Monday, May 25, 2026

Free: A Child and a Country at the End of History by Lea Ypi

Tobia introduced me to the Read Around the World challenge in which you attempt to read a book from every country in the world. This isn't a priority for me, but I have started a list and every month or two I'll try to read something off it. Free by Lea Ypi is something that wouldn't have landed on my radar had it not been for this challenge. Lea Ypi was born in Albania, so I guess I decided to start at the top. 
 

Lea is a young teen living in Albania in a Soviet-style socialist nation. She takes everything at face value, so finds discussions about politics in her family confusing since everyone is seeming to talk in code. The early 1990s brought democratic elections and Albania attempting to form closer ties to the west. What happened was a rise in pyramid schemes and by 1997 there is a civil war that required international intervention. In Lea's life, she's attempting to finish high school while the sound of Kalashnikovs echoes through the city. Her mother and brother flee to Italy, leaving her with her father. Meanwhile, Lea's just a typical teenage girl, trying to figure out who she is and what she wants her life to look like, although the future looked bleak and hard to imagine.

I think I have been utterly ruined by fiction. I generally find memoir underwhelming. And this was the case in this book. The events Ypi went through are unimaginably harsh and scary, but I was still mostly underwhelmed. This is obviously a me issue. It was neither minute enough about the domestic details (what did their meals look like? how did they do laundry) nor was her unreliable teenage narrator self detailed enough about the political environs to invest me in the outcome of national events. I mostly just read this book in a sort of trance, trying to figure out what was going on, even though I knew nothing about Albanian history and finally had resort to looking it up in Wikipedia to figure out what was going on. 

If you're into this sort of memoir, you'll like this. If not, you can probably skip it. 

3/5 stars

Lines of note:

In my family, everyone had a favourite revolution, just as everyone had a favourite summer fruit. My mother's favourite fruit was watermelon, and her favourite revolution was the English one. Mine were figs and Russian. My father emphasized that he was sympathetic to all our revolutions but his favourite was the one that had yet to take place. As to his favourite fruit, it was quince -  but it could choke you when it wasn't fully ripe, so he was often reluctant to indulge. (page 88-89)

There were a number of funny moments in this book and this whole fruit/revolution thing did make me chortle. 

Worrying was the default condition of his existence, a predicament as natural as beathing and sleeping. (page 190)

I felt personally attacked by this sentence. 

One might killed by a car, like my classmate Dritan, who was walking by the beach one evening and got run over by a young man teaching himself to drive his uncle's Audi. Or one might disappear without a trace, like Sokrat, Besa's father, who suffered from a limp and worked with a dinghy. Each night, he helped smuggle people to Italy, then returned to sleep in his bed, except for the night he didn't. And all sorts of small accidents could happen to you, like hitting a broken lamppost on a dark street while walking or falling into a manhole whose cover had just been stolen for its steel. Or one could be harassed all the way home by hungry stray dogs. Or it could be drunken men, or boys placing bets on how girls would respond to catcalling. (page 216)

I always look back fondly at the 1990s. In the US, there was no concern about war, the biggest scandal was Clarence Thomas and the Coke bottle and if Bill Clinton had indeed had sex with that woman. But reading this does make you realize that your position at birth is just an accident. 

Things I looked up:

"If" by Rudyard Kipling - Here's a link to this poem. 

Hat mentions (why hats?):

fat top hat (page 76)

I liked the sun hat. (page )

cardboard hats (page 97)

bags with hats and kites (page 98)

worn a hat (page 126)

the hat was probably still hanging (page 126)

straw hat (page 201)

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Have you read a book by an Albanian author before? 

Saturday, May 23, 2026

May 2026 Photo A Day: Week Three

Saturday, May 16 - It's too hot for Hannah. We are literally less than a block from our house and she just can't do it anymore. 


Sunday, May 17 - Anne and Birchie came over to visit! They bribed Hannah with chicken and we worked on a jigsaw puzzle. And Hannah and I are not as good at doggy selfies as Birchie is.

She looks so worried!

Monday, May 18 - For exciting reasons, I cannot attend my regular fitness class tomorrow after work. My fitness instructor holds a class at a neighboring town on Mondays, though, so I left work early and attended that one instead. There was a yellow goat at the park where we were throwing ourselves about.

Tuesday, May 19 - I went to an author event with Sarah and her friend Shannon at the Madison Public Library. It was so much fun!


Wednesday, May 20 - Listen, friends. An old dog does not want to go for a walk. An old dog wants to lay down in the sun. 

Photo credit: Dr. BB

Thursday, May 21 - THIS CAT. I can't tell you how much I want to squeeze her because of her cuteness. 

Photo credit: Dr. BB

Friday, May 22 - This area was underwater last month! I love how grumpy Hannah looks in all these photos. She's SO SERIOUS. I frequently wonder what it would be like to have a goofy dog. 


