Monday, November 17, 2025

Update #2: The Silent Auction Wins

A few weeks ago we went to a fundraiser at the local community center. I think I've mentioned in the past that I have never actually paid to go to these fundraisers, but there's a board member who always pays for my tickets. Well, that happened AGAIN. Now that I not underemployed anymore, I can actually probably afford to pay for my own tickets, but this year I just forgot to buy them (I am overwhelmed by other things, as you can probably guess) and she emailed me that she put our names down for tickets. I am grateful to her, but I really need to start paying my own way.

ANYWAY, because of this, I felt obligated to actually donate money while I was there and one of the things I sort of went crazy on was the silent auction. 

I won two items. 

1) A monthly scone subscription! Every month I get three scones from a local bakery delivered to a small business just down the street. I get to choose the flavors and then just go pick them up. HOW FUN. My first order came in while I was in Michigan, so Dr. BB picked them up for me and I had a scone for breakfast for three days when I came back!

Blueberry lemon in November!

2) A decorative, handmade plate. Do I need this plate? No. Do I have any way to display this plate? No. Did I bid on it thinking someone would certainly outbid me? Yes. 


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Have you ever won a silent auction item? Did you ever win when you thought someone else would bid higher than you?

Friday, November 14, 2025

Update #1: The Great Car Search of 2025

I have a series of updates that I originally thought would be a good Five for Friday post, but that post got unwieldy and long. So I'm going to do shorter posts with updates and then resume my regular sporadic posting about books and nonsense.

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We have been test driving cars for months. On one hand, we're in a good position because it's not like our old Hyundai is actually out of commission. On the other hand, we'd like to actually make a decision before the snow falls. (NOTE: Snow fell last Saturday. We're already past our self-imposed deadline.)

Here's the situation. We technically have a two car garage, but only if those cars are pretty narrow. Right now we drive two compact cars and we're still squeezing in and out, so we can maybe extend the width of a new car by three or four inches, but then it's going to be super duper tight/impossible. We currently have a 2010 Hyundai Elantra that has served us well, but is on its last tires. We also have a 2019 VW Golf Sportwagen. We don't have  his and her cars - we both drive the cars in equal amounts. The VW is basically for Hannah since she fits nicely in the back. 

In 2019, when we bought our Sportwagen, I essentially fell in love with it from the test drive. If they still sold Sportwagens in the US, we'd just buy another one. Unfortunately, 80% of the market in this country - man do I wish I was buying a car in Europe - is pickups and SUVs. Sedans are a rarity and compact sedans are even rarer. And, honestly, there aren't any wagons sold in our price range anymore - if we want a wagon that isn't electric, we're looking at Audi ($45,000+), BMW ($100,000+), Mercedes ($76,000+), and Volvo ($70,000+). Would I love a Mercedes or Volvo wagon? YES. Is that price range appropriate for us? NO. 

Wagons are great for our lifestyle. We can put the dog in the back and it's perfect for when we go on road trips and there's a place for us to put our cooler. But wagons are so expensive that we eventually settled on test driving the few remaining compact cars left on the market because, after all, we're replacing a sedan. 

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The logistics of life are hard, too. We would ideally like to test drive these cars in the daylight. That leaves weekdays off the table since the sun has set by the time we get home from work these days. Most dealerships are only open on Saturdays on weekends. But our Saturdays are often filled with non-car shopping things. So, as you can imagine, this has made all of this a bit more protracted than is ideal.

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I want to fall in love with a car again. Or at least I want one of us to fall in love with a car again. Here's what we've test driven so far.

VW Jetta - Look, it's fine. It's a safe car. If someone put a Jetta in our garage right now, we'd be fine with that. But that's it. Just fine. Also, it doesn't come with a spare tire or floor mats and I was sort of annoyed by the nickel and diming situation. 

Subaru Outback - This is an SUV crossover that sometimes gets called a wagon. In the 2026 model year, they're truly going to be an SUV because they are moving up its chassis size, so this might be our last chance if we want a Subaru, or frankly, anything close to a wagon in the future. But do we want one? It's big, barely able to fit in our garage. It accelerates like a dog and is no fun to drive. It's a little on the high side of our price range. It's FINE. The financing deals are great. It has all wheel drive. We also test drove a Legacy (sedan) and it was also fine. We *seem* like we should be Subaru people, but I don't know if we really are. 

Honda - We test drove a Civic and an Accord. We test drove Hondas in 2019 when we brought the Sportwagen and I almost had a panic attack because I was so claustrophobic in them. Nothing has changed. Those cars are like caves. I know Honda has its fans, but I am not one of them. (We drive compact cars and I'm used to tight spaces. I was reeeeeally annoyed with the car salesperson who asked what I expected since we were looking at smaller cars. Well, Bob, I guess I was expecting you not to have your interior fabric in dark colors and the windows tinted so it seems like we're belowground.)

