina. Get out. Or maybe don't. Maybe you two people deserve each other.

Don't read this book. 2/5 stars - I have a lot of regrets about finishing it. When will I ever learn to DNF? 

Lines of note:

How many people do we encounter every day who might be related to us, or simply people who might have become the best friends we ever had, or our second spouses, or the agents of our destruction, if we only spent more than seconds with them? (location 1979)

This is an interesting question. Every person we interact with has an entire life. How many of those lives would fit in with yours?

“He wasn’t right for me, anyway. He didn’t read.” 
“Reading isn’t the only thing in the world, Nina.” 
“It’s one of only five perfect things in the world.”
“And the other four are?” 
“Cats, dogs, Honeycrisp apples, and coffee.” (location 2160)

First, she ends up with a jerk who doesn't read in the end. Second, what are your five perfect things? 

Libraries were her favorite places, and when she traveled, she would start out at the local library, thus immediately identifying herself as a total nerd. (location 2202)

I also like to go to libraries when I'm on vacation. BUT! There's a whole thing in here about how she never leaves LA, but then she talks about traveling all the time. FIGURE IT OUT, WAXMAN.

Phil was perched on top of the gate, watching them. Nina nodded. 
“I do. He’s mine.”
 “What’s his name? He’s judging me.”
 “His name is Phil, and actually,” said Nina, “he’s judging me.” (location 2434)

Cats should not live outdoors in cities. It is unsafe for them and they are killers of birds and small mammals. #teamphil #ninaisaterribleperson

The new dog had his tail tucked and his eyes were grave. (location 2543)

Welcome to my house. My dog is like this a good 20% of her life. Last night when I was making human dinner after feeding animal dinner, Hannah came up to me with her tail tucked and sad eyes and bumped my hand for pets. After petting her for about ten seconds, I got back to dinner. Then she went over to the backdoor and nudged the doorknob, so I opened the door and went outside with her. Her tail started wagging and she was content to just go over to a pinecone and sniff it. She played me like a fiddle. 

Parents get stuck in the amber of childhood, right? Whenever my parents visit, I feel myself becoming a cranky fourteen-year-old. (location 3221)

I instantly revert to a snotty teen when I'm around my sister. I try not to, but...

What I looked up:

“She also likes those drawings by Hirschfeld, you know, where he hid the name Nina somewhere in the picture . . . (location 2799)

This was vaguely familiar to me, but I couldn't quite place it. I have already looked up Hirschfeld before for a book review. Hirschfeld was an American caricaturist who was known for placing the name NINA in his drawings. Nina was his daughter and he started this practice after she was born.

Hat mentions (why hats?):

She said sockAH instead of soccer, or lollies instead of candy, but it wasn’t like she walked around in a hat with corks dangling from it. (location 249)

Nina reached Larchmont Boulevard, with its artisanal hat and cheese shops (two different shops; that would be a weird combination, especially in warm weather), and turned into her favorite café to grab a gluten-free low-fat bran muffin. (location 393)

Mr. Sarkassian was balding on top but with hair around the sides and back, like someone wearing a brown woolly hat with everything but the brim removed. (location 440)

“Backward hats, or, actually, any hats. I hate hats.” (location 707)

The hat store had a sale on berets. (location 1128)

“All right, young one,” said Liz, pulling on her battered Dodgers baseball hat. (location 1297)

Walking into a room full of strangers was about as comfortable for her as putting on a hat full of wasps and tugging it down firmly. (location 1594)

...and a large felt hat with a brim the size of Poughkeepsie. (location 3606)

...the California Quizzly Bears had also brought a sizable contingent of fans, who were wearing bear claw gloves and Smokey Bear hats. (location 3698)

She was wearing an entire grizzly bear head as a hat. (location 3718)

“Why doesn’t the Man with the Yellow Hat take his responsibility seriously?" (location 3833)

"The Man with the Yellow Hat is the victim." (location 3835)