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When's the last time you were at the library? Took a picture of a dog?

Friday, May 22, 2026

Five for Friday #44: The Happy Things Edition

There will not be one unhappy item in this entire list. NOT ONE. You will not bring me down, 2026!

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1) Puzzling - Last weekend, Birchie and Anne came to see Hannah and Zelda hang out with me in my town. The most exciting thing I could offer them on a  rainy Sunday was to do a jigsaw puzzle on my dining room table. We did a bit of it and then my husband took over.

Tuesday morning



Wednesday morning

 Wednesday evening

Bonus puzzle photo: When I put puzzles away, I separate the edge pieces. Do you do that?

Thursday night

2) San photos - There is a lot of construction happening in my town. They're putting in fiber optic cables or something. That means there's a lot of digging and marking of where underground lines and pipes are located on the ground. Meanwhile, I keep spotting spray paint that reads SAN and immediately think of San. You're welcome for this little peek into my daily walks.
 



3) Book event - On Tuesday, I met with Sarah and her friend Shannon to go to an author Q&A with Caro Claire Burke, the author of Yesteryear. Then we went out to eat tacos! I didn't get home until ten, which is insane for a school night! It was so much fun.



4) Snail mail - I have been so remiss in thanking everyone for sending me snail mail! Postcards! Little notes of encouragement! I really appreciate it. And look what Tobia sent me! These little purple bracelets make me so happy. I wear them every single day.



5) Mystery book reveal - Dulcie sent me an email with the reveal of the mystery book from the giveaway I did a few weeks ago!




I've never even heard of that book!

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Anyone read Kitty Karr? Do you like jigsaw puzzles? What do you consider "late" on a worknight? 

Happy long weekend to my American friends. Happy regular weekend to my international peeps!

Thursday, May 21, 2026

Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke

The current It Book of the Interwebs is Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke.

We're introduced to Natalie, a tradwife influencer who lives with her husband and their children on an immaculate farm in Idaho. We quickly learn that the "flawless Christian mother" image Natalie shows the world is nearly the opposite. She has nannies, farm help, and her perfect marriage is a sham. Natalie knows if The Angry Women who read her blog are just jealous, but if they knew the truth, that jealously would no longer be there. 

But one day Natalie wakes up and it's 1855. She's still married to Caleb, but her children, while familiar, are not her children. Her house has the same bones as the house she's used to, but there's no heating, no running water, and no modern electricity. Is this a hoax (a reality show?)? Is this some sort of paranormal, karmic retribution for Natalie's modern life? How can she get back to where she wants to be?


Excellent premise, but this one was a miss for me. 

3/5 stars

Lines of note:

That’s the thing about being a mother and a wife and an influencer, all at the same time: it’s basically like breastfeeding three babies simultaneously. Like seducing three lovers at once. (location 155)

Gross.

This is a completely obvious notion, when you take a moment to really think about it, but most people don’t take a moment to really think about anything. Most people are morons. (location 223)

See how mean she is?

There comes a point in every marriage when a woman realizes that the man she married is a freak. This is inevitable. It cannot be avoided. (location 2018)

NONONONO. This is not true. 

Hat mentions (why hats?)

cowboy hat(s) (location 322, 3274, 5351)

 tipped his hat (location 336)

throws his hat to the ground (location 663)

she crocheted baby sweaters, socks, and hats (location 711)

 tips off his cowboy hat (location 1349)

 wide-brimmed hat (location 3016, 3027)

grabs his hat to keep it from flying away (location 3243)

sewing little hats (location 3420)

work on these hats (location 3452)

“And you’ve been sewing hats for chickens,” she spits back. (location 3458)

setting his hat onto the hook (location 3476)

custom hats (location 4705)

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For those of you who read this book, do you think I'm off base here? I'm pretty sure lots of you do, based on the rave reviews I've been reading. 

Wednesday, May 20, 2026

We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson

We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson is a modern classic. I recently referred to The Road as a modern classic and everyone asked me in the comments what I meant by that. After some pondering, I think of a modern classic that was written since 1950 (or so)  that has had long-reaching impacts. It could have been a bestseller, but not all bestsellers are classics.  Girl, Wash Your Face was a bestseller, but it didn't change the world, you know? Think The Color Purple, The Kite Runner, or The Joy Luck Club

“Merricat, said Connie, would you like a cup of tea? Oh no, said Merricat, you’ll poison me. Merricat, said Connie, would you like to go to sleep? Down in the boneyard ten feet deep!”