Hyundai - We test drove an Elantra (an updated version of our beloved Hyundai) and a Sonata. Frankly, the cars are ugly and look like they've already been in an accident with weird sharp juts and angles. There's a weird gearshift thing. They are fine to drive, but not very exciting. The warranty is very good.

Mazda 3 - I liked this car a lot more than my husband. It's zippy and fun. The financing deals aren't great and my husband thought the engine whined a bit more than he would like. The road noise bothered Dr. BB a lot, too. The warranty is shit. There is a 2026 model that has AWD and we might test drive that one, but then the price isn't as good because it's a new model year. 

Toyota - We test drove a Prius. I refuse to tell you how excited I was about the Prius. I thought it was going to solve all our problems. The sightlines are sort of terrible. The regular rearview mirror has a very limited range, so you can turn on this newfangled camera thing and then you have a wider view, but it also made me nauseous. This one had a whine in the engine that irked me and the turn signals made a sound that was like nails on a chalkboard to me. I know that seems silly, but if I had to listen to that noise multiple times a day, I might not survive the drive. 

Genesis 2025 G70 AWD - Are you familiar with Genesis? It's the Hyundai luxury brand. It comes with the Hyundai warranty and this one is deeply discounted, which is the only reason it's vaguely at the upper-end of our price range. My husband really likes this one and I'm pretty sure we'll probably end up getting it. 

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What's next?

Well, the Genesis got sold, so that's off the table.

We're going to test drive an Outback with a better engine. My husband thinks that's what's going to make me fall in love with it.

We're going to test drive a 2026 AWD Mazda 3. 

So the choice is probably the Outback and the Mazda 3. I'll be sure to let you know when and if we figure any of it out.

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Anyone want to just tell me what to do? Do you like car shopping? Do you make decisions a lot more quickly than we do?

Wednesday, November 12, 2025

False Witness by Karin Slaughter

I'm plugging away at the Pop Sugar Reading Challenge even though there's no way I'm going to finish it. False Witness by Karin Slaughter is a book that features a character with chronic pain AND the audiobook was available immediately for me on the Libby app when I was doing yet another road trip. Do we think Karin Slaughter is her real name or a pseudonym? 


In this thriller, Leigh and Calli are sisters. They are close as they both survived a childhood with their abusive mother. When they are young teens, they do something (sort of) bad 

(note: this is a morally grey area if you think what they did was bad and I honestly don't think it was, but I don't want to give away spoilers)

and they get away with it without any legal consequences. That is until years later when Leigh is a lawyer and Calli is a heroin addict and their past comes back to haunt them. Thriller things ensure.

Look, this is a good book. It's fast-paced and well-written. But maybe, just maybe, listening to a story about sisters who truly love one another and are devoted to each other was not the right choice for me at this exact moment in time. (If you're new around here, I have a tumultuous relationship with my sister, my mother died earlier this year, and so everything surrounding my family of origin is difficult.) ANYWAY. I found some scenes really hard to listen to. Really hard. There's graphic (GRAPHIC) depictions of sexual violence; violence violence, including guns; child abuse and neglect; pandemic stuff; and drug abuse. This is not for the faint of heart and I'm slowly coming to the realization that perhaps I *am* the faint of heart. 
 
4/5 stars, but be forewarned

Things I looked up:

Vince Dooley (Spring 2021 - Chapter 1) - an American college football coach. He was the head coach of the Georgia Bulldogs from 1964 to 1988, as well as the University of Georgia's (UGA) athletic director from 1979 to 2004.

viviparous (Spring 2021 - Chapter 4) - there are two definitions, one in zoology and one in botany

  • (of an animal) bringing forth live young that have developed inside the body of the parent.
  • (of a plant) reproducing from buds that form plantlets while still attached to the parent plant, or from seeds that germinate within the fruit. 

Hat mentions (why hats?): 

his hat in his hand (Spring 2021 - Chapter 10)

colorful hat on her head (Spring 2021 - Chapter 11)

his hat in his hands (Summer 2005)

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Are you the faint of heart? Do you read a lot of thrillers?

Monday, November 10, 2025

CBBC Week Five: The Joy Luck Club Wrap-Up

Past discussions:
Week One: Part I
Week Two: Part II
Week Three: Part III
Week Four: Part IV

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What were your overall thoughts on this book? 

