Friday, April 24, 2026

Good People by Patmeena Sabit

Good People by Patmeena Sabit came up on Sarah's Bookshelves as a book Sarah had liked. 


The Sharaf family looks like a real American success story. Rahmat and his wife Maryam fled Afghanistan and settled in Virginia. After a series of false starts, Rahmat has a lot of business success and the family becomes wealthy. They have two older children, a girl named Zorah and a boy named Omer, and two young children. But is the family really happy?

The book is told through interviews with friends, neighbors, and witnesses, along with excerpts from journalists and investigators, who tell the story of what happens to the Sharaf family. Public opinion sways back and forth and the book tackles issues of Islamophobia, assimilation, the immigrant experience, and, maybe most importantly, generational conflict in immigrant families. 

It's a propulsive read. Since the chapters are short, you feel like you're making a lot of progress fast and you just want to keep flipping pages to find out what happens next. It's an impressive debut novel. 4.5/5 stars

The author bio:
Patmeena Sabit was born in Kabul a few years after the Soviet invasion of Afghanistan. When she was a month old, her family fled the conflict and became refugees in Pakistan, joining the millions of other Afghans that had sought refuge there. They later moved to the United States and she grew up in Virginia. She currently lives in Toronto.

Lines of note:
Early in the afternoon it started to snow, flakes as big as my hand...(location 356)
I'm immediately suspicious of this person. Flakes might be as big as a dime, but not as a whole hand. This narrator is obviously prone to exagerration.

...think they understood then that you can never know even your own children completely, that all the love and time and effort and wanting in the world doesn’t guarantee they’ll always do right and stay on the right path. (location 1262)
AND
When a child goes bad, the whole world holds a finger to the mother and father. But how can you know? Look how many children born into pure evil grow to walk as angels among men. And look how some of the best mothers and fathers come to raise the devil’s own seed. (location 1482)
We're having an issue in our family and there's a lot of questioning of the parenting and it's really hard. Maybe it is the parenting? Or maybe it would have happened no matter what? It's hard and it's hard to know how best to support everyone in the situation. 

You know, we actually care about each other around here. It’s not like New York or Chicago or any of those big places where some poor soul dies all alone in their apartment and no one knows until six months later when the landlord breaks down the door and finds a skeleton sitting on the sofa watching The Price Is Right. (location 2756)
Just another opportunity for me to plug The Lonely Life of George Bell

We put a little bottle of water next to his bed every night, but in the summer he won’t drink anything but cold water straight from the fridge. He calls it fresh water. (location 2933)
I do this same thing. I also call if fresh water. I do not like to be reflected in an eight-year-old child. 

...I’ve woken in the middle of the night a hundred times and gone downstairs and thought the coatrack near the door was a robber. (location 4018)
Who hasn't? 

Things I looked up:
cecropia moth (location 851) - North America's largest native moth; females have been documented with a wingspan of five to seven inches or more

lorikeets (location 853) - small-to-medium-sized parrots known for their bright, multicolored plumage and specialized brush-tipped tongues used to feed on nectar, pollen, and fruit. Native to Australia and surrounding regions, they are highly social, noisy birds that often form loud flocks and live for 10 - 20+ years

Hat mentions (why hats?):
I remember it was taking us a long time to get through a reading comprehension exercise because her little brother and sister had found some party hats and horns somewhere and they kept running in and screaming “Happy New Year!” and blowing them in our faces and running off again. (location 1079)

Our girls went shopping at the T.J. Maxx or Marshalls or JCPenney and threw their hats to the sky when they could do even that. (location 1516)

The rest of us would try on the old-lady hats and fur coats. (location 1748)

Well, he must have known that his hat had fallen into oil from the second she turned her hot eyes on him. (location 2036)

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I sort of wish I had listened to this on audio since I feel like hearing the different voices would have been helpful. Have you ever listened to an epistolary novel? Do you like it? 

15 comments:

  1. I'm in the queue for this one, so I shall report back whenever I get it (who knows when!)

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    1. I was surprised at how quickly I got it!

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  2. I've heard good things about this book! I definitely want to read it.

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    1. I liked it a lot. I think you will, too.

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  3. This seems like a book I would really enjoy! I'm putting it on hold now.

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  4. I have this on hold at the library. I've heard nothing but good things! I will read with eyes, though. I pretty much never listen to audiobooks. I have too many podcasts to keep up with!

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    1. My podcast listens have really dried up recently. I've been filling the gap with audiobooks and like it!

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  5. I listened to The Correspondent, and I LOVED it. I am going to put this audiobook on hold.

    Mulder used to call water from our BRITA filter ‘sweet water’. Is being compared to a nearly perfect dog better than being compared to an 8 year old?

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    1. Julie, what? The dog talked?

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    2. YES! He was very smart.

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    3. What, Allison? Lucy doesn't talk? We need to introduce her to Hannah who is a real chatterbox.

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  6. Am sold.
    We have family friend's having issues with their oldest son right now and it is wretched and heartbreaking and really hard to know how to help. I know that bad parenting can mess up a kid, but I've known many families where the kids were parented the same and some are fine and some are not. I have a pretty strong belief that nature can overcome nurture in many cases. I also think often of the saying 'you're only as happy as your saddest child', and I know how much it affects me when one of my kids is struggling even a little.
    I also have so much sympathy for the difficulties of generational conflict in immigrant families. It's hard enough knowing how to parent your kids to be successful when you've never had to move to an entirely different country and engage in a whole other culture and way of life.

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    1. It is hard when you can see kids going down bad paths. The parents are trying - I think - and the "thinking" part is what is getting so much flak from others. They aren't doing what *we* would do and that makes it hard. Egads. Parenting is not for the fainthearted.

      Yes, that last bit about the immigrant experience is really a focus of this book. The parents moved to the country for a better life for their children, but also sort of want their children to do what they would have done in their country of origin. It's so hard.

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  7. This narrator is def prone to exaggeration. Snowflakes the size of hands ? What on earth? This book sounds really interesting. Thanks for introducing it here.

    Oh goodness - the struggle with an adult or older child. Not easy. We had a very challenging situation with our oldest during the pandemic. He refused therapy and meds and we were all trapped in the house together. At times, we felt unsafe. We also felt like it was a private matter and when the time passed (which we hoped and prayed it would - and it did and he's doing so much better), we didn't want those dark days to shadow his efforts to live life. It was so incredibly hard and isolating. I agree, parenting is not for the fainthearted.

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