Anyway, Mary Katherine "Merricat" Blackwood lives with her sister Constance and her Uncle Julian in their estate outside of town. When Merricat has to go in to town to purchase food and other goods, she is ostracized. We learn that, outside of the three surviving family members, all of the others died under mysterious circumstances. Constance was tried for their murder, but was acquitted. But their cousin Charles appears and tries to change things. What's going to happen to the Blackwoods?

Look, it's creepy. Shirley Jackson can write a gothic novel like no other, complete with a black cat named Jonas. You don't really know what happened to that family and if one of the survivors did murder the others, why would they do that? The sentences are crafted so well - I was listening to the audiobook and for the first chapter, I was tempted to just mark every sentence to come back to later. Here's an online version if you just want to read the first five pages. 

First paragraph:

My name is Mary Katherine Blackwood. I am eighteen years old, and I live with my sister Constance. I have often thought that with any luck at all I could have been born a werewolf, because the two middle fingers on both my hands are the same length, but I have had to be content with what I had. I dislike washing myself, and dogs, and noise. I like my sister Constance, and Richard Plantagenet, and Amanita Phalloides, the death-cup mushroom. Everyone else in my family is dead. 

Okay, this paragraph is amazing and the foreshadowing is amazing. 

But here's the thing. It's a really chilly story. I feel as if I don't really understand Constance or Merricat or Charles. Because it's all gothic-y and mysterious and they don't really talk about their feelings and what happened in the past, we don't truly understand motivations. I assume, based on the way Julian and Charles are, that the women in the Blackwood family were treated poorly. On they day the rest of the family was killed, Merricat was sent to bed without dinner. It's not too far a leap to assume Constance and Merrikat were neglected/abused/treated poorly. But? Does that explain what happened? Why did the town turn on the family so suddenly? 

Maybe it's fine for what it is. It's 150 pages and every sentence glitters. But I sort of wanted it to be more? 

3/5 stars

Lines of note:

The last time I glanced at the library books on the kitchen shelf, they were more than five months overdue and I wondered whether I would have chosen differently if I had known that these were the last books, the ones which would stand forever, on our kitchen shelf.  (Chapter 1)

I honestly feel that way about the books I had from the library when it closed during the pandemic. If I had known they were the ONLY books I'd have for an extended period of time, would I have chosen differently?

I disliked eating anything while people were looking at me, so I had my tea afterwards in the kitchen. (Chapter 2)

There are SO MANY people in my life who don't like people to eat while other people watch. 

Hat mentions (why hats?):

put a hat or a handkerchief or a glove on the dresser (Chapter 5)

wore a hat proclaiming him "CHIEF" (Chapter 8)

anonymous men in hats and raincoats (Chapter 8)

his hat saying "CHIEF" (Chapter 8)

set his hat down on the front seat (Chapter 8)

top coat and a hat (Chapter 10)

a hat made of bird feathers (Chapter 10)

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Have you read Shirley Jackson? Do you like a good gothic story?

Saturday, May 16, 2026

May 2026 Photo A Day: Week Two

Saturday, May 9 - The only photo I took all day long! Sheesh. I let Hannah loose in the football field behind the middle school. She stayed when I told her to, but refused to actually look at me to acknowledge it. 

Sunday, May 10 - Is Hannah spoiled well cared for? Well, the coffee table usually sits where Hannah is laying, but Hannah wanted to be in the sunny spot, so my husband moved the table for her. If your dog doesn't get this level of care, I don't know how your dog survives. 

Monday, May 11 - Look at my baby. She's a sloppy, sloppy eater and drinker. Did you know that? She makes ten times the mess Hannah does. We must clean her mat and bowls about ten times a day. BUT LOOK AT HER FACE. I think she's the cutest thing on the entire planet. 


Tuesday, May 12 - I was scouting out the riverwalk on my morning walk with Hannah because we were having our fitness class later on the day and I wanted to let the instructor know if it was safe to use. It's dry from the start to the end! Silty and sandy, but dry. 


Wednesday, May 13 - Look, friend, Hannah is having a time of it and I'm exhausted. This is what you get today - "notes" I took in our team meeting.


Thursday, May 14 - Hannah! Look at me! Hannah look at me! Hannah: No.


Friday, May 15 - Just a photo of my cat perfectly placed in the sunniest place she could be. She's basically perfect. 


All but one of these photos is of my pets. Maybe I'm obsessed with them? Should I join a support group? 

Do you doodle in meetings? What's your preferred doodle? 


Friday, May 15, 2026

Five for Friday, Edition #43: It's Way More Than Five

Is anyone surprised that this is going to start out happy and light and then the last two bullet points will be downers? Don't be surprised. This is 2026 in America. 

1) My co-workers has been in treatment for breast cancer. She'd done chemo, surgery, and TODAY IS HER LAST DAY OF RADIATION!!! Woot woot! She has been such a real light during this whole thing and she's wonderful and super and if you could just think of her today and send a smile out into the world, that would be amazing. 