Here's what I think:
  • The POVs were too similar so it was impossible to keep the characters straight. The fact that the POV changed in every chapter made it even worse. 
  • I didn't want to spend time in this world. The people were mean, the subject was heavy, and I was just not interested in being there.
  • I thought this book was graphic and gross. It wasn't just the food descriptions, although that didn't help.
  • The writing was both elliptical and unclear and also heavy handed at times. There were times she was sort of oblique about what was going on (see: the watermelon scene and the two sentence abortion mention in "Waiting Between the Trees") and other times when her use of imagery and metaphor hit you over the head. I don't know. I didn't love the writing style. 
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Pop culture:

There's a 1993 movie starring Tsai Chin, Kieu Chinh, Lisa Lu, France Nuyen, Rosalind Chao, Lauren Tom, Tamlyn Tomita, and Ming-Na Wen. I've heard of none of these people. I bet no one is shocked to learn that I have not watched the movie, but the plot seems to follow the the book fairly closely. A few differences:
  • In the movie, Lena and Harold get divorced and Lena has a new relationship.
  • Rose and Ted get back together in the movie.
Has anyone seen the movie? 
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TJLC questions to ponder:

1) Which of the characters did you identify with the most? Why?

2) While the book has been critically received positively for the most part, there are some criticisms that the book leans into stereotypical portrayals of Asian men and some aspects of parenthood. Do you think this book challenges stereotypes or leans into them?

3) I hate to keep harping on the structure of this book, but why do you think Tan structured it this way using parables as framing devices for each section? What would have changed if the book had been told chronologically or through back-to-back chapters featuring mother and daughters?

4) What does the book tell us about American culture? About American immigrant culture? 

5) In the first chapter, June discusses her mother's take on the elements that make people:
Each person is made of five elements, she told me.
Too much fire and you have a bad temper. ..
Too little wood and you bent too quickly to listen to other people's ideas...
Too much water and you flowed in too many directions...

How do you think these elements are used to establish personality traits in the rest of the book? 

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Most iconic line poll:


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That's a wrap on 2025 CBBC! Thanks for joining and participating. 

Friday, November 07, 2025

October 2025: What I Spent

As a reminder, my husband pays the "big bills" like mortgage, phone, and electricity. I pay for groceries and the pets and that somehow evens things out.

We're still in a bit of weird area right now. There are expenses related to me dealing with my mother's estate and a tiny bit of travel. Let's dig in. It was a spendy month.

(In light of what's going on right now with the government shutdown and benefits being withheld, I struggled with whether or not this post was tone deaf. Maybe it is. If you don't want to read it, feel free to skip it. I understand.)


Eating out ($12.48, <1%) - I went out to lunch once. 

Entertainment ($12.65, <1%) - This is my Spotify subscription.

Personal care ($77.62, 1.9%) - Some supplements and daily face lotion.

Travel ($110.99, 2.8%) - One night in a hotel.

Miscellaneous ($126, 3.1%) - I had to pay for a death certificate* and then I bought some stuff for our non-food items for next Halloween.

Bills ($133.33, 3.3%) - Insurance for home and car.

Cars ($161.11, 4%) - I bought a lot of gas. I was driving a lot.

Fitness ($164.58, 4.1%) - I BOUGHT A NEW YOGA MAT. I finally decided I wanted a nice mat at home and school and I bought a new mat and a bag to go with it and I have no regrets. Now I have a bag with a whole yoga set at school and a smaller bag at home for going to the community center and back. 

Gifts ($173, 4.3%) - A birthday present for my nephew and a baby shower gift.

Savings ($200, 5%) - Lolz.

Clothes ($217.79, 5.4%) - My niece and I got permanent anklets together when we were at the local tourist town. Worth every penny.

Donations ($220, 5.5%) - My puny contribution to a fundraiser at the community center. Remind me and someday I'll tell you all about my silent auction victories.

Pets ($288.07, 7.2%) - Let's all just be excited that this number is so low. Yay! Confetti falls from the sky.

Groceries ($788.39, 19.7%) - We still gotta eat, you know?

Health ($1314.79, 32.9%) - My PT bills came due. What a sadness.

*I need an official death certificate and all I had was a copy. I asked the funeral home for an official one and they sent me another copy, which was not going to pass muster. Eventually I had to shell out to get one through a weird website. Anyway, I don't know how to classify a lot of these random types of expenses, so I'm throwing it in miscellaneous. 

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What is something fun you bought in October? Is it as fun as my anklet with Claire? 

Thursday, November 06, 2025

October 2025 Accountability Buddy

Wednesday, October 1

Thursday, October 2
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, October 3
Day off

Saturday, October 4
I'm counting the many many stairs I climbed at the water park and the many hours we spent messing about there.

