Is it possible for someone to change? If someone has behaved poorly towards you and the ones you love in the not-too-distant past, if someone has behaved irresponsibly and sometimes cruelly, and if someone has shown no drive or ambition, can they change?
Are they more likely to change if there's a driving force for change? What if that catalyst is getting fired from a job? Or, they've been fired so many times that getting the axe is no longer a threat, what if their spouse leaves them? Or what if their spouse gets pregnant? What if their parents get into a horrible accident and they are charged with the caretaker role?
First of all, can they change? Second of all, even if they do change, will it be a permanent change? Is there anything that can be done to help nurture this change?
You can never tell what the catalyst is in advance. Some folks never change, and some do. And then there are always surprises. As far as nurturing the change, you can lead by example and ask questions and that is about it. Or so go my 2 cents on the topic.
ReplyDeleteBTW, you just described my brother.
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