2) The riverwalk is open! In just a few weeks it went from this:


To this:


It's now so dry I feel like I might set fire to the grass just by walking on it, but that's the price you pay for living in Wisconsin, I guess.

3) So, dogs can be jerks, you know? One of the things Hannah likes to do on walks is antagonize other dogs who are in their houses, behind a fence, or tied out. And she doesn't just walk by, but she'll stop to linger - to pee, to sniff, to just stare in the middle distance. I try to coax her to move along, but I have a "no yank unless it's an emergency" policy with Hannah, so other than moving myself in the direction I want to go and reminding her that we live in a society where it's not nice to be mean to others, I generally just let this happen. 

Am I jerk because of this? Particularly when it's (hypothetically) 5:47am and we're walking down a neighborhood street and one particularly loud golden retriever behind a fence sets off another unseen dog somewhere else and then another unseen dog? Is it my responsibility to maybe use the yank and get Hannah out of sight of the OG Barking Dog? We DO live in a society after all.

4) I mentioned very briefly in my April spending report that I had purchased an advent calendar. J texted me an advent calendar asking me if that was the one I had ordered. AND IT WAS. I hadn't said which one it is - mostly because I want it to be a surprise for my husband - and she KNEW. She's psychic. I am both kind of scared of J now (is she a mind reader?!) and impressed that she knows me that well. 

5) The people in the house across the street from our house used to be a nice couple with the friendliest chihuahua I've ever met. But now? That house is a source of amusement and consternation to us. A new family moved in and there are six? seven? eight? people who live there. At least one adult man and adult woman. At least two tween/young teen girls - we see three regularly, but at least five or six are repeaters. Maybe a tween/teen boy? He might just visit a lot. And then there is one (maybe two) young women who are of driving age. And then my husband said he saw an elderly couple, but maybe they were just visitors. ANYWAY. They moved in an immediately put up a trampoline, which the tween/teen girls use daily. 

But here's the rub. They have a whole flock of chickens AND at least four dogs (three goldens and a black and white goofball). AND I THINK THEY HAVE AN OUTDOOR CAT. 

(Cats should not live outdoors in the city. They kill wildlife and stress out wild animal populations. Cats' lives are much shortened because of cars and predators. And don't get me started on the spread of PARASITES. Grr.)

Anyway. Dr. BB and I are fascinated by this house. We're also pretty sure they're in violation of city regulations about the number of animals they can have. I mean, I'm actually positive they are:

No family shall keep any swine, horses, cattle, sheep, goats or mules, nor more than two rabbits, three dogs, three cats, six chickens, two mink, two ducks, two geese, two doves or two turkeys on any property within the corporate limits of the city; except, the total number of animals, fowl or pets that a family may keep under this section shall not exceed a combination of six. 

Whatever. I'm not going to turn them in, but can you imagine HOW CROWDED it must be in there?

6) At work we had these stickers we were supposed to give away to students who came to advising appointments.


I rolled my eyes, but when I started offering them to students, they took them. I had to start going to my co-workers' offices to get more.

But then I remembered that I had a series of dog stickers. Bestest Friend sent these to me and I had them in a drawer in my office. 


My students are obsessed with these stickers. No student who I have suggested look at the dog stickers has declined. Only one student has not taken one. 

Stickers are a good currency for college-aged students. Who knew?

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If you just want the Happy Things, stop reading here. It's going to get not so happy.

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7) Poor Hannah. Eating the cat food has really messed with her GI tract. Dr. BB came home on Wednesday to a mess in the house - the dining room rug may have to be replaced and she was clearly scratching at the front door trying to get out. We've had her on two courses of metronidazole, which has firmed up her stools temporarily, but it clearly hasn't fixed whatever it is long term. 

I called the vet on Wednesday afternoon and they said a vet tech would call, but they never did. So I did something I hate to do. I texted our vet's personal cell. Our vet is in my book club, we are actual friends, and I have moved vet offices to stay with her, but I hate to take advantage of it. 

Anyway, she's back on a long-term antibiotic, which sucks because it will depress her appetite and we're already dealing with Zelda's low appetite. But at least we have a plan.

8) My husband's friend group from high school is pretty tight, but one or two of the women have slipped off our radar. One of them literally has THIRTEEN children (Catholics, AMIRITE?) and the other had a falling out with someone else in the friend group and just stopped showing up to stuff. Anyway. The person with the falling out? Her husband just died. He had something called myotonic dystrophy. He wasn't even fifty. 

My husband wants to go to the funeral today, but because someone has to be with Hannah all the time, I don't think I can go with him. 

2026 is not being a very nice year, you know?

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Should I do an emergency yank with Hannah when she's setting off other dogs? Are you scared of J's clairvoyance? Do you want a dog sticker?