Sunday, October 5
Day off

Monday, October 6
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Tuesday, October 7
30-minute fast walking workout with intervals - I am so unmotivated these days. I did this sort of begrudgingly. 

Wednesday, October 8
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime*
30-minute total body tabata (bodyweight) - So little motivation. At some point, I'm going to have to lift a weight. 

Thursday, October 9
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, October 10
Day off


Saturday, October 11
30-minute morning flow yoga video - I was visiting friends and had some visitors help me get into my Zen state. 

Sunday, October 12
37-minute total body strength - I lifted actual weights!

Monday, October 13 - Tuesday, October 14
Days off

Wednesday, October 15
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime
30-minute backchain with weights

Thursday, October 16
30-minute full body flexibility yoga

Friday, October 17
15-minute stretch class at lunchtime
35-minute tabata cardio - super sweaty!

Saturday, October 18
35-minute stretch and relax yoga

Sunday, October 19
30-minute sports cardio 
15-minute daily yoga stretch - What an interesting video. The instructor says nothing and transitions between poses are indicated by a bell. I kind of liked it. 

Monday, October 20
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime - The person who runs this wasn't there and no one else was, either, but the room was reserved, so I just did it by myself. 

If you can't predict what song will play if you click this link, you should reevaluate your pop culture consumption. 


Tuesday, October 21
Day off

Wednesday, October 22
30-minute total body workout
10-minute bedtime yoga

Thursday, October 23
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime - No one else was there again. I have a vague recollection about maybe the organizer being on vacation in Costa Rica now that I think about it. Oh, well. I did it. 



Friday, October 24 - Sunday, October 26
Off. I was vaccinated on Friday for so many things and I didn't have it in me. My stats this year are in the tank. *sigh*

Monday, October 27
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime. - Just me and one other person. It is confirmed that the yoga lady is on vacation. 

Tuesday, October 28
45-minute body blast at the community center after work - I've been on hiatus dealing with my leg, but my leg is never going to get better, so I'm back at it. 

If your friends agree to do a foot selfie, take them up on it. 

Wednesday, October 29
Day off

Thursday, October 30
30-minute yoga video at the student union during lunchtime

Friday, October 31
I spent most of the afternoon hauling my mother's stuff out of a barn and organizing it. Lots of moving around, bending, and wanting to murder my already dead parent. I'm counting this.

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Total: 23/31 (74.2%) of days
Cardio/strength: 11 days
Yoga: 10 days
Short stretch classes at lunchtime: 2 days

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That's too much yoga, but I'm going to take it. My stats for this year are decimated. Oh, well. I'll keep on keeping on, even though the perfectionist in me wants to say fuck it and stop working out this year because I'll never meet my goals.

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Were your workouts successful in October? What exercise is your favorite? 


Wednesday, November 05, 2025

October 2025 Books


10/6: Sweep in Peace (Innkeeper Chronicles #2) by Ilona Andrews (library ebook, 2015) - This series is joy. Now, in addition to the dog, there's a cat! This one dragged a little in the middle - it turns out I don't much care about intergalactic politics - but I did like it a lot. 4/5 stars

10/12: Klara and the Sun by Kazuo Ishiguro (library, 2021) - I didn't love it, but it was a great book club discussion. 3/5 

10/13: Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson (library audiobook, 1999) - I read this in 2010 and liked it a lot then. I like it less now, but that's because I want to shake every adult in the story and make them pay attention. I think Just Listen handles these themes better, but both books have their place in YA books about rape. 3.5/5 stars

10/21: The Hallmarked Man (Cormoran Strike #8) by Robert Galbraith (library, 2025) - This book was really boring. 2.5/5 stars

10/25: Her Many Faces by Nicci Cloke (library, 2025) - Good, fast-paced thriller. I enjoyed this one a lot. 4.5/5 stars

10/26: What I Talk About When I Talk About Running by Haruki Murakami translated by Phillip Gabriel (library audiobook narrated by Ray Porter, 2007) - Memoir about running and writing. Fine, I guess, but there's a lot of talk about body image and running. What did I expect? This one might be on me. 3/5 stars

10/31: Assistant to the Villain (Assistant to the Villain #1) by Hannah Nicole Maehrer (library audiobook narrated by Em Eldridge, 2023) - Girl stumbles into a new job, only to find out that The Villain is maybe not the bad guy. Fine, fine. Not earthshattering, but absolutely fine. 3/5 stars

Total: 7 books
Average star rating: 3.36/5 stars

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DNF

Silver Bay by Jojo Moyes - We'll never know if this book was actually boring or if I kept falling asleep because I was exhausted. The library took it back before I made it to the halfway point. DNF at 41%. 

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What's the best book you read in October?